u/Specific-Dragonfly88

hiii i was wondering if anyone has seen/knows if the red do that again will be sold on tour?

okay so my bf (19M) and i (19f) have been dating since mid December. we just finished our freshman year of college. neither of us like the school or area very much. it’s a small school in the midwest and he’s from a big city across the country. i’m from the midwest but in the suburbs in a different state. we both struggled making friends/finding people who we felt we clicked with even though we had a couple friends. he has a small friend group that he likes and i have a couple friends here and there. we have been doing long distance for the summer, it’s been going really well, not any arguments and we’ve been good at communicating.

3 weeks ago, he flew me out (paid for my ticket and everything) to meet his whole family and stay with them for a week. i got to see his state, bonded with his sister and hung out with her 1v1, met all of his friends and other relatives who he had never introduced anyone to before. on the last couple days of the trip he told me he loved me for the first time and i said it back. he also said that he had never told anyone girl that before or felt that way about someone before.

we were both really sad when i had to go home after the trip but we thought it would be okay. and it was?? we were having ongoing texting convos throughout the days, face timing every night or every other for at least 30 minutes usually and it was really good. however this past week one of his high school best friends who moved after graduation came to stay with him. he seemed really excited that odie was visiting and i was so happy to see him in such a good mood. we face-timed the first couple days but he was really busy having the old gang back tg so i stopped asking to ft since i knew they were out doing stuff and i figured he would ask eventually. but we were still texting normally, not dry at all, so i figured everything was okay. 2 days late at night while i was asleep he texted me saying we needed to talk, and then later the next day we facetimed.

on the call, he started talking about how bittersweet it was having his friend visit since it made him think about how happy he was during high school, and how his mental health hasn’t been the same in college. i agreed and i’m ACTUALLY IN THE SAME SITUATION, i was considering transferring for awhile.

he then goes on to say that if sophomore year doesn’t go well for him then he would transfer which i understand….i literally feel the same way and have been telling him this. he then starts saying we need to break up because he needs to focus on making friends and himself and he would “have a different mentality about everything” if we were still together. he also mentioned that he wouldn’t be a good bf to me and that i’m looking for a person long term which he said he was too. he mentioned how he had only been thinking about this the last couple days, he kept saying he loved our time together, me visiting was so great one of the best weeks of the year, and that i was a good partner to him,

i don’t know exactly why i’m posting this. i’m in shock. we really were good. nothing was wrong. i don’t understand it exactly. i want him to come back ☹️ and awhile ago he said he never goes back to girls he’s dated and he just leaves them alone after, so i doubt that will ever happen

i’m looking for some support on how to get through this, take my mind off everything. and also i kinda want someone to nicely tell me if it’s worth having any hope or if i just need to get over it.

okay so my bf (19M) and i (19f) have been dating since mid December. we just finished our freshman year of college. neither of us like the school or area very much. it’s a small school in the midwest and he’s from a big city across the country. i’m from the midwest but in the suburbs in a different state. we both struggled making friends/finding people who we felt we clicked with even though we had a couple friends. he has a small friend group that he likes and i have a couple friends here and there. we have been doing long distance for the summer, it’s been going really well, not any arguments and we’ve been good at communicating.

3 weeks ago, he flew me out (paid for my ticket and everything) to meet his whole family and stay with them for a week. i got to see his state, bonded with his sister and hung out with her 1v1, met all of his friends and other relatives who he had never introduced anyone to before. on the last couple days of the trip he told me he loved me for the first time and i said it back. he also said that he had never told anyone girl that before or felt that way about someone before.

we were both really sad when i had to go home after the trip but we thought it would be okay. and it was?? we were having ongoing texting convos throughout the days, face timing every night or every other for at least 30 minutes usually and it was really good. however this past week one of his high school best friends who moved after graduation came to stay with him. he seemed really excited that odie was visiting and i was so happy to see him in such a good mood. we face-timed the first couple days but he was really busy having the old gang back tg so i stopped asking to ft since i knew they were out doing stuff and i figured he would ask eventually. but we were still texting normally, not dry at all, so i figured everything was okay. 2 days late at night while i was asleep he texted me saying we needed to talk, and then later the next day we facetimed.

