u/Specialist-Bid-3548

Hi everyone :) I've been growing out my hair for around half a year now after not knowing what to do with it originally, and now I find myself wanting to at least tidy up my hairstyle a little bit. I have very thick, dense hair and sometimes it's hard to manage it or get it to look good instead of messy. Also, my hair texture has changed significantly in the past few years (I used to have straighter hair, and it's curlier now) and I really don't know how to take care of it. I usually just wash it with shampoo, don't use any conditioner or gel, don't comb it, and let it air dry. Pics 1 and 2 are after I combed part of my fringe, in the rest of the pics I didn't comb or straighten it.

I don't want to drastically cut it since I'm satisfied with the length and general style, I feel that it frames my features way better than short hair did. I'm just looking for suggestions on ways to style it, similar hairstyles that would fit me, or general advice to get it to look good. Thank you everyone!!

I've been dealing with a lot of dysphoria brainworms lately so maybe it's that, but I despise the way my lower torso looks and I don't know if I can ever fix it. The fact that almost all of the fat in my body goes to my hips and thighs makes me feel like shit about myself and keeps me wearing swim shirts every time I go to the beach so people can't see my hips. On my day to day I feel better about it by wearing clothes that just squash them and give my torso a more boxy shape, but they're still there and I can barely look at myself in the mirror.

Before the obvious comments, yes, I'm already working on losing weight and starting a calorie deficit soon; I don't work out, I'm trying to do more exercise by doing things that I enjoy like swimming and walking, but every time I've tried to go to the gym I've struggled with being consistent and quit after a couple of weeks. I don't mind being fat, I don't mind not having a six pack or looking like a bodybuilder, I'd be really happy with my current body if I only didn't have these stupid hips. I've been 5 years on T and it feels like somehow my fat hasn't redistributed at all despite having lost and then gained weight around the 3.5 year mark.

I pass and am stealth in my day to day life, and people only know I'm trans if I disclose it myself.

I've been dealing with a lot of dysphoria brainworms lately so maybe it's that, but I despise the way my lower torso looks and I don't know if I can ever fix it. The fact that almost all of the fat in my body goes to my hips and thighs makes me feel like shit about myself and keeps me wearing swim shirts every time I go to the beach so people can't see my hips. On my day to day I feel better about it by wearing clothes that just squash them and give my torso a more boxy shape, but they're still there and I can barely look at myself in the mirror.

Before the obvious comments, yes, I'm already working on losing weight and starting a calorie deficit soon; I don't work out, I'm trying to do more exercise by doing things that I enjoy like swimming and walking, but every time I've tried to go to the gym I've struggled with being consistent and quit after a couple of weeks. I don't mind being fat, I don't mind not having a six pack or looking like a bodybuilder, I'd be really happy with my current body if I only didn't have these stupid hips. I've been 5 years on T and it feels like somehow my fat hasn't redistributed at all despite having lost and then gained weight around the 3.5 year mark.

I pass and am stealth in my day to day life, and people only know I'm trans if I disclose it myself.

I'm 5 years on T and pass pretty well but the dysphoria brainworms have been getting to me lately and I really feel like I have very feminine facial features and I only pass because of my facial hair. Am I right or is it just my imagination?

EDIT: WOW OKAY thank you so much for all of the comments. It might sound stupid but my dysphoria has been really getting to me lately (mostly because my height and body shape are some of my biggest insecurities) and I keep comparing myself to your average muscular trans man bodybuilder and it's been messing with my brain. I don't have time to reply to all of the individual comments but thank you so so much, it means a lot. Also to the transphobe that just commented: I'll keep on injecting T as much as I want <3

I'm never improvising a vegan cheesecake recipe again because getting the "cheese" part to be consistent almost cost me my sanity