u/Sad_Letterhead7590

ive never yelled at or called my partner names.

but we have issues with them crossing boundaries and me being unheard and no resolution

ive opted to break up early on but they didnt want to. i felt like we were incompatible alot because i felt like it wasnt working the relationship was triggering for me and i knew it wasnt a good environment for me or for them. i kept breaking up with them but they kept tryin to come back and then it would last a little longer... the issues never resolved and i always knew but they wouldnt acknowledge or fix the issue.

this is where im starting to realize i was abusive. they would do things that made me upset or we'd have problems in the relationship and i would bottle up my feeelings because when i would try to talk to them about it, its like they were unable to hear it. they'd fall asleep or just make up an excuse or have a reason but basically, they would always avoid it.

Eventually i would get mad and break up with them. and when i would tell them they would cry. because i think at this point they can feel that its almost like i hate them. and instead of stopping and acknowledging their feelings i would keep ranting about it and make them cry even more. it was like venting about what was hurting me... and im the type of person that felt like it was calle for and part of being accountability, i would think its okay for someone else to talk to me that way, if i made them feel this way. everything i said was valid and true. but the problem is it would hurt them and i wouldn't stop.

im probably going to go to therapy and see what they say. sorry in advance if this is the wrong place to post, i assume this is more for victims.

I couldn't get around the fact that if you want to be a Christian then you have to be a jw... like i think cart witnesses in is the dumbest thing ever and i couldn't imagine that being part of being in "the one true religion."

there was a lot of stuff like that, i didn't feel like i needed to dress in a suit and tie to be a Christian or have to be baptized into an organization to be a Christian. Everything just stood out to me as a cult speak and manipulation.

in the end i was pulling her away from her faith and community because i made too much sense.

I believe you’ve moved on, but in my dream you looked sad. I held you in my arms and consoled you. I hope you’re doing well.

Relationship was bad a lot of issues. Finally broke up. It hurt a lot but mentally it was the right thing. I stayed distracted and focused on myself. It’s been a month of no contact. And it feels like a struggle to let go and move on. There’s a part of me that misses her alot. But I’m telling myself and reminding myself of how bad the relationship was. I don’t want to be missing her for too long like some people I’ve seen here that can’t seem to get over a person even after years.

Biologically idk what the most natural form of relationships are but I assume it’s the strongest man gets to breed with all of the females.

When women say I dress or look this way for myself. They do it for themselves so when the right man comes around they’re attractive. Or just in general looking good feels good, and they’re not doing it for others.