Friday was my birthday. I slept in a bit, and when I woke up my wife popped in (she works from home) and gave me a choice: “Happy birthday! Do you want me to go pick up donuts, or do you want a blow job?”
(She had meetings and didn’t have time for both.)
I just thought it was one of the funniest sentences I had ever heard. I had to share the story.
Friday was my birthday. I slept in a bit, and when I woke up my wife popped in (she works from home) and gave me a choice: “Happy birthday! Do you want me to go pick up donuts, or do you want a blow job?”
(She had meetings and didn’t have time for both.)
I just thought it was one of the funniest sentences I had ever heard. I had to share the story.
My wife (Amy, 41f) and I (44m) occasionally send each other mirror selfies when we think we’re looking good. I’m not talking about naked pics, just fun ones. We hype each other up, it’s just a thing we do sometimes, especially when one of us is out of town.
When Amy was on a girls trip last month I sent her a pic of myself when the lighting in the bathroom looked good, and I was feeling good. I was shirtless in the pic, and I had cropped it about an inch or two below the waist - not showing anything, but it was somewhat teasing, you could see I was naked without it actually “showing anything.”
Amy’s friend was using her phone when I sent the pic (Amy was driving). The friend accidentally clicked on the photo when the text came in. There was a moment of slight embarrassment. Amy told me about it, we had a laugh, we thought it was not a big deal and that was that.
Yesterday I ran into the husband of the wife who clicked on the photo, and he gave me a good natured hard time about it, at first. His wife had told him about it - but she gave him a different story. She said I had texted the photo to Amy during the girls trip to show off to her friends, and Amy did, and his wife said that I was in good shape and obviously wanted Amy’s friends to see a sexy pic.
This is obviously not what happened, but this guy believes it. I don’t know if they are telling other people this, but it is a weird and false rumor that is bugging me.
Should I say something to that wife? Or have Amy say something? Or just let it go?
My wife (Amy, 41f) and I (44m) occasionally send each other mirror selfies when we think we’re looking good. I’m not talking about naked pics, just fun ones. We hype each other up, it’s just a thing we do sometimes, especially when one of us is out of town.
When Amy was on a girls trip last month I sent her a pic of myself when the lighting in the bathroom looked good, and I was feeling good. I was shirtless in the pic, and I had cropped it about an inch or two below the waist - not showing anything, but it was somewhat teasing, you could see I was naked without it actually “showing anything.”
Amy’s friend was using her phone when I sent the pic (Amy was driving). The friend accidentally clicked on the photo when the text came in. There was a moment of slight embarrassment. Amy told me about it, we had a laugh, we thought it was not a big deal and that was that.
Yesterday I ran into the husband of the wife who clicked on the photo, and he gave me a good natured hard time about it, at first. His wife had told him about it - but she gave him a different story. She said I had texted the photo to Amy during the girls trip to show off to her friends, and Amy did, and his wife said that I was in good shape and obviously wanted Amy’s friends to see a sexy pic.
This is obviously not what happened, but this guy believes it. I don’t know if they are telling other people this, but it is a weird and false rumor that is bugging me.
Should I say something to that wife? Or have Amy say something? Or just let it go?
My wife (Amy, 41f) and I (44m) occasionally send each other mirror selfies when we think we’re looking good. I’m not talking about naked pics, just fun ones. We hype each other up, it’s just a thing we do sometimes, especially when one of us is out of town.
When Amy was on a girls trip last month I sent her a pic of myself when the lighting in the bathroom looked good, and I was feeling good. I was shirtless in the pic, and I had cropped it about an inch or two below the waist - not showing anything, but it was somewhat teasing, you could see I was naked without it actually “showing anything.”
Amy’s friend was using her phone when I sent the pic (Amy was driving). The friend accidentally clicked on the photo when the text came in. There was a moment of slight embarrassment. Amy told me about it, we had a laugh, we thought it was not a big deal and that was that.
Yesterday I ran into the husband of the wife who clicked on the photo, and he gave me a good natured hard time about it, at first. His wife had told him about it - but she gave him a different story. She said I had texted the photo to Amy during the girls trip to show off to her friends, and Amy did, and his wife said that I was in good shape and obviously wanted Amy’s friends to see a sexy pic.
This is obviously not what happened, but this guy believes it. I don’t know if they are telling other people this, but it is a weird and false rumor that is bugging me.
Should I say something to that wife? Or have Amy say something? Or just let it go?
