This is my fourth retrieval but I don't remember feeling this extremely bloated and tender the other times. Literally feels like my ovaries could explode at any minute 😭 How will I make it two more days like this?
I'm 40 yo and really disheartened by the statistics at this point. With each failed cycle/miscarriage/ectopic I know the numbers are getting lower and lower.
Doing stims atm but find myself almost forgetting to take the shots, or not double checking the dosage before injecting. It just feels pointless. I can't make myself hope for a baby anymore, but I still keep doing it because how can I give up?
Does anyone relate and/or have any advice on how to deal with this thoughts and feelings?
Pretty much the title. I'm really disheartened by the statistics at this point. With each failed cycle/miscarriage/ectopic I know the numbers are getting lower and lower.
Doing stims atm but find myself almost forgetting to take the shots, or not double checking the dosage before injecting. It just feels pointless. I can't make myself hope for a baby anymore, but I still keep doing it because how can I give up?
Does anyone relate and/or have any advice on how to deal with this thoughts and feelings?
We have a 10 yo (also conceived through IVF, which he knows about). This is our fourth cycle trying for a sibling, he doesn't know about any of the previous ones. It has been difficult to keep him in the dark, especially when I needed surgery for an ectopic pregnancy.
Now, he's on summer break, and egg retrieval is planned at the end of next week when we don't have anyone who can look after him (everyone is either working or on vacation). I have a really difficult time going through ER, and also can't drive myself due to the drugs, so going in alone isn't really an option.
Different staff has repeatedly asked if our son knows about the IVF:s, so I just assume some people do tell their older kids. Which is why I'm considering telling him.
Obviously, it won't solve the issue that we don't have a sitter, but I suppose he and my husband could be in the waiting room while I do the procedure. Since it's a private fertility clinic with the words IVF in the name (and again, he knows what that means), it would be very hard to pretend I'm there for anything else.
So, has anyone here told their older kids about going through IVF while trying for a sibling? If so, do you have any advice on how to handle it?
I'm on my fourth cycle (maybe last, because I'm old and my country doesn't allow PGT-A nor embryo banking, so if it doesn't take this time then what's the point of keep going) and I hate needles, I hate the swollen, tender feeling, I hate feeling hormonal, I hate knowing that retrieval is looming in the near future (because obviously in this stupid country they don't put you under so it's basically voluntary torture) and above all I hate knowing that there's no guarantee I'll have a baby in my arms by the end of it.
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Has it been easier to have your partner give you the shots? Or does giving up control make the anxiety/fear worse?
I know it's a suuuper faint squinter (if it's there at all), but I think I see something.
Just peed on my first LH stick and going in for us tomorrow, it's getting real!
I've only done fresh 2-day transfers before. I'm in Sweden and clinics here don't do embryo banking and PGT-A isn't allowed. We only have one frozen embryo, obviously don't know if it's euploid, but I'm hoping it's a good one 🙏 Especially since this might be our last chance.
TW MC:
>! We've had one miscarriage and one ectopic, and retrieval is horrible for me, so don't know if I'll be able to go through with another round if this doesn't take or end in another MC. I also turned 40 recently, and know the chance of success has taken a deep dive thanks to that !<
Excited and a little nervous!
TL:DR: How do I get closer to my little brother who I barely know at all?
So, my parents split up when I was little. My dad remarried and his new wife hated my very existance. He chose her over me. They had my half brother when I was 11.
Growing up, my brother and I only saw each other when I came to visit, which was at most once a month. His mother was extremely cold toward me and made it very uncomfortable to spend time with them.
Once I moved away from home I also stopped visiting my dad, and only saw my brother on family events a few times a year. Needless to way, we've never been close, but have always been cordial/nice to each other.
The older I get, the more I regret not having a closer relationship with him. I realize it's my responsibilty to reach out as the older sibling, but I just don't know how. To be completely honest, I'm afraid of rejection and considered wierd to reach out after all these years.
Is there a way to salvage this, or should I just accept that my only sibling will be a distant acquaintance for ever?
I have already read We have always lived in the castle and The stepford wives.
Genre doesn't matter.
It's under my arm. Noticed the dots today and it's a holiday in my country, so I'll not be able to contact my dr until Monday.
I'm not particularly worried, but wanted to see if anyone could tell me anything based on the picture. Do you think my dr will want to remove and test it, or is it likely they'll tell me it's not necessary to do anything?
Regarding size, it's only a few millimeters in diameter and raised. People have mistaken it for a tic several times. The size has slowly increased over the years but there's been no recent change.