u/ShreyS2006

I joined medical college thinking it would be the beginning of a new life. New people, new experiences, close friendships, maybe even people I’d finally feel understood around. But somewhere in these past 6 months, I feel like I’ve changed a lot

I did make friends. Some stayed, some drifted away, some situations ended because of me, some because people just changed. I got attached too quickly to people, overthought a lot of things, expected depth from temporary bonds and ended up hurting myself more than anyone else. I think somewhere along the way I forgot how to just “be” around people without constantly questioning where I stand with them

What hurts the most is not even losing people, but realising how emotionally exhausting it gets when you keep trying to hold connections together while feeling unwanted at the same time

Medical college has honestly made me more isolated than I’ve ever been. Academically I’m struggling, mentally I’m tired, socially I’ve stopped expecting much from anyone anymore. I used to yearn a lot for friendships and closeness, but now I just feel drained. At this point I genuinely just want peace. I want to focus on surviving first year, fixing my health, becoming disciplined and learning how to be okay with myself

Maybe I’ll still make meaningful friendships in the future, maybe I won’t. But I think I’ve stopped chasing the idea of “finding my people” desperately. I’ve realised not everyone gets a perfect friend group or a “college family” and maybe that’s okay

And honestly, if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s this, don’t lose yourself trying to be liked by people. Be kind, be genuine, but don’t build your entire self-worth around friendships, replies, attention or validation. People come and go a lot faster in life than we expect, so learn how to stay with yourself too

For now, I just want to learn how to enjoy my own company again

I joined medical college thinking it would be the beginning of a new life. New people, new experiences, close friendships, maybe even people I’d finally feel understood around. But somewhere in these past 6 months, I feel like I’ve changed a lot

I did make friends. Some stayed, some drifted away, some situations ended because of me, some because people just changed. I got attached too quickly to people, overthought a lot of things, expected depth from temporary bonds and ended up hurting myself more than anyone else. I think somewhere along the way I forgot how to just “be” around people without constantly questioning where I stand with them

What hurts the most is not even losing people, but realising how emotionally exhausting it gets when you keep trying to hold connections together while feeling unwanted at the same time

Medical college has honestly made me more isolated than I’ve ever been. Academically I’m struggling, mentally I’m tired, socially I’ve stopped expecting much from anyone anymore. I used to yearn a lot for friendships and closeness, but now I just feel drained. At this point I genuinely just want peace. I want to focus on surviving first year, fixing my health, becoming disciplined and learning how to be okay with myself

Maybe I’ll still make meaningful friendships in the future, maybe I won’t. But I think I’ve stopped chasing the idea of “finding my people” desperately. I’ve realised not everyone gets a perfect friend group or a “college family” and maybe that’s okay

And honestly, if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s this, don’t lose yourself trying to be liked by people. Be kind, be genuine, but don’t build your entire self-worth around friendships, replies, attention or validation. People come and go a lot faster in life than we expect, so learn how to stay with yourself too

For now, I just want to learn how to enjoy my own company again

I got really close to someone over time and the bond genuinely felt very real. We would call a lot, send random photos/videos, comfort each other, tease each other and be involved in each other’s daily life. At one point it genuinely felt like one of the closest bonds I had.

But recently I started realizing something that honestly hurt me a lot.

I know almost everything about their life, moods, problems, day etc because I was always the one listening, asking, checking up and emotionally showing up. But when I actually looked back properly, they rarely ever tried to know me with the same depth. Like yes, they cared about me in some way, but I slowly started feeling emotionally invisible in a bond that felt emotionally close.

What confuses me is that they still call sometimes, still send random things, still interact normally, which is why I can’t even call the bond fake. But the emotional balance feels completely off now and I don’t know if I noticed the imbalance late or if the dynamic itself changed recently.

And before people ask no, I wasn’t expecting love or a relationship. I genuinely would’ve been happy with a close mutual friendship too. I just wanted to feel emotionally seen as well instead of always becoming “the listener.”

