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I’m Japanese raised in Japan so I’m not familiar with housing or financial stuff in the US. When I watch the show, some casts already have their own houses while many ppl live with their parents in UK versions. Is it common? I assume some of them even don’t have a job that pays really good money like Connor from S10. In Japan, it’s common you just rent an apartment when you’re single or you live with your bf/gf, then you buy a house/apartment when you get married or have kids at late 20s to 30s. I think houses in America keep getting so expensive that’s why I’m wondering. Is it because they really try hard or the areas they’re in is still affordable?

!! spoiler!! I know I’m behind the time tho lol

Chelsea & Kwame
-He literally just went for Chelsea after he found out Micah isn’t available anymore, he convinced himself Chelsea’s the one so hard bc he can’t get Micah anymore.. so big no from start.
-Fuck off if you’re saying you’re attracted to Micah and touching her Ew.
-why didn’t they talk about kids stuff in the pods, it’s the marriage show y’all
-surprised at him saying yes, but it’s not gonna last
-surprised at they’re still married at the reunion but I sense that he’s gonna cheat at some point definitely from his interactions with Micah
-(did IG research) they lasted for four years!? wow surprising

Zack
-wtf He made both Irina & Bliss met Ralph and told Bliss he loved her multiple times before he proposed to Irina!? wtf. He really messed up. He’s talking to other guys about Irina she’s immature, she’s playing the game to win him, but then suddenly he trusts her the most? bullshit. big no from start. Tbh his singing is bad af lol
-OMG their reveal!! I’m screaming it’s so so so awkward😭 I’m feeling bad for Zack at this point when Irina avoided his kiss omg but actually his timing to kiss is also awkward 😭it reminds me of going on a date with a guy from dating apps when I wasn’t attracted to them in person at all and had to deal with two hours pretending to be excited 😭Zack’s so much more awkward irl than in the pods😭
-Irina saying ”I was gonna leave you right after I saw you” after the breakup😭their convo after the breakup is actually funny
-omg now he’s proposing to Bliss because the show buys him a ring!? I’m surprised she said yes, oh girl respect yourself
-(did IG research) I’m happy for them to still happily married

Micah & Paul
-I have NO idea which part of them they loved each other from both sides. Micah flirted Kwame which Paul dgaf, and he also flirted with Irina (air-bite her fingers ewwww) like they don’t give a shit about each other at all lol. And when they talk about positive sides on camera, they ALWAYS say how they can’t be separated in the house without saying “I miss you” like it’s the only positive thing that can be came up with, what a shallow engaged relationship bruh
-in my eyes, he immediately turned off completely when he saw her friends and their interactions realizing they live completely different worlds. Especially intelligence gap I guess
-no surprise they didn’t work out. I feel like they made it to the alter just bc they liked each other to some extent at least and they didn’t have an argument which is big enough to become a reason to leave early
-btw wtf her wedding styling? Her bra is shown and her hair is messy undone. The worst stylist ever.
-make him answer first at the alter. Omg what an ego. But Shelby’s not your friend if she’s smiling for winning the bet when you’re crying heartbroken

Jackie & Marshall
-If you’re emotionally unstable sooo much, don’t come to the marriage show😭Marshall handled it well, if I were him I would be like “get out of here, leave me fucking alone and book a therapy bro” when she cried during the honeymoon lol
-wdy you want an “aggressive” man? you mean you want an asshole? go chase douchebags if you want
-well of course she goes after Josh, but why she wanna keep the ring like she can’t be real LMAO

Tiffany & Brett
-yes yes yes

Irina, Micah
-whatever teenage mean girls

!! spoiler !!

I rewatched the whole show recently trying to remember how each character actually was and what they did. Then I made this list while watching it through.

I’m interested in hearing your thoughts too.

Deserved:
Benji: killed someone in the past
Ron: an abuser
Jasper: it’s easy to assume he killed some people
Henderson: a sexual assailant and pedofile
Joe’s dad: an abuser
The Quinn’s au pair (by Love): a sexual assailant
Ryan: did a revenge porn to Marienne
Love: a serial killer even killing innocent people as well
Simon: kinda neutral but he drugged his assistants so maybe deserved
Gemma: let her driver run over a pheasant, but the reason Joe killed her is silly
Adam (by Tom): a huge douchebag for manipulating Phoebe when she’s mentally broken sm
Tom: killed some ppl that were against him
Bronte’s stalker: tried to kidnap her, I guess planning rape/kill her after, confessed he’s gonna do same thing to women who deserved

Didn’t deserve:
Peach: creepy about being obsessed with Beck and manipulating her but didn’t rape her or anything
A guy who Candace cheated on Joe with: just an asshole
Beck: just a cheater
Delilah (by Love): did nothing wrong
Candace (by Love): just a cheater
Forty (by the police) : just a broken person/asshole
Natalie (by Love): just a home wrecker
James (by Love): did nothing wrong
Malcom: just a cheater sleeping with his own students (but adults)
Phoebe’s bodyguard: did nothing wrong
Rhys: did nothing wrong as long as we know from the show (prolly just a cheater)
Hugo: did nothing wrong but incredibly useless as a billionaire’s bodyguard
Eddie: did nothing wrong, poor guy
Uncle Bob: just against Kate, did nothing wrong
Raegan(by Maddie): just an asshole
Clayton: getting aggressive to Bronte, and put her life in danger but he was desperate and she’s too stupid
Nadia’s dad (indirectly): a poor man💔
A cop searching Joe in the last episode: a poor guy

At the end of the season 4, Joe said “my favorite’s when they ask about the DNA mixup involving some other toes..” in his mind avoiding the question from the interviewer. What does Other toes mean? He cut his own toes off and put it in the pie at the end of the season 3 right?

