r/hangxiety

I am woman 33 years old, cousin around 40. I grew up in the town where all my 20 cousins live, I don’t live there anymore and I visit maximum once a year. We were very close when younger.

They made this party for me, because I was in town. I had my boyfriend with me. We had alot of tequila and I got drunker than I have ever been. All of the sudden I couldn’t find my boyfriend and I asked my cousin to help me look for him, so we went upstairs and went back down again. For some reason I asked to walk upstairs again(?) and ”looked” again for my boyfriend, and I stopped my cousin, and I hugged him for a long time, like close close, then I rested my head on his chest and said something like you are good friends with my dad right. It does not sound flirty but I remember in the taxi home when drunk I felt that was flirty.

It felt flirty to ask him to go upstairs when we knew my boyfriend wasn’t there, so I could be cozy with him or wtf I was doing/thinking. I felt like shit the next day, I felt like what if he tells someone this or someone saw this and now all my cousins find me creepy/disgusting. I was never even that close with this cousin, we have never been friends, so this couldn’t really be a ”buddy” thing. I came to this subreddit to read alot the days/weeks after, but the feeling never disappeared and I still feel like shit weekly about this. I haven’t told anyone because of shame. This is so unlike me and far from who I am and thats the worst part. All I remember from that moment is what I have written here, who knows how touchy I was or what more I said. I guess im spiraling because of potential memory loss.

I met him again at christmas one year later and he joked and said we should have a cousin party again, the problem is the hangover because of how much he drank.

I met them for 2 hours for christmas, probably won’t see them again for a long time which probably is what fuels my anxiety, I can’t tell what they think.

What does this sound like for you guys? could really use input. Best case he didn’t take it as flirting and wouldn’t tell his siblings (my other cousins) I was flirting, because they would probably think he would be weird for even saying that?

sorry for wall of text, sorry for sounding like a confused teenager when I am 33 years old (adds to the anxiety, I should know better, not get this drunk and weird)

..and english is not my first language.

I don’t know if this counts as hangxiety, but I really need help figuring out how to make amends with my friends.
Yesterday we had a celebration and all went to my best friend’s house to drink and have a good time. We started drinking around 3 a.m., and honestly our goal was to get really fucked up. This week has also been extremely difficult for me as I lost my uncle, had finals, and broke up with my boyfriend. I also recently went off Lexapro, so mentally I’ve been in a really bad place for the past month.
At first everything was fine. It was just me, my best friend, and her boyfriend. But we drank a LOT, and I was on an empty stomach. I ended up blacking out and apparently spent two hours scream-crying at my friend’s boyfriend, saying he was a bad friend and that I hated him.
I used to like my friend’s boyfriend years before they got together, and apparently while I was drunk I said I was still in love with him, which is not true at all. I also called my ex around 20 times and spam-texted him the entire night.
When I woke up, my best friend’s sister told me everything that happened, and now I genuinely don’t know what to do. I already asked if we could talk so I could apologize, but they rejected it.
Can anyone seeing this please help me figure out how to fix this?

So I (female) went out Friday night on the spur of the moment with some old friends (who are big drinkers). In the past year or two I’ve been working on my relationship with alcohol so have been prioritizing eating a lot before I drink and also only sticking to beer, which has been really benefited my relationship with alcohol.
Unfortunately on Friday night I completely just ignored all of these efforts: I drank a copious amount having not eaten. Needless to say this did not end well.
My friends said I started to fall asleep in the bar we were in so the bouncers told them to take me home. I did not want to go home and refused to get in a taxi. I went to get food by myself and met two guys who were going to a house party. I too decided I wanted to go and hopped in their car. Pretty soon I to the journey I remember getting freaked out and asked them to take me home. They had parked up in some estate by then and just wanted to stay there (for some unknown reason). I kept asking them to take me home and eventually they did.
Unfortunately I blacked out for some of this so obviously I’ve been SO anxious about what happened. I’m in a happy relationship and know I would never ever cheat on my boyfriend, but my brain is being my own worst enemy and making me think something terrible happened. If anything did happen I was definitely not sober enough to give any sort of consent. But again, I don’t think anything happened I just really am freaking myself out.
I feel like such an idiot. Again I’ve always had a turbulent relationship with alcohol but have recently really had it under control and have consciously been making an effort to be a good drunk. I just really let myself down and need to vent.

Any advice would be appreciated.

a few nights ago, i told myself id stick to 2 drinks max. of course, i have a problem turning down free drinks. about 3 hours into the night- 2:00, ive had two long islands and two shots. i was invited to an afters and i last remember someone calling a lyft. i woke up on my couch with an afters wristband on but no car keys or purse.

i went out alone and met some new people, but i cannot find their information on my phone- or even remember their names. the venue is on a show-by-show basis so who knows if my belongings are still in the warehouse.

i don’t have anyone that i can ask about my behavior. there are no lyft or uber rides from that night in my phone, meaning i was taken home by someone.

i wish so bad that i could have my memories back. i estimate anywhere from 1-4 hours of lost memory, but of course- i don’t know what time i got home.

reflecting…

I binged drink from Cinco de Mayo all the way to Mother's Day. However, I didn't want to drink much on Mother's Day. I did take two shots in the morning in order to eat breakfast. I had two beers throughout the day to" manage" the hangover and function through the day. Last beer was at 6pm. I thought I was going to be okay because I was sobering up. Before bed time, I took my water and multivitamins to help in the morning. Woke in the 6 a.m.with anxiety and nausea. I tried to sleep it off while I took water sips. I got out of bed at noon. Well, I took a shower and threw up yellow bile. I ate a little bit of chicken soup. As I am trying to hold my food and lying down in misery.

