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Edit; Guys thanks for advice on not hiring an agency and hiring on team one person rn seems like the best option. As much as I wanna answer you, the post has been locked.

I am running a SaaS lead gen software in Sweden. I see some good reviews on Capterra and G2 for many companies charging less than $25 an hour, but all of them are from either India-based, Pakistan, or Indonesia.

We only have 4 devs, and testing seems like a problem we can't ignore now. My devs and non-tech people here are doing QA for us; but apparently we still have bugs. Now I think it's time we hire a specialist. But In-house would be too difficult and might get out of budget.

We were thinking between freelancer vs agency. What should I opt for? Have you guys had any experience regarding this so far?

Also, even if I hire freelancer, I will have to review or manage him, which I don't want. So an agency seems like the way for me.

But at the time my concern with an agency is that there are alot of scammers from these countries so I would need your opinion from people who have experience.

PS, little request: please don't promote i need real advice under this subreddit.

23F Broke up 10 years of relationship with 24M here the whole story.

Me: I am female ENTP (mbti) Sagittarius born in 2002

Him: he is Isfp, cancer born in 2001

I started when I was 14 I vibdly remember i fell for this guy due to the acedmy i joined. For me my heart raced and there always been a sexual tention between two of us. He confessed and we instantly got into relationship

I was at tbe verge if being controlled by him because he showed no respect, took money from me, he was never understanding, and he did not earn well. So today

Year 1: (Age 14) we started and I wa really happy but he was really toxic… he always tried to change my habbits which I thought at the time was normal for partners scarifce in order to sustain.

Year 2: we both were in same school so things were pretty easy, we met each day. We were together 24/7 in this area I lost my virginity as well. It was butterfly love etc. but I ignored the red flags when he used to force me to cover myself fully. No revealing clothes. In return I asked him to never smoke again. So we both did.

Year 3-5: there were so many ups and downs, i was getting adult, hit depression we we’re together but didn’t happen much. I tried breakup with him because being with hin was really exhausting. I thought Inam still young I should just let him go he is really trying to control me. But he never broke up

Year 5-6: this is when things turned around. So I have always wanted to marry a scholar. But my boyfriend refused to go to university with me. I joined university he stopped studies afterwards. In order to support himself he did odd jobs.

At age 19,20 these things seems fine. I was really worried so he promised me that he will earn so much. At the same time my family was not doing well financially ith uni I had to work 10x harder to support my siblings. So I also started part time job as an Ebay / amazon product lister at a small setup.
I was always annoyed that my mind was growing soo much due to university and overall exposure, but he was stuck at the same thoughts from 2020.

Year 7-8: So this year I achieved alot, I got a full time position at a tech company while being half way in uni. He was still delivering food to ppl home. I saw no progress as a person, as a partner. I held up still communicating with him. He said he will do it I should give him 6 months.
6 months passed he failed at all attempts. I thought that he might do something but even after more 6 months he was ay ybe same position while I was supporting 6 people in my family with my tech job.

I never ranted him about these things that How bad I flext that I earn 6x more then him: but in his mind this thing was there he really got irritated with me. He tried to control my life more and more.

He said no going out with male colleagues even in group setting, no chat. He really tried that I had zero male intraction because he was so insecured from the feeling that I work with men whi are much mire capable then him. In these difficult time I still held up. But at one point my leaver broke. I broke up.

Year 8-9. After this breakup for 1 month he did all the things that I wished he would do for me and he never respected my feelings. He cane with flowers in a car, gifted me so manu things, I wS never gonna get back with him but the moment he touched me, i lost it. I wanted ti kiss him so bad so I got back together with him. In this tome around I got a better job opportunity which was 2x salary of my current job. I got really secure so I thought money is already here. I should go for love. He really loves me. He never cheated. He never smoked. Amd I really wanted sex with him. I convinced myseld that I will now not ask him such things. I will never let money get between us. But he was earning pretty much same.

Year 9-10. This year he proposed, offcourse I said yes. I was ao happy, but my new job had alot of new friends and colleagues. We had great bonding and I stared to go out eat, wear clothes that I feel comfortable in, my university is ending so I had to do alot of work with “male entities” as always he got so insecure.

One day after sex, he wnet through my phone and opend one of the group I made with colleagues.

There I was being friendly and sent crying emoji that I used to sent him. (For context that group had 10 ppl male female all) we were talking about office struggles. He really got mad. I was thinking theee is no point to be mad about it. Anyways small things like tbis keep happending.

I got more rebel overtime. I wore clothes of my choice (ti meet my school friends) and also sent him pics. He got really mad.