I use an app that records certain sounds and movements while I sleep, that gives me a sleep score in the morning. When I was on a guys weekend two weeks ago I was randomly reviewing the recordings to find my snoring (we were discussing how much each of us snore for some reason) and came upon an audio recording of my sleep that featured my wife.
She had woken me up on the morning of my birthday by singing “happy birthday” to me slowly while undressing and getting on top of me. It was a fun memory, and I played it for my best friend and asked him if he could guess what was happening.
Not my best judgment, I know. Especially when it featured my wife saying something very dirty when I neared my “finish.” (I didn’t even remember that happening and didn’t know that part was going to be on the recording.)
My friend and I laughed about it and he said he had an all new respect for my wife. But now I wonder if it went over a line, and should I tell my wife I did this?Or was this all in good fun and something friends can talk about?
In December my wife (Amy) was asked to pose for a series of sketches by an artist we know through friends, for a project he was working on. It was a unique opportunity for her - she had modeled a bit when she was younger but nothing recent. And Amy thought it would be a fun project to participate in at this stage of life (she had just turned 40).
One of the sketches in particular turned out amazingly well. The artist reached out last week and asked Amy if she would be comfortable with him displaying the sketch in his home.
It’s an artistic nude, and it’s detailed enough that you can certainly tell it’s Amy.
Amy asked what I thought. I believe she’s flattered (she should be) and she appreciates his honestly in checking with her, but she said she wouldn’t agree to it if I wasn’t comfortable.
I’m not sure if I’m comfortable! I tend to overthink this stuff. But the idea of this man and his guests seeing Amy nude regularly is stuck in my head.
In December my wife (Amy) was asked to pose for a series of sketches by an artist we know through friends, for a project he was working on. It was a unique opportunity for her - she had modeled a bit when she was younger but nothing recent. And Amy thought it would be a fun project to participate in at this stage of life (she had just turned 40).
One of the sketches in particular turned out amazingly well. The artist reached out last week and asked Amy if she would be comfortable with him displaying the sketch in his home.
It’s an artistic nude, and it’s detailed enough that you can certainly tell it’s Amy.
Amy asked what I thought. I believe she’s flattered (she should be) and she appreciates his honestly in checking with her, but she said she wouldn’t agree to it if I wasn’t comfortable.
I’m not sure if I’m comfortable! I tend to overthink this stuff. But the idea of this man and his guests seeing Amy nude regularly is stuck in my head.
In December my wife (Amy) was asked to pose for a series of sketches by an artist we know through friends, for a project he was working on. It was a unique opportunity for her - she had modeled a bit when she was younger but nothing recent. And Amy thought it would be a fun project to participate in at this stage of life (she had just turned 40).
One of the sketches in particular turned out amazingly well. The artist reached out last week and asked Amy if she would be comfortable with him displaying the sketch in his home.
It’s an artistic nude, and it’s detailed enough that you can certainly tell it’s Amy.
Amy asked what I thought. I believe she’s flattered (she should be) and she appreciates his honestly in checking with her, but she said she wouldn’t agree to it if I wasn’t comfortable.
I’m not sure if I’m comfortable! I tend to overthink this stuff. But the idea of this man and his guests seeing Amy nude regularly is stuck in my head.
One of my (42m) best friends from childhood happens to be a lesbian (Anna, 42f). She and I were inseparable as kids and stayed in close touch, and we were in each other’s weddings. I get along great with Anna’s wife, and my wife and I socialize with them often as a couple.
What my wife doesn’t know is that I slept with Anna once, in our mid 20s. This was as before my wife and I met. Anna was curious what it felt like to be with a man, and we made it happen. It was a one time thing.
It crosses my mind once in a while when the 4 of us are together. Is it fair that my wife isn’t aware that this happened? I feel increasingly guilty at times.
It was a one time thing between me and Anna, one and done, although it was surprisingly emotional (and felt really quite good) in the moment.
Does my wife deserve to know?
One of my (42m) best friends from childhood happens to be a lesbian (Anna, 42f). She and I were inseparable as kids and stayed in close touch, and we were in each other’s weddings. I get along great with Anna’s wife, and my wife and I socialize with them often as a couple.
What my wife doesn’t know is that I slept with Anna once, in our mid 20s. This was as before my wife and I met. Anna was curious what it felt like to be with a man, and we made it happen. It was a one time thing.