UPDATE: I'm feeling better. I am still dealing with a little anxiety from acid reflux. I didn't drink water on Saturday. I attended a party and it was hot. I ate but only drank beer most of the day.

I try to understand how do alcoholics live like this? Or how do they manage to sober up without the hangover symptoms or go through them.

I went out with my coworkers and one of them told me I should hit on one of them because she think he likes me. Me being drunk did just that and asked if he wanted to go somewhere more private he said in a very strict tone I want you to go. And then I blurted out I respect your boundaries so I will but this was surprising since everyone likes me and I’m constantly fighting men off. Everyone heard me say that. And some at that party is the kind who love to spread gossip.
I can’t stop crying for being so humiliated acting like a crazy narsissist. And knowing my whole workplace are going to be talking about it, not only being rejected in front of everyone but bragging like a crazy person.

So I went out with my mum yesterday to celebrate her birthday. Neither of us are big drinkers, but I have this awful habit where when I start drinking, I can’t stop.

There’s this guy that I always see around town who I think is super cute, and he was in the pub yesterday too. After a couple of drinks, I decided to shoot my shot (which is not something I tend to do) and gave him my number. He texted me after a while and I asked him if he wanted to come join us. Keep in mind I was already pretty plastered by this point, and I started to feel really anxious because I didn’t want to say anything I would forget. So instead of having a conversation with him, I ended up FaceTiming my brother and ditching this guy with my mum.

I can’t really remember much after that, apart from spending a lot of time throwing up in the bathroom, and by the time I came out, he was gone.

I feel so so bad about it. I’ve messaged him this morning to apologise. Am I an awful human being??

I never used to get anxiety from drinking, but recently something changed and it honestly scared me.

After drinking a couple nights ago, I started getting intense anxiety/panic feelings that I’ve never experienced before. My heart felt weird, my body felt “off,” and mentally I felt completely overwhelmed. The scary part is that it’s now the second day after drinking and the anxiety is STILL here. I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening to my body or why alcohol suddenly started affecting me like this.

I’m starting to think I might have to reduce drinking to only special occasions because this feeling is unbearable and not worth it anymore.

I also wanted to ask if anyone here has experience with taking something like Xanax the next day to calm down after alcohol-induced anxiety/hangxiety? Part of me thinks it could help, but another part of me feels like that sounds like the beginning of a dangerous habit or dependency.

Has anyone gone through something similar? Did alcohol suddenly start causing severe anxiety for you out of nowhere?

How do you deal with hangxiety? I had a few drinks yesterday with people who care about me. I didn’t act crazy or do anything regrettable. Yet today I can’t shake this overwhelming feeling of anxiety. I can’t sleep or eat and when I think of last night I just feel my whole body get hot. This has been happening every time I drink lately. So what can I do?

Saturday night i was invited at my cousin bday, (it was his 20yo) i have 25 and at first i didn't wanted to come because i know how am i when i got drunk. So anyways, i started drinking and people were calling me telling me to come, i didn't know anyone because it was his friends and few family members. So i came there, got drunk, at first the party was nice, i remember almost everything but i don't REMEMBER ALL I SAID... I don't know if i said bullshit, next day i woke up in a flatable mattress, don't know who put me there. But they didn't said anything bad next day, but NEXT DAY OFC I DRANK BEERS LIKE IT WASN'T ENOUGH... So i don't remember also the sunday that much... Im having hangxiety trying remember what ive said or if someone recorded or make pictures... Terrible

I used to drink a lot. I don't anymore, but occasionally hit it pretty hard at a party.

I went to a party last night. I had quite a bit to drink for me (a martini, 2 glasses of wine, 8 low test jello shots...I made them that way on purpose so everyone could enjoy more). Everyone else was also drinking and were drunk, so it wasn't like I was the lone drunk or anything. Husband and I had already made plans to stay over so no worries about getting home etc. I ate before I started drinking, drank water all night...A real solid plan, you know?

I even had a conversation about the doom I always get the morning after drinking heavily with a close friend, and she said well, you should NOT feel that way tomorrow because you're doing absolutely fine! I put myself to bed 2 hours before everyone else when things got a little fuzzy. I definitely blacked out a bit, but I remember most of the evening.

This morning I woke up, my friends made breakfast. Everyone said how fun everything was, and how great everyone was. Nothing was said about me, my behavior, or even implied that I was out of line in any way.

But as always, I am overthinking everything today. I feel like I embarrassed myself, made myself look like a total fool, and am so depressed and anxious. I'm totally beating myself up.

I'm not asking for advice or anything, but just needed to tell someone how I was feeling. I hate this feeling so much. I wish I could enjoy a fun time with my friends , get silly, and not wake up feeling like the biggest asshole and worst human on the planet like they can.

Thanks for letting me put this out in the universe instead of holding it in.

About to leave a resort in the DR. 26 year old male. Drank pretty heavily most days and every single morning I woke up with severe anxiety, chest tightness, left arm discomfort, and PVC-type zaps in my chest. Heart rate was steady, normal ECG on my Whoop, could take deep breaths fine — but I was absolutely convinced something was terribly wrong every single morning.

I’m on 40mg fluoxetine which I think made the mornings significantly worse. Also prescribed 20mg propranolol as needed for anxiety. Every afternoon I felt fine (once I caught a buzz haha). Classic hangxiety pattern but genuinely one of the worst experiences of my life. Wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Crazy part is I’ve had a full cardiac workup - stress echocardiogram, ecg, labs, xray, CT - all normal.

What should’ve been paradise was turned to torture.

Still convinced as I write this that I’m going to drop dead. Anyone else deal with this level of health anxiety after drinking? How do you manage it? Looking into CBT/therapy when I get home.