on the call, he started talking about how bittersweet it was having his friend visit since it made him think about how happy he was during high school, and how his mental health hasn’t been the same in college. i agreed and i’m ACTUALLY IN THE SAME SITUATION, i was considering transferring for awhile.

he then goes on to say that if sophomore year doesn’t go well for him then he would transfer which i understand….i literally feel the same way and have been telling him this. he then starts saying we need to break up because he needs to focus on making friends and himself and he would “have a different mentality about everything” if we were still together. he also mentioned that he wouldn’t be a good bf to me and that i’m looking for a person long term which he said he was too. he mentioned how he had only been thinking about this the last couple days, he kept saying he loved our time together, me visiting was so great one of the best weeks of the year, and that i was a good partner to him,

i don’t know exactly why i’m posting this. i’m in shock. we really were good. nothing was wrong. i don’t understand it exactly. i want him to come back ☹️ and awhile ago he said he never goes back to girls he’s dated and he just leaves them alone after, so i doubt that will ever happen

i’m looking for some support on how to get through this, take my mind off everything. and also i kinda want someone to nicely tell me if it’s worth having any hope or if i just need to get over it.

okay so my bf (19M) and i (19f) have been dating since mid December. we just finished our freshman year of college. neither of us like the school or area very much. it’s a small school in the midwest and he’s from a big city across the country. i’m from the midwest but in the suburbs in a different state. we both struggled making friends/finding people who we felt we clicked with even though we had a couple friends. he has a small friend group that he likes and i have a couple friends here and there. we have been doing long distance for the summer, it’s been going really well, not any arguments and we’ve been good at communicating.

3 weeks ago, he flew me out (paid for my ticket and everything) to meet his whole family and stay with them for a week. i got to see his state, bonded with his sister and hung out with her 1v1, met all of his friends and other relatives who he had never introduced anyone to before. on the last couple days of the trip he told me he loved me for the first time and i said it back. he also said that he had never told anyone girl that before or felt that way about someone before.

we were both really sad when i had to go home after the trip but we thought it would be okay. and it was?? we were having ongoing texting convos throughout the days, face timing every night or every other for at least 30 minutes usually and it was really good. however this past week one of his high school best friends who moved after graduation came to stay with him. he seemed really excited that odie was visiting and i was so happy to see him in such a good mood. we face-timed the first couple days but he was really busy having the old gang back tg so i stopped asking to ft since i knew they were out doing stuff and i figured he would ask eventually. but we were still texting normally, not dry at all, so i figured everything was okay. 2 days late at night while i was asleep he texted me saying we needed to talk, and then later the next day we facetimed.

on the call, he started talking about how bittersweet it was having his friend visit since it made him think about how happy he was during high school, and how his mental health hasn’t been the same in college. i agreed and i’m ACTUALLY IN THE SAME SITUATION, i was considering transferring for awhile.

he then goes on to say that if sophomore year doesn’t go well for him then he would transfer which i understand….i literally feel the same way and have been telling him this. he then starts saying we need to break up because he needs to focus on making friends and himself and he would “have a different mentality about everything” if we were still together. he also mentioned that he wouldn’t be a good bf to me and that i’m looking for a person long term which he said he was too. he mentioned how he had only been thinking about this the last couple days, he kept saying he loved our time together, me visiting was so great one of the best weeks of the year, and that i was a good partner to him,

i don’t know exactly why i’m posting this. i’m in shock. we really were good. nothing was wrong. i don’t understand it exactly. i want him to come back ☹️ and awhile ago he said he never goes back to girls he’s dated and he just leaves them alone after, so i doubt that will ever happen

i’m looking for some support on how to get through this, take my mind off everything. and also i kinda want someone to nicely tell me if it’s worth having any hope or if i just need to get over it.

i wake up every day feeling like someone is strangling me. i can’t calm myself down. i don’t know how to regulate my nervous system. or sometimes it’ll happen when i’m getting ready for work. i’ve called out so many times recently. i don’t know what to do. i really want to vent to someone about this :(