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During Covid, I, F (28) let my F (30) cousin stay at my place for free, I might add. I thought we got a long great and we lived well together. She had a boyfriend but they were long distance. After she moved out, I never got a single thank you and she stopped texting me a lot.

When we do meet and bring up the fact that we lived together during Covid, she would be like, “yeah, haha, that was crazy.”

And I’m like annnnnnnnnnd?

Nope, nothing.

I haven’t heard from her in a year but this week recently I found out on her Facebook page that her boyfriend, apparently fiance, and now husband got married and I had no idea. I was really hurt that she never told me any of this or bothered to invite me to the wedding. I felt like she used me as a free living space.

I was thinking about texting and confronting her about it but I don’t know how to go about it.

Advice only and no hate please. Remember ya’ll are on here too.

I’ve been considering AA for a while. I’ve been drinking wine a lot and I know it’s not the worst but it’s not the best. I know I’ve been gaining weight because of it. Is it actually helpful?

My mom has cancer and I’ve been drinking a lot more because I’ve been really stressed.

I’ve been watching corny shows like Euphoria and I know they make AA way more dramatic than it actually is.

I know people can quit for a while but still bounce back.

I also am not super religious and I know AA is somewhat religious.

It’s difficult to talk about this kind of thing with my family, because they are so judgmental towards alcoholism despite the fact they actually drink themselves. My friends won’t get it because they also drink and or are against it.

I am in therapy but I haven’t talked about my drinking habits yet.

What other things like AA are also out there?

I know this isn’t about me, but my friend blacked out at the beach and has no idea what happened. At first, we had no idea he blacked out but could tell something was up. We also had no idea that he snuck a few extra beers.

He was acting like a child, slurring, and mumbling a lot. Anything we told him to do, he would do the exact opposite. Like we tried to get him to rest in the shade but he refused and wanted to sleep in the sun.

When we came back from the beach to our hotel, he didn’t help and slept on the couch. He woke up and was still blacked out I think because he wasn’t making any sense. He kept saying how he was going to buy another hotel and Lyft back to our state, which is crazy because our state was four hours away. He would have wasted 1,000 of dollars if we didn’t stop him. After we gave him some food and water, as well as set him on the couch again, he did eventually pass out.

The next morning, he was still asleep so we decided to go out and get him breakfast. He kept texting us asking where we were and we told him that we are getting him breakfast. He said, “fine I will do it myself.” And went out to get his own breakfast. We had no idea why he was acting like that but I think he was hungover. When we came back, we ate and I drove him back.

I thought that was that until the next week he texted us in the group chat how he was mad that no one took care of him, even though we literally took care of him the whole day and night. He said that he was going to tow my car if we didn’t come sooner, and then texted us how he will never depend on anyone again. Maybe I could have done more?

I don’t know what to make of it. I think he really had no idea what happened last night or has a messed up version in his head, but we took care of him. We probably won’t be inviting him out to the next vacation any time soon but I hope he’s okay. 😔

My friend Jack, Margo, and I had stayed four days at this sick hotel. Things were fine until the last day. Jack is a diabetic who has to take insulin every couple of hours. He said he was on top of it and in control the entire time. He was pretty good for the most part until the last day.

We were all chillen by the beach when Jack decided to get some rest. He had a couple of drinks since in the afternoon. He was acting weird because any time we would ask for something like getting beach equipment back to the car, he would complain and act all prideful. His voice got really low and he was muttering a lot.

When it was time to get back to the car to pack up our stuff, Margo had asked him only simple things like put the tent away, pack the sand toys we had out. He complained again. When we started walking, I suggested he put his shoes on so that his feet didn’t get burned. He got mad at me and started yelling at us, “stop telling me what to do all the time.”
When we got to the hotter part of the beach, he shouted at me, “why didn’t you tell me to get my shoes?” It was like he forgot or something.

When we got back to the hotel, we found out he got sun poisoning and he didn’t take his insulin the entire day because he left it in the car. We got annoyed that he didn’t keep up with his insulin which of course he shouted, “You didn’t remind me to take it!” Like it was our job.

