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I currently have the Get To Work health Overhaul by adeepindigo, because I was worried the other two mods might be too overpowering for my game, as I have read comments that the illnesses in HCR are too frequent and strong (i know adeepindigo has now made it so we can customize the illnesses so it wont be too frequent, but does that actually work?) and that the divergent sims disorders and stuff are too strong too.

Basically, some people have said these mods are a LOT (i.e. making sims sick all the time/making them always get mental health conditions) Is that accurate? What has your experience been with these mods in your game? Should I just stick to the Get to Work health overhaul?

(I’ll be using fake names for people.)

I’m struggling pretty badly with hangxiety after a chaotic night and I’m looking for advice on how to deal with the mental aftermath, because my brain will not let the night go.

I went out Wednesday and ended up staying out until Thursday. I drank quite a bit, but I also did ❄️ and nitrous/balloons. I know the combination of alcohol, ❄️, nitrous and barely sleeping is probably contributing to how I feel now, but I’ve been incredibly anxious, paranoid and nauseous for days. My brain is basically going through the entire night with a magnifying glass and making me question everything I said and did.

There are a few different things I keep replaying, but there’s one guy in particular who I’ve latched onto. I’ll call him Marcus. He’s my friend Tia’s friend, although they’re arguably a little more than just friends, if you know what I mean 😂.

I want to make it VERY clear that I do not have any interest in Marcus whatsoever. I’m fixating on what he thinks because he was the one hosting us and I’m now worried I’ve made a terrible impression in his own home.

His flatmate was there initially, but eventually went to sleep and then left early to spend the week at his parents’ house, so we basically ended up staying at Marcus’s place with him.

Apparently, Tia wanted to invite another guy friend she knows over, and Marcus wasn’t too keen on it. From what I’ve been told (because I honestly don’t remember all of this clearly), he accused me and Tia of manipulating him into agreeing to let her friend come over.

I apparently got really defensive and said something along the lines of:

“Don’t accuse me of manipulating you. I don’t manipulate people. If you think that, then that’s a you problem.”

He then said I was getting defensive and asked why I had such an attitude and anger about it if what he was saying wasn’t true.

I can actually believe I was rude because I know myself and I probably was getting defensive. Since then, I’ve been repeatedly replaying that interaction and worrying about what impression I left.

The thing is, almost immediately afterwards I tried to rectify it. I told him I didn’t have any beef with him and that I didn’t mean to come across as disrespectful in his house.

Now my brain is analysing that interaction too, wondering whether I was being weird, fake or too eager to smooth things over after being defensive.

Then, about an hour later, Marcus bought more ❄️. He shared it with Tia but didn’t want to give me any.

To be clear, I genuinely don’t care that he didn’t share it. It was his money and obviously he can decide who he wants to share with. I didn’t say anything to him about it being “the principle” or anything like that, even though that’s how I felt privately.

Afterwards, privately, Tia and I talked about it and she was actually annoyed with Marcus and thought he was being rude by not sharing with me. But I personally said I understood because he’d paid for it and could decide who he wanted to give it to.

Then Marcus randomly asked us whether we thought he was rude for not sharing the ❄️ with me. I think I mumbled something like, “No, I get it, you paid for it so you can decide who you want to have it.”

Again, I’ve been replaying that conversation afterwards.

Then when we were leaving his house the next night, he was about to roll a spliff and I made a completely passing comment along the lines of:

“I wish I could go home and roll one.”

They asked what I meant, so I explained that because I live with my mum I can’t just go home and roll one, and that I would love to be able to do that like I used to when I lived on my own, like he does.

Now I’m worrying that he interpreted THAT as me indirectly trying to get him to share his weed with us, especially because he’d already accused us of manipulating him earlier.

But genuinely, that wasn’t what I meant. It was literally just a passing comment about missing being able to smoke whenever I want.

I’m also replaying the fact that we stayed at his house until the next day. I’m worrying about whether we overstayed our welcome. I think I remember saying a couple of times that if he wanted us to leave, he should just let us know because I didn’t want to impose, but because I don’t remember every detail I’m now questioning everything.

Then there’s the whole other situation with the guy I was actually talking to that night.

