Since coming to the realization that I am FA, I have made a lot of progress in how I show up in relationships; expressing myself more, putting boundaries etc
But I have hit a wall. I still fall into a lot of the same behaviors and thought patterns
I feel I cannot progress further on my own and need support.
What therapy do you think is best for interpersonal trauma?
I notice that I avoid doing things because of the emotional experience I think I will have.
Like, anything I am not familiar with or havent done before. Things that will force me to grow. Things where I will have to show up differently than I am used to.
Does IFS help with emotional regulation and avoidance behavior?
Hoi allemaal!
Ik ben een jong persoon pas in Nederland, en ik zoek naar een baan.
Ik heb naar een paar plekken gesolliciteerd via werkzoeken.nl
Ik heb een paar berichten gehad, maar er is een plek en rol die exact is wat ik nu wil.
Alleen brengt de wervingsproces vragen in mij op.
Alles wordt online gedaan. Ik werd over de rol verteld, uurloon, werktijden etc via whatsapp.
De persoon zei dat ik mijn documenten kan sturen en dan zullen ze een contract opmaken. Ik kan ook gelijk beginnen.
Dit ben ik niet gewend. Normaal is er een telefonisch gesprek en dan een interview ter plekke.
Toen ik vroeg naar een telefonisch gesprek (om me er beter over te voelen), kreeg ik te horen dat de baas dat doet maar die is even niet beschikbaar.
Als recruiter zou je toch ook zelf met een sollicitant kunnen spreken?
Mijn angst is dat mijn gegevens worden gebruikt voor fraude of om me te scammen.
Mijn vraag naar jullie is, is het normaal dat dit volledig online wordt gedaan?
En controleerd werkzoeken.nl dat de posts van echte bedrijven zijn?
Hi everyone.
I am a young person who has just moved to the Netherlands, and I am looking for a job.
I applied for a few on werkzoeken.nl
A few places replied but there is one that is exactly what I am looking for right now.
However the recruitment process is raising a few questions in my brain.
Everything is done online. And they said I could start right away.
I have been told about the role, the hourly rate etc, and the person I am chatting with said I can just send my documents and they will make up a contract.
I am not used to this.
Usually you have a phone call and then an in person interview.
I asked if we could call, but they said boss does that and they are not available for a bit.
I do not want to risk my identity being stolen or anything of the sort.
Does werkzoeken.nl check that the people who post are real companies?
And how common is recruitment done fully online?
I wanna learn more about IFS and self help/healing in general, especially since I can't afford a therapist right now.
I couldn't find the Jay Earley workbook at my local library, but I found this one.
Have any of you read it? What did you think? Was it at all helpful?
Also, if anyone has a link to where I could read or download any of Jay Earleys or Richard Schwartz' work online, that would be greatly appreciated!
I have 7 month old locs. I had someone do my locs for me for free all this time. But I have recently moved to a new place and I cannot afford to pay someone to do it. I am trying to learn to do it myself but am struggling. I have a lot of regrowth.
I'm trying the 4 point rotation, but when I do top to bottom, the hair twists on two sides and its really thin, and I can't get the hook through left to right. And when I let it go it just bunches up.
I have added a picture.
I am using a crochet latch hook by the way.
Please advice or links to tutorials I can use 😭
I thought about calling her. I felt a bit of fear wash over me.
It has been a month since I have moved, and I have not contacted her. She's going to be mad.
Then I realized; I will no longer be in trouble when she is upset.
She probably is upset. But her feelings aren't mine to manage. They are entirely her responsibility.
I was going to break nc because the guilt creeped up on me. Nice try, Guilt.
This feels really nice, actually.
The title. I wanted to use an app, but most are behind a paywall. I am broke and cannot afford that right now.
Do any of you know free calculator apps, or do I just do it on paper?
I've been on a healing journey for a few years now.
I am at a point where I know where most my trauma and issues have come from.
I know why I am the way I am, why behave in certain ways.
All the books are on my reading list, some already finished.
But it seems no matter how much I know, I still don't feel better or do better.
I know I am safe now but I can't stop fawning.
I don't know how to get my body to understand what my mind already knows.
It is so frustrating
Anyone else deal with this and have advice?
Dear nurses of reddit,
I am 21, and after a year of working in customer service, I have learned that I like to be of service, and I wanna do it in a more impactful way. So I have decided to sign up for a year long learning and working CNA program.
However, I contracted a virus almost a month ago. The main after-effect is joint pain, and it can go on for months or years after the initial infection.
I am devastated.
I have just moved to a very nice walkable city with lots of things to do, and had been looking forward to getting more active.
But I don't even have the energy to leave the house. I stay in bed for hours. It's been hard to walk properly the past few days as my right ankle is swollen. My wrists and knees hurt too, and it hurts when I do certain movements, lifting things or even doing the dishes.
I never thought I would be dealing with this. I wish I had appreciated having painless joints more.
I also dont like the thought of taking painkillers for a long time, because I also have stomach issues, but it looks like I'm gonna have to :(
I still want to be a nurse.
If you have an illness that causes you mild or severe pain, my question to you is, how do you manage?