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My gf (27F) broke up with me (34M).

We have been temporarily long distance 3 months due to me having to take a temporary trip to my home country due to health and family reasons.

During this, one day she sends me photos which make it clear to me that she broke a boundary that was important to me and I have repeatedly communicated over the years and was no doubt clear to her that it might make me uncomfortable. She has broken my other boundaries repeatedly in the previous years. I have stressed that before doing something it's always better to ask me upfront if unclear.

I am dealing with an extremely stressful life situation with an impactful disability and was traveling. Seeing that proof made me send her a message that I regretted where I stated i didn't feel emotionally safe to be exclusive anymore. I sent it because it was clear to me that in that moment she didn't care about my emotional safety as a partner. I regret reacting with that message but I can't change the past.

Weeks later she sends a few messages on that she should leave and disappears and ghosts. She hasn't responded in two weeks and I am not going to send her any more messages and will try to move on.

This was end of a 4 year relationship. when I tried to call once and then weeks later in my final messages asked for a call she didn't respond.

I regret my side of it but I can't change it. I sent her explanatory messages. I have been dealing with one of the toughest times of my life when my nervous system was already fried, my disability is a neurological disease and then her sending provocative stuff made me respond in a way that i regret.

But now I can't fix this because while she has read every message i have sent she has already moved out, asked where to leave the keys and has ghosted. I am not gonna Initiate contact anymore and will focus on moving on and forgetting about her.

Sad story but at the same time I feel like I only saw her true colors now about how easily she can discard and abandon me and doesnt even agree to a call. I feel like I don't know this person anymore. We used to live together for 3+ years and spent every day together.

My gf (27F) broke up with me (34M).

We have been temporarily long distance 3 months due to me having to take a temporary trip to my home country due to health and family reasons.

During this, one day she sends me photos which make it clear to me that she broke a boundary that was important to me and I have repeatedly communicated over the years and was no doubt clear to her that it might make me uncomfortable. She has broken my other boundaries repeatedly in the previous years. I have stressed that before doing something it's always better to ask me upfront if unclear.

I am dealing with an extremely stressful life situation with an impactful disability and was traveling. Seeing that proof made me send her a message that I regretted where I stated i didn't feel emotionally safe to be exclusive anymore. I sent it because it was clear to me that in that moment she didn't care about my emotional safety as a partner. I regret reacting with that message but I can't change the past.

Weeks later she sends a few messages on that she should leave and disappears and ghosts. She hasn't responded in two weeks and I am not going to send her any more messages and will try to move on.

This was end of a 4 year relationship. when I tried to call once and then weeks later in my final messages asked for a call she didn't respond.

I regret my side of it but I can't change it. I sent her explanatory messages. I have been dealing with one of the toughest times of my life when my nervous system was already fried, my disability is a neurological disease and then her sending provocative stuff made me respond in a way that i regret.

But now I can't fix this because while she has read every message i have sent she has already moved out, asked where to leave the keys and has ghosted. I am not gonna Initiate contact anymore and will focus on moving on and forgetting about her.

Sad story but at the same time I feel like I only saw her true colors now about how easily she can discard and abandon me and doesnt even agree to a call. I feel like I don't know this person anymore. We used to live together for 3+ years and spent every day together.

Im curious, has anyone been misdiagnosed with a primary or comorbid psychiatric disorder (alongside migraine) and then turned out the meds they got from psychiatrist were not needed or not right at all?

Or that the risk of psychiatric meds was unnecessary because the migraine specific preventatives also faded the psychiatric symptoms?

I know that they can be comorbid however are there cases where psych med use turned out was not unavoidable?

Having lived with this disease unknowingly for potentialy years or decades with it silently affecting me I see that I am building castles of sand only to watch them be washed away.

With this unpredictable nature of this disease it becomes hard to take action in life as usually healthy citizens make long term plans, plant the seeds and watch their sacrifices bring fruits. They take calculated risks, sacrifice short term pleasure for long term rewards, take on responsibilities and have a conventional path of life.

But not with a chronic migraine disease. It throws this aspect of life upside down.

How did you adapt to this?

It feels like living only a short term centric life makes sense. If living a long term lifestyle then potentially efforts wont bear fruit as this disease has a tendency to destroy anything that is beyond just living in the monent.

Hi everyone,
I’ll have a 9‑hour layover in Beijing (arrival 04:40, departure 14:00) and I’m trying to figure out if my plan is realistic. I’m traveling on an EU passport, so I can use the 24‑hour transit entry. It's gonna be on 20th May.

Here’s my rough timeline:

• 04:40–05:55: Immigration + 24‑hour entry permit.
• 05:55–07:05: Airport Express + subway to Tiananmen East.
• 07:05–08:30: Breakfast / short walk near Tiananmen Square.
• 08:30–10:30: Forbidden City visit (2 hours inside, ticket booked online in advance).
• 10:30–11:40: Return trip to PEK via subway + Airport Express.
• 11:40–14:00: Security + boarding buffer.

Budget estimate: ~¥160–200 (€21–26) including transport, ticket, food, and optional luggage storage.
I’m planning to skip Wangfujing to keep things simple, but I might want to grab some specialty tea (like green tea or hibiscus) quickly near Dongzhimen station on the way back.

Questions:

1. Is 2 hours inside the Forbidden City realistic with this schedule, including breakfast?
2. How strict is Air China with the 5 kg cabin baggage limit in practice?
3. Any tips for buying specialty tea quickly near Dongzhimen station and is it realistic on the way back?
4. I have a China T-Union Octopus card i got in HK that i can top up. Will this do or will I need AliPay or cash?
5. Will i get by those hours without a sim card?

Anyone else is bothered by visual snow much more indoors than when looking far outdoors?