At the club, this guy other guy was giving me loads of attention, and we kissed in front of everyone. At one point we were in the smoking area and some random guy basically indirectly called me a sl** while I was talking to him. Which was embarrassing in itself because this man didn’t even know me 😂.

Then we went back to Marcus’s place for the after-party and the guy I had been kissing was absolutely hammered. He was talking a load of random nonsense and kept falling asleep.

At that point, I started getting the ick from him. 😭

The embarrassing part is that I’d been openly kissing and hugging this guy earlier, so now I’m thinking about everyone seeing me all over him and then seeing me completely change my mind once we got to the after-party.

Even worse, I apparently told people at the after-party that he was giving me the ick. He was actually there, but he was asleep at the time, so I don’t know whether he heard me or not.

I’ve been feeling guilty about saying that about him while he was there, even though I was drunk and he was literally asleep and acting completely different from how he’d been earlier.

So now I’m replaying both sides of that situation: being openly affectionate with him earlier and then saying he was giving me the ick later.

And there was another thing before we even got to the house.

We were sitting at some benches before getting an Uber and I bent over for a second (fully clothed lol) and one of Marcus’s housemates slapped my bum.

It didn’t really register at the time because I was focused on the guy who was pursuing me. Now I’m sober and I’m embarrassed because people saw the housemate slap my bum AND saw me kissing and hugging another guy, and I’ve been worrying a lot about how that whole thing looked from the outside.

The thing is, I tend to do this when I’m drunk. If I have some kind of altercation or awkward conversation with someone, I latch onto that particular person afterwards and become obsessed with what they might think of me going forward.

It doesn’t necessarily mean I care about the person romantically or even particularly care what they think normally. It’s more like my brain decides, “Right, this person has now seen you at your worst, what if they think you’re awful forever?” and then I can’t let it go.

So now Marcus has basically become the person my hangxiety has chosen to obsess over. Lol

I’m also thinking to myself and asking myself “these men must have experienced girls behaving far worse than this right?” lol 😂 . because for some reason that thought would make me feel so much better. Like “Surely these kinds of awkward drunken situations aren’t particularly unusual when you’ve got a group of people drinking and doing other things for most of the night into the next day?”

I don’t even have Marcus’s number, so contacting him isn’t really an option anyway. And realistically, I think trying to find out exactly what he thinks would probably just feed the anxiety.

The worst part is that I don’t actually know how much of this I remember accurately because of the alcohol/❄️/ nitrous, so I’m trying to reconstruct the night from bits and pieces and things Tia has told me.

My brain keeps producing thoughts & questions to myself like:

“Does Marcus think I’m rude?”

“Does he think I’m weird?”

“Does he think I was manipulating him?”

“Does he think I was trying to get drugs/weed off him?”

“Does he or anyone judge me for doing ❄️ instead of 🍃 that night?

“Did I overstay my welcome?”

“Does he think we’re losers for staying until the next day?”

“Does everyone think I’m “promiscuous” because of the guy I was kissing?”

“Did that guy hear me say he was giving me the ick?”

“Does everyone think I’m fake because I was kissing him and then saying he was giving me the ick?”

I also did a number 2 💩 in his toilet and i mentioned it to him and my friend now I’m embarrassed i did that

I was also playing music at one point, i’m thinking did i play music that wasn’t cool enough or was my dancing and singing (i had a croaky voice) embarrassing?

I know I’m probably never going to get definite answers to most of these questions, which is part of what’s making the rumination so difficult.

I’m wondering, has anyone experienced this particular type of hangover anxiety where the physical comedown turns into intense social rumination, especially when you don’t remember everything clearly.

Advice i need as well- What actually helped you stop replaying the night and analysing people’s possible opinions of you? I’m also interested in strategies for breaking the rumination cycle rather than trying to work out exactly what happened?

I’m still feeling ill days later with a sore throat, and mentally I feel incredibly anxious.

I’m struggling pretty badly with hangxiety after a chaotic night and I’m looking for advice on how to deal with the mental aftermath, because my brain will not let the night go.

I went out Wednesday and ended up staying out until Thursday. I drank quite a bit, but I also did ❄️ and nitrous/“balloons”. I know the combination of alcohol, ❄️, nitrous and barely sleeping is probably contributing to how I feel now, but I’ve been incredibly anxious, paranoid and nauseous for days. My brain is basically going through the entire night with a magnifying glass and making me question everything I said and did.