When I posted some of my tweets in one of the subreddits People told me that you have a stockholm syndrome. I have no idea who is right in this relationship, but today marks a day that I broke up. I really felt that I was being controlled and I should do anything with my life, but I was so insecure that I have told everyone in my circle about this guy. My family, relattives friends everyone. So I was really holding it because who will come after me after having 10 year of relationship. No one will accept me.

Me: I am a female ENTP (MBTI), Sagittarius, born in 2002.

Him: He is an ISFP, Cancer, born in 2001.

It started when I was 14. I vividly remember falling for this guy through the academy I joined. My heart raced around him, and there had always been a sexual tension between the two of us. He confessed his feelings, and we instantly got into a relationship.

I was on the verge of being controlled by him because he showed no respect, took money from me, was never understanding, and did not earn well. So today, here is the story.

Year 1 (Age 14):
We started dating, and I was really happy, but he was very toxic. He always tried to change my habits, which I thought at the time was normal. I believed partners had to make sacrifices in order to sustain a relationship.

Year 2:
We were both in the same school, so things were pretty easy. We met each day and were together 24/7. During this period, I lost my virginity as well. It was butterfly love and all that, but I ignored the red flags when he used to force me to cover myself fully and wear no revealing clothes. In return, I asked him to never smoke again. So we both agreed.

Years 3–5:
There were so many ups and downs. I was growing into adulthood and hit depression. We were still together, but not much happened. I tried to break up with him because being with him was really exhausting. I thought I was still young and should just let him go because he was really trying to control me. But he never accepted the breakup.

Years 5–6:
This is when things started to change. I had always wanted to marry a scholar, but my boyfriend refused to go to university with me. I joined university, and he stopped studying afterward. To support himself, he did odd jobs.

At ages 19 and 20, these things seemed fine. I was really worried, so he promised me that he would earn a lot of money. At the same time, my family was not doing well financially. Along with university, I had to work 10 times harder to support my siblings. So I started a part-time job as an eBay/Amazon product lister at a small setup.

I was always annoyed that my mind was growing so much due to university and overall exposure, while he seemed stuck with the same thoughts he had in 2020.

Years 7–8:
This year, I achieved a lot. I got a full-time position at a tech company while being halfway through university. He was still delivering food to people’s homes. I saw no progress in him as a person or as a partner. I still kept communicating with him.

He said he would do better and that I should give him six months. Six months passed, and he failed at all his attempts. I thought he might still do something, but after another six months, he was in the same position while I was supporting six people in my family with my tech job.

I never complained to him about how bad it felt that I earned six times more than him, but in his mind, this issue was always there. He became really irritated with me. He tried to control my life more and more.

He said I shouldn’t go out with male colleagues, even in group settings. No chatting. He really wanted me to have zero male interaction because he was so insecure about the fact that I worked with men who were much more capable than him.

Even during these difficult times, I held on. But at one point, my limit was reached. I broke up with him.

Years 8–9:
After this breakup, for one month he did all the things I had always wished he would do for me. Before that, he never respected my feelings.

He came with flowers in a car and gifted me so many things. I was never going to get back with him, but the moment he touched me, I lost it. I wanted to kiss him so badly, so I got back together with him.

Around the same time, I got a better job opportunity that doubled my salary. I felt really secure financially, so I thought money was already taken care of. I should choose love.

He really loved me. He never cheated. He never smoked. And I really wanted sex with him. I convinced myself that I would stop asking him for those things. I would never let money come between us. But he was still earning pretty much the same amount.

Years 9–10:
This year, he proposed, and of course, I said yes. I was so happy.

But my new job came with a lot of new friends and colleagues. We had great bonding, and I started going out to eat, wearing clothes that made me feel comfortable, and spending time with people. My university was ending, so I had to do a lot of work with male classmates and colleagues. As always, he became very insecure.

One day after sex, he went through my phone and opened one of the groups I had made with colleagues.

There, I was being friendly and sent a crying emoji that I used to send him. For context, the group had 10 people, both male and female, and we were talking about office struggles. He got really mad.

I thought there was no point in being upset about it. Anyway, small things like this kept happening.

I became more rebellious over time. I wore clothes of my choice when meeting my school friends and also sent him pictures. He got really mad.

When I posted some of my thoughts in one of the subreddits, people told me that I had Stockholm Syndrome.

I have no idea who is right in this relationship, but today marks the day that I finally broke up.

I really felt that I was being controlled and that I should be able to do what I want with my life. But I was so insecure because I had told everyone in my circle about this guy—my family, relatives, friends, everyone.

So I kept holding on because I thought, who will come after me after a 10-year relationship? No one will accept me.