So we know she killed the au pair, James (an accident lol), Delilah, Candace and Natalie, and hurt Gil and Theo.

Do you think she has killed people constantly in her whole life or it just accelerated after she met Joe?

Rhys is described as a man who did bad things in the past but he redeemed and changed now. That’s why Joe’s obsessed with him. Did the show actually mention what Rhys did in the past? I feel like it shouldn’t be super light stuff bc if it’s, Joe is not gonna be inspired. But also it can’t be the real crime, bc if it’s, he can’t be a mayor people adore.

Please understand I’m writing this with no offense, I’m genuinely curious, I want to know and I don’t have anywhere that I can ask about this.

Shortly my question is that if white people are really afraid of being seen as a bad person from others. I’m not sure if it depends on where you’re from or what culture you have or it’s related to being a Christian?
I’m from east Asia but had lived in a western country for a few years and have interacted with people who are from different countries.
I’ve dated Asians and whites, and realized that when they did something wrong or something not good, the reactions are very different. White guys be like “I’m sorry but I’m not usually like this… I don’t want you to see me as a bad person.. you know I’ve done those nice things for you too right? (Like telling me to see their good sides and try to let me think they’re good ppl?)” something like that. Asians be just saying sorry, explaining why but saying less excuses and cared about how I feel the most? Even the level of what they did isn’t different (it’s not cheating or as big things as it.

Or even between friends, I’ve experienced similar stuff that I’ve never experienced with Asian friends.
Also I saw many crime documentaries where white criminals desperately say “I’m not a bad person!!” while admitting committing murder. I watched many Asian documentaries too and ofc they make excuses to try to get less sentences but they don’t say “I’m not a bad person.”

The only thought I have is that white people like to make others happy. They give compliments to strangers on street or in small talks which I really like and adore them about. Which makes me think that also they like to being seen as a nice person so they can’t stand the idea someone see them as a bad person?

Again, I don’t wanna offend anyone, but if you have any perspective on this, please comment and let me know. I wanna know as many perspectives as I can get.

I mean even Matthew’s not his real father, so Natalie’s basically nothing to Theo, isn’t she? Also Natalie told Joe that Matthew hasn’t seen him much so did she…

After everyone found out Natalie was killed by Gil, Theo took break from the university due to the stress. Like why? Just go to school, kid? Or was he too sensitive?

Disclaimer: it’s not a core or important topic but I’m curious

After Joe&Love&Henry moved to a suburb from LA in S3, both Joe and Love didn’t have a job for a long time. Yes Love just gave birth, and they can live in a huge house with the Quinn’s money but that’s really how they live? Also neighbors didn’t think it’s weird even though they knew Love’s family was rich?

From the middle of S3, Love opened a bakery but Joe? Working for the library was mentioned as a volunteer. He did some book-maintenance thing to send money to Ellie but how much can he make from that? Even he once stole an expensive book from the library…so it means he didn’t have anything he could do a maintenance and sell

I met a guy on bumble in japan. I’m Japanese and he’s European, both of us are 25yo. We were so similar and really clicked each other fast, texted a lot since the very beginning and we planned the first date. He’s in Tokyo, I live two hours away and i was kinda busy so the date was three weeks after we matched. Until then we texted and started video calls a lot even the first & second calls lasted four hours, telling very personal stuff already. He did an exclusive talk within a week. He said he thought I was the one and I thought same (we both love HIMYM so we talked about that stuff often). So we didn’t just flirt each other, talked about our future too (I know it happens in every early stage, but it was like an actual discussion not just dream talking.) He told me he could already say he loved me but I stopped him because I didn’t wanna rush this even tho I was sure, and he understood that.

On the first date, he was sick but he came, we went to a restaurant and it was great, same as texting & calls. After we got his place, I found the toilet seat was dirty so I opened the shelf above looking for some wet wipes.
Then I found the new period pads. I asked him if he had a gf now because I knew he moved in the current place after he broke up with his ex. He said no he was lazy when he moved, so he put everything in the boxes didn’t throw anything away. And HE offered me to see his phone to prove he doesn’t have a gf. So I went it through, it was very clean, so I told him I trust him now. But then suddenly he was like “you don’t trust me until you saw my phone :/“ so I explained how I feel and how impossible I can just trust him after I found it. He didn’t get it but we went to sleep because he said he got sleepy (he was sick so I think it’s valid). And it was awkward in the morning too and we just said goodbye at the station.

We kept texting a few days very minimum things, but then he just ghosted me no text back. The reason he turned off was very stupid and I still don’t understand, so I was disappointed in him but anyway I knew I couldn’t fix it so I just texted him a closure “thanks for everything” stuff but he didn’t even reply back to that…. I know it was a short period, but I just can’t believe someone can be this rude to other person as an adult… like at least he could’ve told me he didn’t wanna continue this? Is he fucking psychopath? Why do ppl ghost others? So immature.