There are a few different things I keep replaying, but there’s one guy in particular who I’ve latched onto. I’ll call him Marcus. He’s my friend Tia**’s** friend — although they’re arguably a little more than just friends, if you know what I mean 😂.

I want to make it VERY clear that I don’t fancy Marcus or have any romantic interest in him whatsoever. I’m fixating on what he thinks because he was the one hosting us and I’m now worried I’ve made a terrible impression in his own home.

His flatmate was there initially, but eventually went to sleep and then left early to spend the week at his parents’ house, so we basically ended up staying at Marcus’s place with him.

Apparently, Tia wanted to invite another guy she knows over, and Marcus wasn’t too keen on it. From what I’ve been told (because I honestly don’t remember all of this clearly), he accused me and Tia of manipulating him into agreeing to let her friend come over.

I apparently got really defensive and said something along the lines of:

“Don’t accuse me of manipulating you. I don’t manipulate people. If you think that, then that’s a you problem.”

He then said I was getting defensive and asked why I had such an attitude and anger about it if what he was saying wasn’t true.

I can actually believe I was rude because I know myself and I probably was getting defensive. Since then, I’ve been repeatedly replaying that interaction and worrying about what impression I left.

The thing is, almost immediately afterwards I tried to rectify it. I told him I didn’t have any beef with him and that I didn’t mean to come across as disrespectful in his house.

Now my brain is analysing that interaction too, wondering whether I was being weird, fake or too eager to smooth things over after being defensive.

Then, about an hour later, Marcus bought more ❄️. He shared it with Tia but didn’t want to give me any.

To be clear, I genuinely don’t care that he didn’t share it. It was his money and obviously he can decide who he wants to share with. I didn’t say anything to him about it being “the principle” or anything like that, even though that’s how I felt privately.

Afterwards, privately, Tia and I talked about it and she was actually annoyed with Marcus and thought he was being rude by not sharing with me. But I personally said I understood because he’d paid for it and could decide who he wanted to give it to.

Then Marcus randomly asked us whether we thought he was rude for not sharing the ❄️ with me. I think I mumbled something like, “No, I get it, you paid for it so you can decide who you want to have it.”

Again, I’ve been replaying that conversation afterwards.

Then when we were leaving his house the next night, he was about to roll a spliff and I made a completely passing comment along the lines of:

“I wish I could go home and roll one.”

They asked what I meant, so I explained that because I live with my mum I can’t just go home and roll one, and that I would love to be able to do that like I used to when I lived on my own, like he does.

Now I’m worrying that he interpreted THAT as me indirectly trying to get him to share his weed with us, especially because he’d already accused us of manipulating him earlier.

But genuinely, that wasn’t what I meant. It was literally just a passing comment about missing being able to smoke whenever I want.

I’m also replaying the fact that we stayed at his house until the next day. I’m worrying about whether we overstayed our welcome. I think I remember saying a couple of times that if he wanted us to leave, he should just let us know because I didn’t want to impose, but because I don’t remember every detail I’m now questioning everything.

Then there’s the whole other situation with the guy I was actually talking to that night.

At the club, this guy was pursuing me and giving me loads of attention, and I was kissing and hugging him in front of everyone. At one point we were in the smoking area and some random guy basically indirectly called me a hoe while I was talking to him. Which was embarrassing in itself because this man didn’t even know me 😂.

Then we went back to Marcus’s place for the after-party and the guy I had been kissing was absolutely hammered. He was talking a load of random nonsense and kept falling asleep.

At that point, I started getting the ick from him. 😭

The embarrassing part is that I’d been openly kissing and hugging this guy earlier, so now I’m thinking about everyone seeing me all over him and then seeing me completely change my mind once we got to the after-party.

Even worse, I apparently told people at the after-party that he was giving me the ick. He was actually there, but he was asleep at the time, so I don’t know whether he heard me or not.

I’ve been feeling guilty about saying that about him while he was there, even though I was drunk and he was literally asleep and acting completely different from how he’d been earlier.

So now I’m replaying both sides of that situation — being openly affectionate with him earlier and then saying he was giving me the ick later.

And there was another thing before we even got to the house.

