u/Severe-Ostrich-5876

hello,

so i knew myself as an empath for years .. i absorbed peoples energy all the time, even during the times no one knew why i disliked this or that person but i had this strong fut feeling. I knew if a place is good or bad too (of course not totally but id just know there’s something wrong) .

I also went across ridicules narcissists but that was yeaaars ago and after that a lost my father and my family and I changed our home due to demolitions and gentrification basically and i had alot of financial struggles afterwards .. 5 years forward now i am this hyper vigilant defensive girl that gets triggered easily, i know and smell bullsh*t from kilometers away. and sometimes its not even that serious . I criticize alot as if i dont like anyone or anything its like i just bring out my knowledge of other peoples weaknesses all the time and its not nice.

i completely lost my empathy its scaring me. and i used to be innocent .. now I’m not i am very aware and i dont like what i do with my awareness. im scared of myself and tried to read about perfectionism to try to fix it (cause apparently some say thats the issue cause im trying to avoid vulnerability)

I’d like to get some insight on this situation.

thanks

hello,

so i knew myself as an empath for years .. i absorbed peoples energy all the time, even during the times no one knew why i disliked this or that person but i had this strong fut feeling. I knew if a place is good or bad too (of course not totally but id just know there’s something wrong) .

I also went across ridicules narcissists but that was yeaaars ago and after that a lost my father and my family and I changed our home due to demolitions and gentrification basically and i had alot of financial struggles afterwards .. 5 years forward now i am this hyper vigilant defensive girl that gets triggered easily, i know and smell bullsh*t from kilometers away. and sometimes its not even that serious . I criticize alot as if i dont like anyone or anything its like i just bring out my knowledge of other peoples weaknesses all the time and its not nice.

i completely lost my empathy its scaring me. and i used to be innocent .. now I’m not i am very aware and i dont like what i do with my awareness. im scared of myself and tried to read about perfectionism to try to fix it (cause apparently some say thats the issue cause im trying to avoid vulnerability)

I’d like to get some insight on this situation.

thanks

ابغا استراحة او شاليه بمجلس كبير، وكل ما ادور الاقي باطراف جدة وشي مقطوع.

ابغا مجلس كبير بس وماني لاقيه بوسط جدة

as far as my memory goes, i always had dry lips and dr/ pigmented around the mouth area.

I tried azelaic acid, vitamin c , niacinamide, and a bit of glycolic acid sometimes. + sunscreen all the time. tried all that for like a good 3 months, and i didnt see any serious change.

however, I noticed something . around the time i started this routine. i did my teeth and the dentist prescribed this sls free -but contains fluoride-. i used it for couple of months and then when it finished i just went back to a one that contains sls. *obviously wasn’t aware about this sls thing even*

2 weeks into this new toothpaste and i notice that around my mouth got even darker. the tiny minor improvement that i thought wasn’t enough got even worse.

+ i had a forever chapped lips syndrome, and i saw on reddit that sls free toothpaste helps with that.

now my theory is sls/ fluoride might be the culprit here, it might be irritating my skin or drying it for all these years. i got me a sls, and fluoride free toothpaste . and i will see how it effects both chapped lips and hyperpigmentation with time and update here.

ps. will still use vitamin c and azelaic acid .

If anyone has experienced such thing or can confirm please let me know.

Keto stopped working for me but i thought maybe it did because i added so much fat.

first 2 months i lost 5kg and after that i stopped losing weight.

took a break for couple of weeks, went back on It list nothing, and this happened twice.

i am 165cm tall and my weight is ~61 or 62

but its not really ideal because i have more fat, basically im skinny fat.

shouuld i try keto again or will it be hopeless

what is the single most thing that made you just stop caring what others think?

im just riddled with shame and insecurity and perhaps a good amount of perfectionism

hey, so my wedding is coming up soon and i have this we chronic hyperpigmentation around my mouth .. i did a routine of vitmanin c, niacinamide , and azelaic acid . Of course i used sunscreen and avoided the sun like the plague .

but nothing .
its still there .. i dont know what to do about it, is there anything else i can do?

If a girl is getting married and the groom family gave her like 2k for clothes and preparations and later on she’ll get like 6k as mehr .

and the girl still thinks its not enough , is that reasonable or more should be given?

hi, so i was diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety, but im afraid i have narcissistic personality disorder too.

first , i feel that i am so very self centered, i am extremely sensitive but i feel that it all rev around me, i used to be empathetic but i guess no more? or maybe my empathy was fake all along like just so that i get the status of the kind loving girl/ big sister like friend? idk

second, i feel very angry when someone tries to belittle me or show authority over me, no it always has to be we are both equal, if someone crosses my lines or tries to show me who's the boss i have to show them their place like i never let it slide for people.

third, i am afraid i am abusive , i tend to yell at my family in times of misunderstanding or when they blame me , and i feel so guilty after that , i know narcs dont feel guilt but maybe i am one cause a part of the guilt is me being soooo afraid that i was abusive and people will leave me because of that?

and last, i feel like im very judgmental of myself and others it actually hurts like i genuinely cant accept my self and cant accept my peoples flaws.

i really want to change badly it scares me what i have become. i