It crosses my mind once in a while when the 4 of us are together. Is it fair that my wife isn’t aware that this happened? I feel increasingly guilty at times.
It was a one time thing between me and Anna, one and done, although it was surprisingly emotional (and felt really quite good) in the moment.
Does my wife deserve to know?
I (42m) write erotica for a living and made a friend on Reddit as a result. Before I ended it, she helped me think about stories and characters and changed my approach to writing.
Long story, but our connection was real and short lived, and I find myself thinking back to it from time to time.
It’s made me realize that my connection with my wife is lacking this kind of erotic depth and insight. I know this is dangerous territory, but the reality is that some people operate on the erotic wavelength, and some don’t.
My question: is this kind of online connection healthy? Or should I abandon it and go back to my life?
My wife (Amy, 40f) has a twin brother (David) who she has always been extremely close with. He’s a really great guy, and I consider him a good friend too. Their closeness has never been an issue and it’s something I “signed up for” as part of our relationship from the beginning.
David has been having some significant relationship challenges with his wife, and Amy talks about it with him often. She is committed to his happiness and helps him think things through.
The thing is, as part of this they have talked about sex, in detail, often. I’ve overheard a couple of conversations and have been mildly shocked at how detailed - David has shared his frustrations and Amy has shared advice and even talked in detail about our sex life as examples. She told him last week “you and I are the same person and have the same needs. I get it.” She’s encouraging him to accept who he is and be fulfilled sexually.
I am more of a private person so this kind of conversation has been a little shocking to me. Should I mention to Amy that it’s been surprising, and that I’d like to understand what she’s really getting out if it? Or just let it go, seeing it as something twins just do?
My wife (Amy, 40f) has a twin brother (David) who she has always been extremely close with. He’s a really great guy, and I consider him a good friend too. Their closeness has never been an issue and it’s something I “signed up for” as part of our relationship from the beginning.
David has been having some significant relationship challenges with his wife, and Amy talks about it with him often. She is committed to his happiness and helps him think things through.
The thing is, as part of this they have talked about sex, in detail, often. I’ve overheard a couple of conversations and have been mildly shocked at how detailed - David has shared his frustrations and Amy has shared advice and even talked in detail about our sex life as examples. She told him last week “you and I are the same person and have the same needs. I get it.” She’s encouraging him to accept who he is and be fulfilled sexually.
I am more of a private person so this kind of conversation has been a little shocking to me. Should I mention to Amy that it’s been surprising, and that I’d like to understand what she’s really getting out if it? Or just let it go, seeing it as something twins just do?
My wife (Amy, 40f) has a twin brother (David) who she has always been extremely close with. He’s a really great guy, and I consider him a good friend too. Their closeness has never been an issue and it’s something I “signed up for” as part of our relationship from the beginning.
David has been having some significant relationship challenges with his wife, and Amy talks about it with him often. She is committed to his happiness and helps him think things through.
The thing is, as part of this they have talked about sex, in detail, often. I’ve overheard a couple of conversations and have been mildly shocked at how detailed - David has shared his frustrations and Amy has shared advice and even talked in detail about our sex life as examples. She told him last week “you and I are the same person and have the same needs. I get it.” She’s encouraging him to accept who he is and be fulfilled sexually.
I am more of a private person so this kind of conversation has been a little shocking to me. Should I mention to Amy that it’s been surprising, and that I’d like to understand what she’s really getting out if it? Or just let it go, seeing it as something twins just do?
I (42m) write erotica for a living and made a friend on Reddit as a result. Before I ended it, she helped me think about stories and characters and changed my approach to writing.
Long story, but our connection was real and short lived, and I find myself thinking back to it from time to time.
It’s made me realize that my connection with my wife is lacking this kind of erotic depth and insight. I know this is dangerous territory, but the reality is that some people operate on the erotic wavelength, and some don’t.
My question: is this kind of online connection healthy? Or should I abandon it and go back to my ordinary life?
I (42m) write erotica for a living and made a friend on Reddit as a result. Before I ended it, she helped me think about stories and characters and changed my approach to writing.
Long story, but our connection was real and short lived, and I find myself thinking back to it from time to time.
It’s made me realize that my connection with my wife is lacking this kind of erotic depth and insight. I know this is dangerous territory, but the reality is that some people operate on the erotic wavelength, and some don’t.
My question: is this kind of online connection healthy? Or should I abandon it and go back to my ordinary life?