He then passed out on our couch. We gave him some food and water as well as put insulin on the side of the table. The next morning he didn’t remember anything of what happened.

I just got back from my trip today and so glad it’s over.

So I had a toxic friend group from my church and I decided just to cut them out of my life because I felt more like their coworker than their friend. When I told them I left and blocked the church’s group chat, all of a sudden people from my old church I rarely talk to are blowing up my phone. They keep wanting to hang out even though I approached them many times before but they always had some excuse as to why they couldn’t.

Idk did anyone else experience this?

I was friends with these four girls for two years. They are all apart of the same church. I used to be but it was too far for me to join them for all the activities.

We used to do things more when I was more frequently part of the church activities, but when I stopped attending as much, they started doing things more without me.

At first, I thought it was because they were all couples. One of my friends, we will call her Fey, was single at the time so she used to hang out with me but the moment she got a boyfriend, she stopped seeing me as much. She started planning double dates with my other friend, we will call her Bethany, more.

Recently, I got sick and tired of it. This week, my friend Fey hosted a small gathering with all the four girls including Bethany, but didn’t bother to invite me. I decided to call Fey out on it. Fey made a lot of excuses like she only had four chairs, got enough pizza for four, and she only wanted four close friends to meet her new boyfriend before he leaves for a trip. I told her it really hurt me but she still didn’t understand why I felt left out.

I told my friend Bethany this same struggle I’ve been having but she said that she could have me try to come to Bible study next time. I told her multiple times that I am too far.

It feels like I am a coworker to my friends or a recruitment. I just don’t feel good about the situation at all. How do I explain that feeling left out makes me feel uncomfortable

Okay, tell me why is it when I make the same recipes at home, I don’t feel as much of a hangover, but when I order the same drinks at the bar, I feel ten times worse?

Sorry for the long post, but the tea is steaming I promise.

Is it better to break up over the phone or in person? I (F28) wish I could break up with my boyfriend (M 29) in person, but worried he might manipulate me into getting back together with him. We’ve been dating off and on again for about two years, one year if you don’t count the break up periods in between.

1. He has never really valued my time unless he wanted something out of it. I felt like I’ve always went out of my way to create more effort for him, like stop doing the things I wanted to do for his interests. On top of that, I would invite him to things I wanted to do, but he would always have some excuse as to why he couldn’t make it.

2. Future faking and pocketing. He would always make empty promises to string the relationship along. He promised a cruise, a trip to another country, and even to DC as ways to string the relationship along. Pocketing) He would never introduce me to his family or friends so it felt like he was keeping me hidden. Btw, he hasn’t introduced me to his family within the full YEAR we were dating.

Recently, my mother has been diagnosed with cancer and when I told him that, he said his go-to phrase whenever he wants me to stop talking about my problems, “Is to not talk about it.” My mom has CANCER and that’s all he could say? He would say that to anything about my anxiety so that he would avoid talking about it.

I am moving to be closer with my mom’s family in case her diagnosis gets worse. This weekend, I am going to break up with him but I am not sure about what to do. Is breaking up over the phone a good idea?

Also, there is a matter of my stuff. I do have some things at his place that I need to get that are pretty expensive. Any advice on how to get my stuff and avoid him? Thanks!

After not having a job for sixth months, I am thankful that I got a job for a substitute teacher that is part time for an high school. However, it breaks my heart to say that my mother has been diagnosed with cancer, and I think I am going to have to move states so we can be closer to our family during this time. I am not sure how to approach the situation with my new job.

Do I just resign? I haven’t sent anything yet to Hr or the school I am working for. Any advice on the situation would be much appreciated.

It’s going to be my first time being a substitute teacher for a high school. I was an instructional aide before and a tutor.

Since I’m part time, they said I have to be at the school the whole time even when I’m not subbing in for a class. They said I would get paid for my time being at the school. When I asked them what I would be doing when I’m not in a classroom, they said it depends on the day. While I am happy that I am getting paid for the time that I am there, I’m worried what they want me to do during that time. Is that normal for part time subs? Again, I get paid even when I am not in a classroom.

