u/Salty-String9583

So I (F19) hooked up with my friend (M20) a couple of times completely casually which we are both happy with, but he keeps bringing up wanting to bag other women every time I see him which I’m confused about. I can’t tell if it’s because he doesn’t want me to get attached or if it’s some weird way to get at me or something. maybe I’m overthinking it. Can someone help with some insight?

I (F19) got out of a 3-year relationship a few months ago. Since the breakup, I’ve made a bunch of new friends and it’s honestly been really nice getting out there and meeting people. The thing is most of my new friends are guys, and I’ve already had multiple of them ask to sleep with me. Now I’m starting to worry that some of my friends are only keeping me around because they hope I’ll eventually sleep with them and that’s making me feel kind of anxious and unsure of myself.

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I’m also autistic, so I’m not very good at picking up on flirting or hidden intentions until someone says something directly, which makes it harder for me to tell if someone actually wants to be friends or wants something else.

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Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this? Are there signs I should look out for or ways to set boundaries early without assuming the worst about people?

I (19F) live with my mum (45F) and sister (24F). My sister was diagnosed with treatment resistant schizophrenia about five years ago and struggled with drug addiction before the diagnosis. She has been struggling on and off for a while now and recently started using again, causing her paranoia to flare up.

I don’t know what to do anymore and neither does my mum. We can’t cut her off and we don’t want to we are just not sure what to do anymore. We have done everything we can to help but she just keeps going back to drugs. She even did them in the bathroom of my mum’s hotel room the day before mother’s day and my mum caught her.

I feel horrible saying this but emotionally I just can’t handle being around her at the moment. It is very triggering for me but she can tell when I pull away from her. I feel so bad because I know it hurts her.

I 19F 3 months ago I went through a mutual breakup with my boyfriend 19M of 3 years. I was okay for the first month, but then suddenly it all hit me. I begged to see him and when I did he told me he still loves me but doesn’t want to be with me. He said he wanted to sleep with me and see me again, calling me baby and talking to me like he use to but then changed his mind the next day and didn't want to see me. Every time I’ve tried to reach out since, he hangs up on my calls and ignores me. I know this sounds dramatic, but I’ve had 3 dads leave me, so I have really bad abandonment issues, and he knew that. I feel sick. I just want him. I genuinely feel like I have nothing else but him. I just want to die. Why did he have to leave me? I feel like I have no purpose without him. I can’t do this anymore. How do I keep living?

So I 19 F have a close friend 19 M who has a toxic on and off relationship and we often go out drinking together but nothing has ever happened. Well, a few nights ago we went and played some pool with a group. Everyone else left early and we kept drinking. We both got really drunk and he told me he doesn’t want to be with his girlfriend anymore and feels trapped. (I know this is because she hurts herself if they argue.)

He asked to kiss me as a reason to get out but I told him no and that he had to break up with her if he wanted that. He kept asking me, saying that he’s thought about it before and while sober as well. I kept saying no and that I would only kiss him if they broke up and that he should break up with her anyway just for saying that.

So he broke up with her that night in front of me and I told him he can’t get back with her after this. Then we made out and he was asking to sleep with me and do other things but I said no. He kept asking and tried to make some advances but I stopped him. He was also trying to get other women to make out with him but it didn’t work.

Then once we started to sober up, he was crying, saying he fucked up and wanted to be with her. Now he’s lying to her, saying another girl not me kissed him and he wants me to go along with it so we can stay friends. But this just feels so wrong and I feel like he’s trying to make it out like he was more drunk than me because of his antidepressants but I was drinking the same amount and I’m 4'11 and 40kg, like come on.

I don’t know what to do because she’s texting me nonstop, asking me to respond to her and he’s saying that if I tell her because she has BPD it will be really bad for her mental health if she finds out. But he’s trying to work things out with her so I don’t know if he’s just saying that so I don’t tell her. I don't know what I should tell her at this point.

So I 19F have a close friend 19M who has a toxic on and off relationship and we often go out drinking together but nothing has ever happened. Well, a few nights ago we went and played some pool with a group. Everyone else left early and we kept drinking. We both got really drunk and he told me he doesn’t want to be with his girlfriend anymore and feels trapped. (I know this is because she hurts herself or says she will kill herself if they argue.)

He asked to kiss me as a reason to get out but I told him no and that he had to break up with her if he wanted that. He kept asking me, saying that he’s thought about it before and while sober as well. I kept saying no and that I would only kiss him if they broke up and that he should break up with her anyway just for saying that.

So he broke up with her that night in front of me and I told him he can’t get back with her after this. Then we made out and he was asking to sleep with me and do other things but I said no. He kept asking and tried to make some advances but I stopped him. He was also trying to get other women to make out with him but it didn’t work.

Then once we started to sober up, he was crying, saying he fucked up and wanted to be with her. Now he’s lying to her, saying another girl not me kissed him and he wants me to go along with it so we can stay friends. But this just feels so wrong and I feel like he’s trying to make it out like he was more drunk than me because of his antidepressants but I was drinking the same amount and I’m 4'11 and 40kg, like come on.

I don’t know what to do because the relationship they have is fucked, and he is a good friend, but it feels so wrong to lie to her. I haven’t talked to her yet, so what should I do?