Has anyone else gone through something like this where the bond is real but the reciprocity slowly disappears

I got really close to someone over time and the bond genuinely felt very real. We would call a lot, send random photos/videos, comfort each other, tease each other and be involved in each other’s daily life. At one point it genuinely felt like one of the closest bonds I had.

But recently I started realizing something that honestly hurt me a lot.

I know almost everything about their life, moods, problems, day etc because I was always the one listening, asking, checking up and emotionally showing up. But when I actually looked back properly, they rarely ever tried to know me with the same depth. Like yes, they cared about me in some way, but I slowly started feeling emotionally invisible in a bond that felt emotionally close.

What confuses me is that they still call sometimes, still send random things, still interact normally, which is why I can’t even call the bond fake. But the emotional balance feels completely off now and I don’t know if I noticed the imbalance late or if the dynamic itself changed recently.

And before people ask no, I wasn’t expecting love or a relationship. I genuinely would’ve been happy with a close mutual friendship too. I just wanted to feel emotionally seen as well instead of always becoming “the listener.”

Has anyone else gone through something like this where the bond is real but the reciprocity slowly disappears

1st year MBBS student from a deemed university here. I'm honestly really stressed about attendance right now and wanted some advice from seniors.

My attendance is currently around 55-60% in almost all subjects. I do have genuine health certificates/documentation for the days I missed, but I'm still really scared about whether I'll face problems later regarding eligibility or internals.

Our college apparently conducts remedial classes for students with low attendance, so I'm hoping that helps a bit. I've also started attending regularly now and plan to continue properly till classes end around mid-July.

Another thing is that I haven't really studied much consistently till now either, so I'm kind of overwhelmed by both attendance + academics together.

For seniors who were in a similar situation:

- Were remedials enough to recover attendance?

- Did medical certificates actually help?

- Is 55-60% at this stage recoverable if I attend regularly from now?

- What should I focus on first: attendance, internals, or university prep?

Would genuinely appreciate honest advice because this has been stressing me out a lot lately.

1st year MBBS student from a deemed university here. I’m honestly really stressed about attendance right now and wanted some advice from seniors.

My attendance is currently around 55–60% in almost all subjects. I do have genuine health certificates/documentation for the days I missed, but I’m still really scared about whether I’ll face problems later regarding eligibility or internals.

Our college apparently conducts remedial classes for students with low attendance, so I’m hoping that helps a bit. I’ve also started attending regularly now and plan to continue properly till classes end around mid-July.

Another thing is that I haven’t really studied much consistently till now either, so I’m kind of overwhelmed by both attendance + academics together.

For seniors who were in a similar situation:

Were remedials enough to recover attendance?

Did medical certificates actually help?

Is 55–60% at this stage recoverable if I attend regularly from now?

What should I focus on first: attendance, internals, or university prep?

Would genuinely appreciate honest advice because this has been stressing me out a lot lately.

1st year MBBS student from a deemed university here. I’m honestly really stressed about attendance right now and wanted some advice from seniors.

My attendance is currently around 55–60% in almost all subjects. I do have genuine health certificates/documentation for the days I missed, but I’m still really scared about whether I’ll face problems later regarding eligibility or internals.

Our college apparently conducts remedial classes for students with low attendance, so I’m hoping that helps a bit. I’ve also started attending regularly now and plan to continue properly till classes end around mid-July.

Another thing is that I haven’t really studied much consistently till now either, so I’m kind of overwhelmed by both attendance + academics together.

For seniors who were in a similar situation:

- Were remedials enough to recover attendance?

- Did medical certificates actually help?

- Is 55–60% at this stage recoverable if I attend regularly from now?

- What should I focus on first: attendance, internals, or university prep?

Would genuinely appreciate honest advice because this has been stressing me out a lot lately.

Looking to form connections here as the people in medschool suck

I am 20 & I am in MBBS & the thing is I am not really vibing with people here & all I want is good friendships even if online. I want people who vibe with me & won't ghost me & ain't snakes