u/Bella_Swan234

It’s going to be my first time being a substitute teacher for a high school. I was an instructional aide before and a tutor.

Since I’m part time, they said I have to be at the school the whole time even when I’m not subbing in for a class. They said I would get paid for my time being at the school. When I asked them what I would be doing when I’m not in a classroom, they said it depends on the day. While I am happy that I am getting paid for the time that I am there, I’m worried what they want me to do during that time. Is that normal for part time subs? Again, I get paid even when I am not in a classroom.

Also, do subs get observed like teachers?

Any other advice would be much appreciated!

I live in an apartment complex with a five floor parking garage. Only five floors! Apparently, everyone in my building own a giant vehicle that takes up the entire two lanes. I drive like the smallest car and it feels like each time I have to hug the right, have my headlights on, and honk to let the other cars know I am coming up. They always speed past the speeding limit of 10 mph, drive in the middle of the lane, and honk at me to move when I can’t!

Not to mention, when you leave from the elevator to open your car and get to the door, people do not acknowledge us. Even when I look both ways to get to my car, a vehicle skirts past me without bothering to slow down or look if I am there or not.

I get it, you are driving out of the parking garage and probably not expecting more than one person to leave at the same time, but omg, it shouldn’t have to be a mission for me to not try to die to get to my car that is five feet away from the lanes.

I’ve been watching a couple episodes lately and I’ve noticed that I don’t think the kids ever eaten one of Bob’s burgers (no pun intended). I’ve seen them eat the worst of the worst and those kids love to eat, but I find it funny they’ve never actually eaten a burger.

Unless I missed an episode? lol

The true fans have proven me wrong! lol

Okay, I need advice on how to approach this.

My boyfriend has expressed that I haven't been spending a lot of time with him. While I get that, the only times we do spend time with each other are on his terms, at his place, and with one goal in mind. I think we can all piece together what that goal is (sex). The truth is we only spend two to three days a week. I do understand that isn't enough, but I am constantly tired of doing the same thing every day. We would go to a bar to play pool, go back to his place, have sex, and watch television. Sometimes, he would even play video games while I watch television. It's been getting boring lately and starting to feel like a routine.

I want to also mention that I live with my mom, who has a cat. This week my mom was gone for the whole week for vacation and asked me to take care of the cat. My cat doesn't need a lot to take care of him, but top priority being fed wet food at 7:30 am and at 5:30 pm. I told my boyfriend this and I would have the place all to myself.

There were several things I wanted to do on my own this week and events I wanted to go to. It wasn't like I was ignoring my boyfriend all week. I had invited them to each one of my events that I wanted to go to, but he has denied or made up some excuse as to why he couldn't go. He asked me to skip a couple of these events to spend time with him, but some of these events were concert venues that I had already paid the tickets for and they're nonrefundable so I just couldn't waste that money. (btw they weren't expensive they were like $12-20). I told him that my mom said he could sleep over at our place. No matter how many offers I gave him, he just wouldn't come over or make some excuse.

Today he had asked if I could come over and I said I would as long as I feed my cat at 5:30 pm. He said happy hour is at 4 and would really like it if I had come earlier. I told him the best I could do is 5 pm. He still was pushing earlier, so I agreed to 4:30. He still wasn't satisfied, but I had to remind him I had to feed my mom's cat his dinner. Like I said, my mother didn't ask much for me to take care of the house except to feed the cat and clean his litter box. Bare minimum responsibilities. I don't understand why he wants me to come during happy hour. I get drinks are expensive and I even offered to pay for my own since I am a light weight anyways.

How do I get through to him that I have responsibilities of my own to where I can't go to his place all the time?

So I’ve been bisexual for years. Most of my friends have known I was bi but never took me seriously as I dated mostly men. But recently I’ve been going out with some women and my best friend of ten years had said some things that made me uncomfortable.

She refuses to go any of the gay friendly bars I go to. While this might be a coincidence, any time I invite her to an LGBTQ friendly bar she makes some excuse not to go. She’s too tired or wants to stay in, or it’s too far and I don’t want to pay for a Lyft, things like that. I understand and those are valid reasons not to go somewhere, but whenever her boyfriend wants to take her to a country bar that’s an hour away from her outside of where she lives.

I appreciate that she always put out the effort to invite me, but I don’t feel comfortable going to some of the places they go to because I feel like I can’t express my sexuality.

One time, I was mentioning what it’s like being bi and when I went to the bathroom by myself a guy overheard my conversation and whispered, if we were alone right now I would SA the gay out of you. When I expressed this to my friend all she said was, “guess we have different tastes in bars.” I was really shocked and hurt by this.

And any time we go out, her boyfriend always invites his friends. They constantly hit on me all the time, even when I told them I’m seeing someone else and especially if I’m seeing a girl. I expressed this to my friend and she said. “Oh it’s because they have autism and they have social issues. Maybe it’s something you’re wearing.”

When I expressed how uncomfortable I feel when we go out, she argued with me that I accused her of being homophobic.

Idk is it homophobic? And sorry for the long rant btw!

