u/Sensitive-Range-2901

Hey 👋 I'm 22F and i've just completed my training to work at McDonalds. I'll be working overnight shifts a few times a week (3-4 nights), and generally from 10pm or 11pm - 6am.

I've got a few questions regarding overnight shifts:

How do they run?

What's it like?

What kind of jobs do you do during that timeframe?

How tiring is it initially and do you adapt over time?

And how does it affect you outside of work? The goods and bars?

Hey 👋 I'm 22F and I live at a refuge. I live with two other people around my age. And admittedly, I'm the slob of the bunch.

I'm not proud of it and I really want to change how I am. Sometimes I manage to keep the house clean and tidy, but if I get overwhelmed, then no. I'm the one that generally leaves a mess too.

A lot of the time I feel very tired and my head feels really weird. Not head-achey but kind of dizzy or something a little bit. Idk sometimes I want to hear something in the background. Cause silence really bothers me. But if I hear stuff then I get overstimulated too.

The main issues include:

• Dishes. I know how to do dishes. I'm not disgusted by dishes. But yeah at times it does overflow and it can get bad.
• The lounge room; the couch is usually a mess with rubbish on it. I don't sit on the other couches cause I don't want to make a mess.
• There's a couch separate from the lounge, a 1 seater, that I sometimes put stuff on.
• The tiny dining table is full of stuff often too.

I really feel ashamed of myself. I feel very weak and like a slob. I'm trying to rebuild myself and get my shit together, and I'm hoping that with that, I'll be more active naturally and will be able to do those chores more. I'm about to print off a 'tick when done' chore list and literally stick it to the wall cause lists help me.

I'm about to start working 2 jobs. 8h shifts each 3-4 days a week each (one normal 9-5 and one 10-6 overnight). I haven't worked much but as stated, I need to practice getting off my arse and saving. I need to save a lot so I can move and get my daughter back, who's currently staying at family friends home.

It's not fair on my housemates either. I'm fortunate enough to have a good relationship with them both. I try doing my bit in other ways too, like I drive them to and from places and cook for them too at times. Still, I just need to get my shit together.

Can someone please recommend some stuff to do? Please? Thank you :)

TL;DR, I'm a slob, I'm embarrassed about it, I need advice on how to clean and tidy more and get into the habit of it. Especially for my housemates sake.

I'd like to know people's experiences dealing with someone who behaves like they're better than everyone else and actively puts other people down at the same time.

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I just want to know why some men hold chronic contempt towards their partners, to the point of outright never wanting to hear their partners out and always thinking purely negative about them; well, either their partners or ex partners.

Especially guys who hold a superiority complex towards their partner/ex partner, and don't like it when they've improved themselves over time?

Note: I 100% know that not all men are like this. I'm just asking the ones who have felt this before. I'd like to know why, and what you would have wanted to do to resolve it, or what you would have wanted the other person to do to resolve it? (It takes two btw).

I just want to know why some men hold chronic contempt towards their partners, to the point of outright never wanting to hear their partners out and always thinking purely negative about them; well, either their partners or ex partners.

Especially guys who hold a superiority complex towards their partner/ex partner, and don't like it when they've improved themselves over time?

Note: I 100% know that not all men are like this. I'm just asking the ones who have felt this before. I'd like to know why, and what you would have wanted to do to resolve it, or what you would have wanted the other person to do to resolve it? (It takes two btw).

Hey everyone. This is random but I kind of tried to create a few words about how I feel about certain things. They both represent ambivalent emotions. What are your thoughts?

​Aspiread (noun) /əˈspaɪrɛd/

Definition: A feeling of wanting to pursue, learn, experience, or achieve something while simultaneously feeling reluctant because it is associated with a negative person, memory, or experience.

Example: "She felt aspiread about learning Norse history; the subject fascinated her, but it reminded her of a difficult relationship"

Aspiread (adjective)

Definition: "Describing a goal, interest, or activity that is both desired and emotionally difficult to approach due to negative associations."

Example: "Anglo-Saxon history is an aspiread topic for me."

And...

Admisdain (noun) /ædmɪsˈdeɪn/

Definition: A mixed feeling of admiration and disdain toward a person; respect for their abilities, qualities, or achievements combined with contempt, resentment, or disapproval of their behaviour, character, or treatment of others.

Example: "He inspired admisdain in many people—they respected his intelligence but disliked his arrogance."

Admisdain (verb)

Definition: To simultaneously admire and disdain someone.

Example: "I admisdain him; he's accomplished a lot, but he constantly belittles people."

Hey everyone. This is random but I kind of tried to create a few words about how I feel about certain things. They both represent ambivalent emotions. What are your thoughts?

​Aspiread (noun) /əˈspaɪrɛd/

Definition: A feeling of wanting to pursue, learn, experience, or achieve something while simultaneously feeling reluctant because it is associated with a negative person, memory, or experience.

Example: "She felt aspiread about learning Norse history; the subject fascinated her, but it reminded her of a difficult relationship"

Aspiread (adjective)

Definition: "Describing a goal, interest, or activity that is both desired and emotionally difficult to approach due to negative associations."

Example: "Anglo-Saxon history is an aspiread topic for me."

And...

Admisdain (noun) /ædmɪsˈdeɪn/

Definition: A mixed feeling of admiration and disdain toward a person; respect for their abilities, qualities, or achievements combined with contempt, resentment, or disapproval of their behaviour, character, or treatment of others.

Example: "He inspired admisdain in many people—they respected his intelligence but disliked his arrogance."

Admisdain (verb)

Definition: To simultaneously admire and disdain someone.

Example: "I admisdain him; he's accomplished a lot, but he constantly belittles people."

22F here. Need honest male perspectives because this entire situation has messed with my head.

I was talking to this guy for a while and we became really emotionally close. We spoke basically every night, called each other, snapped all the time etc. He was inconsistent at times but still kept coming back and maintaining contact. I eventually asked him directly whether he wanted something more serious or not because I don't do well with emotional limbo forever.

After that, he started distancing HARD. Minimal engagement, avoiding emotional conversations, leaving messages unopened etc. I eventually reached out again recently because I missed him and wanted connection. I was vulnerable but calm about it. No abuse, no rage, no begging. I even apologised if I made him feel pressured.

Then suddenly I get a message from some girl claiming to be his girlfriend saying: "Go find someone else's dick to ride. He has his upgrade. You ain't needed anymore."

Then she threatened me and said: "If I see one more text or call on his phone from you, the next place your friends and family will be calling is the funeral home."

She also found my Snapchat, screenshotted selfies I posted, and clearly went looking through my profile.

I responded telling her she could have him, called him a coward, and told her to "sit and spin on it ☝️" because I was reporting the threat to police. Which I actually did. I gave police both names and numbers because I don't play around with threats like that.

I then called him and confronted him directly. He denied knowing her at first, then started calling ME psycho and obsessed once I sent screenshots. He called her his 'bitch' and 'girl'. He also started bringing up unrelated personal stuff I'd previously trusted him enough to tell him.

What confuses me is this:

if he wanted absolutely nothing to do with me, why never block me?

why keep watching my stuff?

why keep emotionally engaging with me for so long?

why distance specifically after I asked what he actually wanted?

and why did the girlfriend react THAT strongly if he apparently didn't care about me?

From a male perspective, what does this behaviour actually sound like? Because I genuinely feel like I've been thrown into some weird avoidant/triangle mess and now I'm trying to work out what was even real.

Also, for God sakes, Idk how I got tied with this guy he wasn't an asshole when we started talking. Point is that we're not anymore.