u/Spyderbeast

So apparently the new euphemism on the web is ssa for ass

Which, as a person of mature years, I keep reading it as Social Security Administration

I don't like being reminded of my years like that 😄

I've been under the weather practically all year. It's been painful and I just wasn't eating much of anything at all

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But the bright side is that I lost enough weight to be back in healthy BMI territory (yes, I know it's not a good measure for many people, but I am not big boned or muscular or anything, so it works for me)

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But I glanced at my butt the other day. Or rather, what's left of it. My cake is a pancake. My dump truck turned into a flatbed. Like holy hell!

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I don't want to put the weight back on, but this is disappointing. No, I don't feel like doing squats. I look how I look. Oh well

Has anyone been to a show on this tour? I saw the other day it was a co-headline tour. I had assumed that Apocalyptica was the opener, but I have seen co-headline tours where they alternate who plays last

Anyone know if they're alternating? I have a ticket but not sure how early I can get there

I'm always going to need two paper towels to dry my hands enough, but I gotta stand there waving my hands for the second one, or try to pull twice on the manual ones.

Just give us enough to begin with. If they're the size of 1 1/2 regular towels, I would probably be fine with just one

Never formally diagnosed or treated for anorexia/bulimia, but I did have a very poor body image and judged myself very harshly if I thought I was overweight (for example, at 5'6" and 120 pounds, I felt fat at my first wedding)

I eventually outgrew some of it, especially after having my baby. My weight normalized around 130-140 in time

But more time passed and I stopped weighing myself around the time I got up to what I weighed right before childbirth. And I was overweight by BMI standards (and it is a reasonable measure for me personally, because I am not especially muscular and I am not big-boned at all). Not obese, but it was beating my self-esteem down again

Along comes this year with a plethora of health issues and losing weight as a result (I live alone, no one here to make sure I eat regularly)

Underlying all my concerns is the thought "At least I'm losing weight"

No, that is not a bright side to be happy about. Losing weight without trying is a warning sign. I don't like how my old obsession is rearing its ugly head. Yes, it would be nice if I don't gain it all back, of course. Being back to a healthy weight is a positive now, but if I swing back up again, it won't be a grateful and happy reaction. I'll probably beat myself up again. I hate that. I want my health back

I have a friend nearby, kinda met by coincidence, but we know each other are here, but we don't really socialize except on social media

A general complaint on social media brought me so much concern and help beyond what I asked for

Let go of your pride. Not everyone will help. But some will go above and beyond, even if it doesn't seem like it's a close relationship

Ever feel like you become the "child" and they're the more adult adult?

Going through some medical issues at the moment, but I do have help from my daughter

I generally don't seek medical care. That bothers her, but I have had enough bad experiences, so I have to think it's necessary before I see a doctor voluntarily

So anyway, when she visited me in the hospital, she was very involved in discussions with doctors. It was somewhat intrusive, but I am okay with it. I know she has my best interests at heart

Curious about other perspectives, so talk about the reverse experience if you like