Also, do subs get observed like teachers?

Any other advice would be much appreciated!

I live in an apartment complex with a five floor parking garage. Only five floors! Apparently, everyone in my building own a giant vehicle that takes up the entire two lanes. I drive like the smallest car and it feels like each time I have to hug the right, have my headlights on, and honk to let the other cars know I am coming up. They always speed past the speeding limit of 10 mph, drive in the middle of the lane, and honk at me to move when I can’t!

Not to mention, when you leave from the elevator to open your car and get to the door, people do not acknowledge us. Even when I look both ways to get to my car, a vehicle skirts past me without bothering to slow down or look if I am there or not.

I get it, you are driving out of the parking garage and probably not expecting more than one person to leave at the same time, but omg, it shouldn’t have to be a mission for me to not try to die to get to my car that is five feet away from the lanes.

I’ve been watching a couple episodes lately and I’ve noticed that I don’t think the kids ever eaten one of Bob’s burgers (no pun intended). I’ve seen them eat the worst of the worst and those kids love to eat, but I find it funny they’ve never actually eaten a burger.

Unless I missed an episode? lol

The true fans have proven me wrong! lol

Okay, I need advice on how to approach this.

My boyfriend has expressed that I haven't been spending a lot of time with him. While I get that, the only times we do spend time with each other are on his terms, at his place, and with one goal in mind. I think we can all piece together what that goal is (sex). The truth is we only spend two to three days a week. I do understand that isn't enough, but I am constantly tired of doing the same thing every day. We would go to a bar to play pool, go back to his place, have sex, and watch television. Sometimes, he would even play video games while I watch television. It's been getting boring lately and starting to feel like a routine.

I want to also mention that I live with my mom, who has a cat. This week my mom was gone for the whole week for vacation and asked me to take care of the cat. My cat doesn't need a lot to take care of him, but top priority being fed wet food at 7:30 am and at 5:30 pm. I told my boyfriend this and I would have the place all to myself.

There were several things I wanted to do on my own this week and events I wanted to go to. It wasn't like I was ignoring my boyfriend all week. I had invited them to each one of my events that I wanted to go to, but he has denied or made up some excuse as to why he couldn't go. He asked me to skip a couple of these events to spend time with him, but some of these events were concert venues that I had already paid the tickets for and they're nonrefundable so I just couldn't waste that money. (btw they weren't expensive they were like $12-20). I told him that my mom said he could sleep over at our place. No matter how many offers I gave him, he just wouldn't come over or make some excuse.

Today he had asked if I could come over and I said I would as long as I feed my cat at 5:30 pm. He said happy hour is at 4 and would really like it if I had come earlier. I told him the best I could do is 5 pm. He still was pushing earlier, so I agreed to 4:30. He still wasn't satisfied, but I had to remind him I had to feed my mom's cat his dinner. Like I said, my mother didn't ask much for me to take care of the house except to feed the cat and clean his litter box. Bare minimum responsibilities. I don't understand why he wants me to come during happy hour. I get drinks are expensive and I even offered to pay for my own since I am a light weight anyways.

How do I get through to him that I have responsibilities of my own to where I can't go to his place all the time?

So I’ve been bisexual for years. Most of my friends have known I was bi but never took me seriously as I dated mostly men. But recently I’ve been going out with some women and my best friend of ten years had said some things that made me uncomfortable.

She refuses to go any of the gay friendly bars I go to. While this might be a coincidence, any time I invite her to an LGBTQ friendly bar she makes some excuse not to go. She’s too tired or wants to stay in, or it’s too far and I don’t want to pay for a Lyft, things like that. I understand and those are valid reasons not to go somewhere, but whenever her boyfriend wants to take her to a country bar that’s an hour away from her outside of where she lives.

I appreciate that she always put out the effort to invite me, but I don’t feel comfortable going to some of the places they go to because I feel like I can’t express my sexuality.