We were sitting at some benches before getting an Uber and I bent over for a second (fully clothed lol) and one of Marcus’s housemates slapped my bum.

It didn’t really register at the time because I was focused on the guy who was pursuing me. Now I’m sober and I’m embarrassed because people saw the housemate slap my bum AND saw me kissing and hugging another guy, and I’ve been worrying a lot about how that whole thing looked from the outside.

The thing is, I tend to do this when I’m drunk. If I have some kind of altercation or awkward conversation with someone, I latch onto that particular person afterwards and become obsessed with what they might think of me going forward.

It doesn’t necessarily mean I care about the person romantically or even particularly care what they think normally. It’s more like my brain decides, “Right, this person has now seen you at your worst, what if they think you’re awful forever?” and then I can’t let it go.

So now Marcus has basically become the person my hangxiety has chosen to obsess over. 😂

I’m also thinking PLEASE tell me these men have experienced girls behaving far worse than this 😂 because for some reason that thought would make me feel so much better. Surely these kinds of awkward drunken situations aren’t particularly unusual when you’ve got a group of people drinking and doing ❄️ all night?

I don’t even have Marcus’s number, so contacting him isn’t really an option anyway. And realistically, I think trying to find out exactly what he thinks would probably just feed the anxiety.

The worst part is that I don’t actually know how much of this I remember accurately because of the alcohol/❄️/ nitrous, so I’m trying to reconstruct the night from bits and pieces and things Tia has told me.

My brain keeps producing thoughts like:

“Does Marcus think I’m a bitch?”
“Does he think I’m weird?”
“Does he think I was manipulating him?”
“Does he think I was trying to get drugs/weed off him?”
“Did I overstay my welcome?”
“Does he think we’re losers for staying until the next day?”
“Does everyone think I’m a slut because of the guy I was kissing?”
“Did that guy hear me say he was giving me the ick?”
“Does everyone think I’m fake because I was kissing him and then saying he was giving me the ick?”

I know I’m probably never going to get definite answers to most of these questions, which is part of what’s making the rumination so difficult.

I’m wondering if anyone has experienced this particular type of post ❄️/alcohol anxiety where the physical comedown turns into intense social rumination, especially when you don’t remember everything clearly.

What actually helped you stop replaying the night and analysing people’s possible opinions of you? I’m particularly interested in strategies for breaking the rumination cycle rather than trying to work out exactly what happened.

I’m still physically ill days later with nausea and a sore throat, and mentally I feel incredibly anxious and paranoid, so I’m also taking this as a pretty big lesson about mixing substances and not sleeping.

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I thought it was the leftover chicken from last night in there, only for me to pick it up to move it (because i wanted to use the cooker) and water gushes and spills out everywhere from it, all over the cooker and the floor and behind and underneath the cooker.

I literally screamed and started crying and shouting curse words at my mom (who isn’t here she went out) because who the heck covers a grill tray full of dirty water?? Im still so so angry.

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I went out on Saturday, pecked a guy (light kiss) and the next day i was certain thats all i did and felt like i did not black out because i remembered more of the night than previous nights of drinking. I remember leaving with my friend and travelling home by myself in the morning making it home safe.

All of a sudden, today, i had this intense worry that i could’ve possibly done more than kissed this guy and I’m worried i might have had sex with him due to the memories of that night now being fuzzy?

I also developed a bruise on my arm a day or two after the night out and i started worrying that i was injected with heroin (i know we were doing ❄️ and from what i have gathered no one there does heroin but i’m now paranoid about the bruise on my arm)

Really worried about the bruise and the thought of potentially doing more than kissing the guy. Is this all just false memories?

I went out on Saturday, pecked a guy (light kiss) and the next day i was certain thats all i did and felt like i did not black out because i remembered more of the night than previous nights of drinking.

All of a sudden, today, i had this intense worry that i could’ve possibly done more than kissed this guy and I’m worried i might have had sex with him due to the memories of that night now being fuzzy?

I also developed a bruise on my arm a day or two after the night out and i started worrying that i was injected with heroin (i know we were doing ❄️ and from what i have gathered no one there does heroin but i’m now paranoid about the bruise on my arm)

Really worried about the bruise and the thought of potentially doing more than kissing the guy. Is this all just false memories?

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