u/Revolutionary-Code49

I wrote a post here a few weeks ago when my son started daycare. He’s 14 months and I realize that’s a hard age but it’s what we thought would be best for a number of logistical reasons. Well, he’s still crying a lot and it’s hard to tell how much but they say at pickup that he was “some sad, some happy” which idk doesn’t feel reassuring. Even if he’s only crying half the time that’s 3.5 hours in a day!

He hasn’t had any changes in sleeping or eating at home since starting, but he is definitely crankier after pickup. How do I know if this is harming him or if it’s just part of the normal transition? And even if it’s normal, is it healthy? I wanted him to learn structure and social skills, but maybe he’s just not ready.

Also, I do have a variable work schedule. My work has always been important to me but now that I know my son is upset it feels secondary. I will never get this time back with him at this age. If I pulled him out I would need to rearrange a few things, but I think I could do it. I thought part time daycare would help me find balance and improve my mental health by getting a break, but so far it’s actually done the opposite. I feel stressed and depressed about it the whole time he is there.

This would put more of a burden on my husband, though. Currently he has a very stressful job and daycare lets him come home and rest for an hour or two before picking him up, instead of immediately taking over while I go to work. We also would have to rely on grandparents here and there which we are fortunate to have and they are willing and happy to step in. But I wouldn’t be able to just call them up in a hurry if something changes. We wouldn’t have a cushion. I would be essentially working full time and being a sahm and last year I loved it but I had downsized my work schedule on purpose to stay with the baby. This schoolyear I planned to have daycare and accepted more clients etc and have more responsibilities.

I know this is a personal decision but I am just so torn. What do you think? Do I stick it out and hope it gets better? At what point would it be better to pull the plug?

My 13 month old just started daycare. I thought I was prepared for a tough drop off but I expected, like everyone I’ve ever heard stories from, that he would calm down shortly after I left. Picked him up 3 hours later and he was clearly exhausted and doing that hiccup from crying excessively. I don’t know for sure but it was my impression he cried most of the time.

Drop off has continued to be the worst screaming/crying he’s ever done. At pickup, the 2nd day he wasn’t crying until he saw me, 3rd day he was crying before I arrived. I have been following everyone’s advice to do a quick goodbye but holy hell of course he’s scared! He doesn’t know the place or the teachers. The teachers will not tell me exactly how long he cries and they’ve never called me to get him. They sent a picture on day 2 & 3 where he was playing, not crying but not smiling either. It doesn’t seem like he’s comfortable with the teachers yet.

I asked them if we could slow down and do a couple short visits where I stay with him before trying to leave him again on a different day. I understand they can’t accommodate that regularly, and I don’t want to drag it out, but is that really the best way? What could it possibly hurt to let us visit together first and give him a little time to get familiar before being ripped out of my arms?

My questions I guess are, is it normal for this much crying to occur and how do I know if it’s harming him or if it will get better? It feels like the advice to rip off the bandaid and just keep going until he gets used to it is really harsh. Like breaking a horse. Or throwing a kid off the deep end and expecting them to swim. Is this really age-appropriate? Isn’t this a lot to ask of a toddler to manage without any slow intro?

Hi again and help I’m so confused! I posted my measurements and got confirmation that I should be a 36G UK / 36I US.

Ordered 2 bras from Bare Necessities: Elomi Morgan Side Support Bra and The Favorite TShirt Bra. The Elomi has both UK and US sizing, and confirms it is a 36I US. It fits perfectly but happens to be unlined and thinner than I prefer (which is fine, now I know).

The TShirt Bra, however, only gave US sizes and is also a 36I, but the cups are absolutely ridiculously big on me. The band is again just right. I realize they are different brands, but what gives? Am I going crazy and did I somehow do the conversion wrong? How do I know what size to order if they are so different? Do I need to stick to only UK brands?

Edit: while I understand and appreciate that shaping makes a difference, this is such a vast difference that it is more than that.

My calculated bra size is several cups bigger (D to an I). I’m waiting for a few I ordered and hopeful they will fit better. But it occurred to me that if my previous bras have all been smashing my boobs down and the new one actually supports them, will they be bigger and tighter in my clothes that currently fit me? Will I need to buy all new shirts??

Hi, I’m 13 months postpartum and fully finished breastfeeding 2 weeks ago. One question I have is, should I wait longer before doing this process? My boobs have definitely shrunk back a lot compared to when I was pumping every day. My pre-pregnancy bras fit differently, but about as well as before.

I just did the calculator and this is what I got for measurements in the prescribed order:

Loose underbust 35.5

Snug underbust 35

Tight underbust 33.5

Standing bust 42.75

Leaning bust 47

Lying bust 44.75

Suggested Starting Size: 36I/J US

The sister size of 34J/K may be more supportive

Suggested Starting Size: 36G/GG UK

The sister size of 34GG/H may be more supportive

I’m in the US. Does this mean I can trust my size and order a 36I or do I need to stick to a UK sized retailer? I read through everything and saw people referring to US sizing adding 4 or 5 to the band?

So far I can hardly find anything in local stores’ websites that lets me select both 36 and I. Previously I was wearing 40D or 42D which is about the biggest I can find in store. Based on how they fit I can believe a smaller band and bigger cup would be more supportive, but this combo seems really unlikely to find.

Finally, I’m having trouble understanding the shape determinations. Definitely projecting rather than shallow. I think based on leaning over that I’m mostly even but slightly fuller on the bottom. But when I looked at the blog post of full on top vs full on the bottom the diagram of full on top seemed to match me better. This could also be due to some deflation/sag (for lack of a better word) after breastfeeding. I feel like I have about the same amount of breast tissue now as I did before pregnancy, but it’s much softer and swings lower lol.

Thanks for any help and guidance! The sub is super helpful already!