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u/Same-Sherbet-3917

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▲ 359 r/latebloomerlesbians

Hope this is allowed: I've been the ex bf and the late bloomer lesbian

Tldr: Follow your heart, fellow lesbians. If your bf or husband ever really knew you, saw you, or loved you, they'll understand one day. And even if they don't, life's too short.

When the pic on the left was taken, I was in a long term relationship with a girl I had known since high school. One day, she told me she wanted to go to the park, because she had something important to tell me. She told me she wasn't in love with me anymore, because she had fallen in love with her coworker, a woman.

I was devastated. I would have to move out, while her new love moved in. We had known each other for 12 years. Her sister, at least, said that I'd always be family. It took me a while before I could feel less wounded, and to try to understand things from her perspective. Looking back, I regret not having the capacity to be supportive of my ex's journey, due to being resentful of this other woman at the time.

While I spent years working on myself, I realized that I didn't really like performing masculinity (comphet is a helluva drug), and that a cisgender hetero relationship wasn't what I wanted for my future, either.

We never saw each other again. At almost 40 years old now, sometimes I mourn the loss of that friendship, along with the many friendships I've lost on my own queer journey.

I did text her sister somewhat recently (after needing legal advice regarding a work injury and becoming partially disabled), and told her that I hope she found happiness and that I forgave her long ago.

I'm hoping that my somewhat unconventional story might be of some help to someone out there, who might be on the fence. It reminds me that we're all on our own personal journeys, and that life is too short to not feel at home with yourself.

u/Same-Sherbet-3917 — 2 months ago
▲ 15 r/truscum

Lack of self-awareness and the hugboxing epidemic

I've seen a lot of posts where people who are asking if they pass will say that they aren't getting clocked or misgendered in public, but their pictures tell a different story.

Imho, the reason why these folks aren't getting "clocked" or misgendered in public has to do with a) the places they go to have people who understand social cues and aren't complete assholes and b) they're fortunate enough to live somewhere where people aren't actively trying to harm them.

I also think that it's a little weird when instead of giving constructive feedback (when asked for), commenters are clearly being dishonest. For example, pics where the person has put in zero effort with hair, grooming, makeup, lighting, and styling, yet somehow people are saying they pass. It's like the worst possible pictures and angles, too. I think it's setting people up for failure, especially when the OP is asking for advice.

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u/Same-Sherbet-3917 — 2 months ago
▲ 245 r/LesbianActually

Thinking back, every woman I ever dated became bi or lesbian 🖤

Sometimes I wonder if they knew, or if there was something different about me, even when I looked like I did on the left.

u/Same-Sherbet-3917 — 2 months ago
▲ 14 r/truscum

Are there subreddits where I could post transition pictures and not be doxxed? Keep having to delete accounts.

I've probably deleted my accounts 4-5 times, due to people somehow figuring out detailed things about my past or my legal name. Or recognizing me. And I'm certain there aren't any things in the background of my pics that would identify me.

I don't have any spicy accounts or anything, either, but it's impossible to ask for things like fashion, makeup, or transition advice without things getting creepy. Like, I get it's the internet, but where am I supposed to go?

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u/Same-Sherbet-3917 — 2 months ago