Thanks yall. Her “friendship” left me really confused because while I do get that stepping into an LGBTQ bar can be jarring for someone that’s never been, you should at least go once to support your LGBTQ friends. Also, thanks for introducing me to a new term did not know biphobia was a thing and it’s starting to make sense why I got weird treatment from her and her friends.

What is one thing that you would miss if you were trapped in an apocalypse? I am not going to be too deep into what type of apocalypse but I’m just saying like your average apocalypse.

Now that I have thought about it. A real life sort of apocalypse was Covid. One thing I took for granted was socialization because I am an introvert. But being stuck in quarantine, I really miss people.

So, religious 'friends' can't take a hint that I am no longer religious and the only 'time' they have to hang out is during bible study. (It's not the one with my ex but with an all-girl group this time). I probably won't be seeing them after a while once I get this hang out over with.

I don't know what topics they're going to discuss on the Book of Ruth, but I need yall's help on roasting it or debunking it. (Anything really).

I have this friend E (M 29) and I’m (f 28). We’ve been friends since college. He’s a pretty popular guy and has a large circle of friends. We always hang out but it’s always 1:1. It would’ve been fine with me if he was a shy kid who doesn’t like large crowds, but he gets invited to a party or throws a party every weekend. Get invited by friends or ask friends to go on these amazing trips, but doesn’t invite me to anything!

I hate to ask someone to be invited but each time he brags again, I feel like I have to ask to be invited and that’s never a good feeling (well in my case). He always makes some excuse as to why I can’t come. He keeps telling me they’re his dnd friends and I wouldn’t like it or be able to fit into the campaign but he knows I love dnd. He also plays volleyball and claims I wouldn’t know how to play even though we literally played volleyball together in college.

Apparently, his friends were from since they were kids and it’s a pretty tight nit group. I never had that growing up. But when he talks about it, feels more like a personal clique where no one can get their foot through the door.

Lately, I’ve been getting snappy at him and he’s been noticing. He’s been asking why and I did tell him that I wish I was invited more to his stuff. He doesn’t understand that it hurts me because he never had that problem.

Sometimes, I also feel like the friend he hits up when everyone else canceled or he has nothing to do which is once a month.

I’ve also expressed that I feel left out by my friends since they’re all couples and I don’t get invited out much bc I’m single. He said why don’t you invite them out. He doesn’t understand that I have been but again, I am always the after thought friend. I wish he understood what it’s like to not have a lot of friends or be introverted.

Idk how to get through his head or what more to say to him.

If anyone knows anything about the supernatural, they would probably hear of the Appalachian mountains or the Appalachian trail. I don’t know if most places are haunted, but if I were to bet my money, this would be it.

So one day when we were at a bar my friend asked if I wanted to hike the Appalachian mountains and I almost snorted my drink. I warned him that not only do you have to worry about the supernatural dangers but the human ones as well. I even showed him some documentaries on the Appalachian trail and he still is thinking about going!

Should I still try to talk him out of it? He seems set on going.

Has anyone here on Reddit met someone or dated someone from Reddit? And if so, how did it go?

Kind of crazy some of yall did or willing to. Aren’t yall worried about finding a creepy guy or girl by accident?

Also, if you met the partner of your dreams! Congrats!

If you’re still looking, please be careful tho

After six months of being stuck in to no job tundra I am happy to finally have a job as a substitute teacher for special education classes. However, the pay rate is too low and it is an hour drive from me. Even though I signed all the paper work already, I am afraid I won’t be making that much. I got a part time job as a cashier, even though it is also part time, I would get more hours. I wish I was one of those people who can do multiple jobs but I am also worried if I am on call during the same time as my shifts. Idk what should I do yall?

Also typed too fast and it’s down not donwn lol.

A little backstory: my boyfriend (m 29) and I (f28) have been dating a little over a year. Recently, he asked me to move in and while that does sound like a tempting offer, I have a bit of pause for some reason. I will list the red flags below.

1. he has yet to introduce me to his friends or family:

I am curious is it normal for people to move in first before meeting the friends/family? Normally, the standard time frame is six months but it’s been a year yall. Feels like he just wanted an FWB as a roommate and not a girlfriend.

2. never invited me to any of his friends or family functions:

He always brags about all the dinners he goes to and last week he went on a beach trip but didn’t tell me until he was there.

3. he hides my stuff into his bedroom when his parents come over:

So he told me that I could move any of my stuff in his place. But whenever his parents comes over, he conveniently hides them in the bedroom. When I asked him one time why, he said they were better in the bedroom. I’m like why? Because your parents won’t look there.

4. he lies on the phone when he is with me to his family/friends:

For example yesterday, we were hanging out and his parents asked him if he wanted to go to dinner and he lied saying he was still at work. But he does it all the time when anyone calls.

I could go on and on. But the foot notes of my TedTalk is: he lies about when he’s with me, he lovebombs me saying stuff like he wants to get married and have kids, and hides me. Like what if one day we do get married and have kids? Does he expect me to have a private wedding or my kid asks me, “why can’t we see grandma and grandpa?” Moral of the story is never move in with a man who isn’t proud to be seen with his girlfriend.

