u/Sea_Code_3050

Any time I drink more than like 3 or 4, my sleep is wrecked. My sleeping HR will usually go up 20%+ according to my watch, and it will wake me up in the middle of the night with anxiety. Any way to avoid this?

...have you had sex with your spouse? I (37) am at 10 this calendar year, and I feel like I am dying inside and feeling more distant by the day. Just curious about marriages in this sub. I started tracking this year after many years of low intimacy and related depression. Married 11 years.

My wife has an Owala 32oz bottle we are looking for a comparable holder for our M12 Hopper backpack hitch points. I haven’t been able to find anything yet. Any tips or DIY solutions other than the yeti sling?

I (37/m) started my keto journey after getting blood work results back that I was on the edge of being a pre-diabetic and had physical signs of insulin resistance. Also had high cholesterol and was overweight (started at 242lbs at 5'10"). I am currently sitting at 226, with a goal weight of 200lbs by the end of 2026.

The biggest benefit from eating keto - I no longer have cravings whatsoever. Before I started keto, I would literally crave crap food every day, all day. Evenings would usually consist of me eating chips or other snacks after dinner until bedtime. I would sneak food often, too. Now it is so easy to say no to the food I know I should not have.

So far, I have not been tracking any macros or calories. I usually fast until lunchtime (around noon) if I didn't lift that morning, then eat dinner around 6pm and not eat again until lunch the next day. This has become easy now that I no longer have intense cravings. On the days I do go to the gym and lift weights, I will eat a lean breakfast, usually a few eggs and sautéed spinach. I started the gym routine about 2-3 weeks ago.

One thing that keeps me sane and not get bored, I usually have 2-3 squares of 90% dark chocolate after dinner every night. It signals the end of food for the day and I just love dark chocolate, so it's nice to have. Sometimes I may add a little natural peanut butter onto it if I know I ate super lean the entire day. I went from binge eating (and drinking) to now contemplating an extra square of dark chocolate.

The only issue I have had so far is constipation, which I was not ready for early on. A few times I was in pain on the toilet, but made it through. I am now cognizant of how much leafy greens or broccoli I am getting and am reducing the amount of cheese I am eating. I also add in the zero-net-carb tortillas if I need that fiber boost, but use them sparingly because they are heavily processed.

Anyways, this post was more for me to put my thoughts out about the past 2 months, but I have a ton more work to do. But I know once I get to my goal weight, keto will continue to be a part of my daily way of eating because of how it manages my cravings and appetite. I can't afford to go back to where I was ever again.

I realize this is posted about all the time but I need some insight. I was always a once a day guy at minimum. I’m almost 2 months on Keto now, and wow that has changed. Most recently it was 4 days between BM. And the time before that was 3 days and the most constipated one I’ve ever had. I’m eating the leafy greens every day too. I never have a meal without either broccoli, a salad, sautéed spinach or avocado. I drink electrolytes and do my best to stay hydrated.

I understand everyone is different but holy smokes I was getting concerned until I went this morning after 4 days. And even then, it was minimal waste compared to normal.

My watch showed my sleeping HR in the low 50’s, then in an instance, it shot up to 137 and woke me up in a panic. Holy shit it is terrifying. I hate this so much.

At 1am my sleeping heart rate was around 54, then out of nowhere my heart rate jumped to 137 instantly. I ripped my cpap mask off in a panic out of a dead sleep. My heart rate went back down within a few minutes. It was terrifying! Has anyone ever experienced this before?

My driveway is about a 2° grade average in the area I want to install an in-ground hoop. What is everyone else’s that put in a basketball hoop?

Lately I've (37) been wondering if maybe I'm just not cut out to be a dad, and I hate even writing that because I love my kids more than anything. I have a 6-year-old and a 2-year-old. I have a good wife, a good job, and a good life overall. My wife is a stay-at-home mom and works hard every day for our family, so this isn't a complaint about her or my kids. They aren't the problem. The problem is that I feel like I've completely lost myself somewhere along the way.

For the last two or three years, life has basically been work, parenting, house responsibilities, sleep, and then doing it all over again the next day. We don't get any help with the kids, so neither of us gets much of a break. I do encourage her to see her friends when she can and get a sitter, etc., and she does sometimes. I have hobbies, interests, and things I enjoy doing, but I honestly can't remember the last time I had consistent time for any of them. I also don't really have any close friends anymore. I do have a couple of friends from HS I stay in touch with, and maybe see them a few times a year with my wife and kids. I can't remember the last time I did something without my wife and kids.

Lately, I've noticed that I'm more irritable than I used to be. My patience isn't what it should be. I get overwhelmed more easily, and then I beat myself up afterward because I know my wife and kids deserve better than the version of me they've been getting lately.

I think I'm just unhappy with myself. At some point, I lost the part of me that used to get excited about things. I look around at other dads and wonder if they're struggling with this too or if they're just handling it better than I am. Sometimes it feels like everyone else is enjoying this stage of life while I'm just trying to get through it.

I don't regret having kids. If I could go back, I'd choose my wife and kids all over again. But if I'm being honest, I don't think I've felt genuinely happy or excited about life in quite a while, and it's starting to make me wonder if something is wrong with me.

Has anyone else gone through a phase like this? Did it get better? What actually helped?

The depression. Almost like peeling off a Band-Aid. I am now realizing for years I was using food to cope with my emotions. Quick carb fixes or sugar to fend off what I am really feeling. Now that I am no longer doing that (7 weeks in), I feel like I am just raw dogging life and am struggling a bit. Can anyone else relate to this?

I’ve been staying the course and determined to lose 50lbs by the end of the year. I no longer crave snacks outside of meals and no longer crave carbs or sugar.

My biggest question is, do I stay on this way of eating forever or transition to a whole food type of diet that naturally has carbs after I hit my goal. I’m scared of gaining back what I am losing if I stop this way of eating, or having my cravings return. But maybe my body is meant to eat this way forever.

I’ve never really been constipated before in my life until I went Keto recently. I’m used to having a BM every morning. It’s been less frequent now, I had one yesterday that was pretty hard, and haven’t went since. Other than 1 day this past week where I was in a pinch and only had cheese and meat, I’m eating plenty of veggies and sauerkraut and stuff. I started adding chia seeds today to my Greek yogurt, and will probably add 1 tbsp to every meal if I can.

Is this a common thing with keto?