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I understand the generational thing. My parents weren’t shown love from their parents and so didn’t know how to show it to me. My mother tries in her own way (mainly through love heart emojis) and my dad doesn’t at all really. I know they love me and care about me. But they weren’t able to demonstrate that to me during my childhood and still to this day. What do I do about these conflicting feelings?

Hey fibro baddies, I just started on pregabalin for my widespread nerve pain and will be titrating up. I would love to hear if it has helped any of you and what dosage you take / any tips or advice you can give me? I know it can have horrendous side effects but here’s hoping it helps 🤞🏻

I def have CPTSD and nervous system / physical sensitivity etc. I always took things way too personally as a child. my parents were def emotionally neglectful but is me being an HSP causing my CPTSD? is it all my own fault?

Here’s a fun one for you. I had ~unaliving~ thoughts and my dad had to take me to emergency to try and get me admitted. He told my mother what happened and she was texting him the whole time. I tried to call her multiple times in the waiting room, we were there for hours. She refused to talk to me, claiming I would look too ‘well’ if they saw me talking on the phone. After the fact, never spoke to me about my suicidal thoughts, never expressed anything to me about that. Never tried to support me, tell me she loves me etc. Nothing. When I was seriously thinking about doing it I didn’t even think it was worth writing my parents a note.

I just got started on 25mg once per day and will hopefully be titrating up

My pain specialist finallyyyyy is giving me pregabalin after months of gatekeeping!! I have body-wide nerve pain. He prescribed 25mg once per day and has given me no titration schedule or anything. Does that mean I need to go through my GP or will they refuse to manage it since the pain specialist is the one that prescribed it?

My pain specialist just prescribed 25mg once per day for pain and has given me no titration schedule or anything. does that mean I need to go through my GP or will they refuse to manage it since the pain specialist is the one that prescribed it

I’m grateful for what she did give me but I hate her for what she didn’t.

I know they were likely raised by emotionally immature parents themselves. But even as a product of childhood emotional neglect I can’t ever imagine doing that to my child. I don’t have children yet but even thinking about it, my child would be as if 99% of my heart was living outside of me. How can anybody do that to their own child

I’m a woman in her 20s with complex widespread chronic pain and mental health issues + childhood trauma. So you probably already know how my appointments go. There are definitely a couple things I want to try next but won’t name them otherwise I’ll look like I’m drug seeking or relying on Dr Google.

Tips to get the doctor to take me seriously and actually try to help me? I swear these pain doctors are a special breed of just evil

I spent so long as a child wishing I was different. Wishing my family was like other families.

But the problem was never me. I was made to feel that way by my parents. Never told I was loved. Never comforted emotionally. Never respected as a child. My mother told me on multiple occasions that I made her life miserable / a misery. I know she was practically a single parent even though she was married and society in the early 2000s was likely very different than it is today.

But I think my parents liked the idea of having children rather than their actual children. I was never too much for anyone. I was a child with my own personality and quirks. A whole separate human to my parents. And I don’t think they ever got that. They tried their best to break the cycle from their parents and in some ways they did but in others they fell incredibly short. And people who grew up in a loving household will never understand what it’s like. From the outside it looks as though I had a perfectly normal upbringing.

I’m talking that deep-seated simmering rage. The anger where you just want to tell every person that ever hurt you exactly what they’ve done but you never will so as to keep the peace. I’m so fucking angry at the injustice of it all

I’m not officially diagnosed with fibromyalgia but my symptoms have a lot of similarities and I have a history of childhood trauma. wondering what treatment has been best for those who have body-wide nerve pain? I’m talking stabbing, searing, sunburn etc. My doctors are gatekeeping meds from me as if potential side effects are more important than not suffering every waking moment of my life :/

My memories of my childhood are few and far between which I attribute to living in a prolonged state of stress with little love or support. I never heard my parents say they love me or support me when I had a bad time. I do remember wishing my family was like other people‘s families, probably because we were dysfunctional I can imagine.

A distinct memory I do have was when my sibling and I were acting up and probably being little shits. My mother was frustrated and told us we made her life miserable. I’m not sure if that’s normal for parents to say that in moments of stress but I also remember my sibling and I saying that to each other during fights. So it must have been something my mother had said more than once for us to go and repeat that in a hurtful way. Anyone relate?

Spoke to my dad on the phone the other day. I said ‘I think my work is happy with me my boss says I work faster than him’. Dad said ‘well he’s the boss so he doesn’t need to work fast’.

Immediately I’m frustrated and don’t offer anything else up about how my job’s going. Mind you I work in an industry that values speed and efficiency and me working faster than my boss means that I am indeed valued very much.

I have fine but dense hair and since I was a teenager it has become wavy and frizzy. literally every wavy hair routine I’ve tried has left it looking soooo frizzy to the point where I just blow dry with heat to make it straight because I can’t deal with it. mousse and/or gel don’t help and neither does just air drying with no product. help!