I only had a couple of drinks last night. No hangover but been feeling like I wanted to throw up all day but every time I go to the bathroom, nothing happens. (Sorry for starting off gross). I was able to get done everything I needed to get done today, but the struggle of not throwing up but feeling like I do is so real.

I know it’s not their fault and I’m sure they’re just average children toys but when I see a doll behind a glass absolutely not.🙅‍♀️ I’m not talking about the real life Annabelle doll because that doll is definitely haunted.

Way back when I was a server, which was my early twenties. Even though I was a young adult, I didn’t mind if customers cussed me out. But it shocked me that adult customers are so entitled to yell or be rude to servers who are teenagers. And it’s usually over a minor issue that could be fixed. I remember that I had to calm down so many servers who were in high school who would get panic attacks because a grown adult was mean to them. It’s kind of why I’m reluctant to go back to serving/barbacking.

Is it possible to miss someone who treated you badly? My ex best friend of ten years was so mean to me during the last year of our friendship. She has said all I know is how to drown and act like a victim even though I’ve been actively working on myself. She said I’ve never been there for her even though I was there for her during her ex boyfriend’s funeral and when no one on her side would show up because her parents cut her off. But none of that mattered to her because apparently listing it doesn’t count!

I thought about her almost every day ever since our fight and I feel this pain in my chest because we will never be the same again. Our mutual friends (well her friends) keep pressing me to apologize or reach out to her but I am not sure.

We both said some hash words to each other during that fight. I would like to call her but I don’t want it to be another episode of her insulting me. It has been two years. Should I try to reach out or just let the friendship die on its own?

Are you the person who leaves the bed messy or the type of person who has to make your bed every day before you go to work?

I struggle with adhd so I have a hard time making it every single day but I do like a made bed

I used to be best friends with this girl C for about ten years, but after she got a boyfriend, the dynamic in the friendship shifted and we stopped doing the things we used to do. We normally used to vent to each other, and she was usually fine with that, but when she got a man (We will call him S), she kept getting annoyed by my venting. She kept saying that me venting ruined her whole day. I'm like really? One conversation ruined your entire day? She then said that all I know is how to drown and act like a victim, even though she has trauma dumped to me more than once about S with information I didn't need to know like their sex life. She kept pressing me to change like I was her patient, even though I've been actively changing and working on myself with my therapist.

I was trying to talk to her about this guy who harassed me at a bar one time because he overheard me saying that I was bi and told me that he'd r'pe the gay out of me if we were alone. She said that guess we have different taste in bars and this was affecting HER right now. She would always try to get me to apologize any time I tried talking about myself. Like one time, I told her that all her guy friends kept staring at my chest any time I would come over and they were there. And she goes, "Oh, it's because they have Autism and social cue problems. Maybe it's something YOU'RE wearing." Even though my chest were covered all the time around them.

I am not proud of this, but she was really mean to me one time and I called her out on it. I shouldn't have called her the B word, but it felt like we were in high school all over again. I decided enough was enough and refused to apologize. I just ended the friendship because I couldn't take her negative attitude toward me. It was clear that she wanted nothing to do with me and the friendship was over.

After we ended the friendship, all her guy friends kept coming after me. They kept saying I should apologize. One of her friends said the funniest thing ever and that I should apologize to protect myself and it's about me. I have been apologizing for years, and I am tired of it.

If you got the one-wish willow from Obsession, what would you wish for?

For context, I am F (28) and I used to like my guy friend M (29). I tried to peruse him for a while but he constantly kept bailing and put his friends as his priorities, which is fine and just meant he wasn’t interested.

I would also be the person he’d want to hang out with last minute or an after thought if his friends canceled. But it was kind of obvious he only wanted to hang out 1:1 and had no desire in introducing me to his friends.

He told me the only time he had now for me was after 9 pm for volleyball practice on Friday and 11 pm for dnd on Saturday.

Lately, I’ve been creating more friendships and doing what I want to do. He asked to hang out late on a weekend but I had already told him I’d made plans with my friend who was a DJ at a club (girl btw). He offered to pick me up afterword. It was getting late like 10 pm and my friend asked if I wanted to learn how to work with the lights. I thought that was awesome and 10 turned to 11.

At the end of the show it was getting pretty late and he said he was on his way. When he got there, I didn’t expect him to ask for a hook up as a favor for picking me up. I made up some excuse that I was tired and tipsy (when I didn’t drink btw) and he offered to drive me home but was really disappointed.

The next day, I told him that I’m not hooking up with him after late hours unless he’s taking me out on a date first. He also told me that I didn’t have to drink either (when I didn’t).

Tonight, I wanted to see Odyssey with my friends, and for those of who know the movie is like three hours long. I was venting to him how long it was and he offered to pick me up early but I didn’t want it to lead into a whole thing and told him that my friends are dropping me off.

Ladies (and men) the dating world is rough out there, but I am not desperate enough to be some random hook up at 9 pm when I’m not his priority.

Respect yourselves and hang out with friends who value your time and don’t want something from you!