One time, I was mentioning what it’s like being bi and when I went to the bathroom by myself a guy overheard my conversation and whispered, if we were alone right now I would SA the gay out of you. When I expressed this to my friend all she said was, “guess we have different tastes in bars.” I was really shocked and hurt by this.

And any time we go out, her boyfriend always invites his friends. They constantly hit on me all the time, even when I told them I’m seeing someone else and especially if I’m seeing a girl. I expressed this to my friend and she said. “Oh it’s because they have autism and they have social issues. Maybe it’s something you’re wearing.”

When I expressed how uncomfortable I feel when we go out, she argued with me that I accused her of being homophobic.

Idk is it homophobic? And sorry for the long rant btw!

Thanks yall. Her “friendship” left me really confused because while I do get that stepping into an LGBTQ bar can be jarring for someone that’s never been, you should at least go once to support your LGBTQ friends. Also, thanks for introducing me to a new term did not know biphobia was a thing and it’s starting to make sense why I got weird treatment from her and her friends.

What is one thing that you would miss if you were trapped in an apocalypse? I am not going to be too deep into what type of apocalypse but I’m just saying like your average apocalypse.

Now that I have thought about it. A real life sort of apocalypse was Covid. One thing I took for granted was socialization because I am an introvert. But being stuck in quarantine, I really miss people.

So, religious 'friends' can't take a hint that I am no longer religious and the only 'time' they have to hang out is during bible study. (It's not the one with my ex but with an all-girl group this time). I probably won't be seeing them after a while once I get this hang out over with.

I don't know what topics they're going to discuss on the Book of Ruth, but I need yall's help on roasting it or debunking it. (Anything really).

I have this friend E (M 29) and I’m (f 28). We’ve been friends since college. He’s a pretty popular guy and has a large circle of friends. We always hang out but it’s always 1:1. It would’ve been fine with me if he was a shy kid who doesn’t like large crowds, but he gets invited to a party or throws a party every weekend. Get invited by friends or ask friends to go on these amazing trips, but doesn’t invite me to anything!

I hate to ask someone to be invited but each time he brags again, I feel like I have to ask to be invited and that’s never a good feeling (well in my case). He always makes some excuse as to why I can’t come. He keeps telling me they’re his dnd friends and I wouldn’t like it or be able to fit into the campaign but he knows I love dnd. He also plays volleyball and claims I wouldn’t know how to play even though we literally played volleyball together in college.

Apparently, his friends were from since they were kids and it’s a pretty tight nit group. I never had that growing up. But when he talks about it, feels more like a personal clique where no one can get their foot through the door.

Lately, I’ve been getting snappy at him and he’s been noticing. He’s been asking why and I did tell him that I wish I was invited more to his stuff. He doesn’t understand that it hurts me because he never had that problem.

Sometimes, I also feel like the friend he hits up when everyone else canceled or he has nothing to do which is once a month.

I’ve also expressed that I feel left out by my friends since they’re all couples and I don’t get invited out much bc I’m single. He said why don’t you invite them out. He doesn’t understand that I have been but again, I am always the after thought friend. I wish he understood what it’s like to not have a lot of friends or be introverted.

Idk how to get through his head or what more to say to him.

If anyone knows anything about the supernatural, they would probably hear of the Appalachian mountains or the Appalachian trail. I don’t know if most places are haunted, but if I were to bet my money, this would be it.

So one day when we were at a bar my friend asked if I wanted to hike the Appalachian mountains and I almost snorted my drink. I warned him that not only do you have to worry about the supernatural dangers but the human ones as well. I even showed him some documentaries on the Appalachian trail and he still is thinking about going!

Should I still try to talk him out of it? He seems set on going.

Has anyone here on Reddit met someone or dated someone from Reddit? And if so, how did it go?

Kind of crazy some of yall did or willing to. Aren’t yall worried about finding a creepy guy or girl by accident?

Also, if you met the partner of your dreams! Congrats!

If you’re still looking, please be careful tho