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I never thought silence could feel so loud. Before all of this, I'd come home and there was always something going on, noise, conversation, another person just existing in the same space. Now I walk through the door and it genuinely stops me in my tracks some evenings.

Keeping busy during the day is manageable. But evenings and weekends are a different story. I'll catch myself doing something completely ordinary like making dinner or watching TV and just get hit with this wave of how different everything feels now.

I know logically that people get through this and build something new on the other side. I've read enough posts here to know that. But knowing it and actually feeling it are two very different things right now.

I guess I'm wondering how other people navigated this specific part. Not the legal process or the logistics, just the quiet. Did it get easier gradually, or did something shift for you at some point? Did you fill the time with new things, or did you just sit with it until it passed?

Not looking for anything specific, just genuinely curious how others got from this stage to something that felt more like living again. This community has helped more than I can explain.

i have been going through the process for an employer sponsored work visa to australia and i am now at the interview stage. my employer is supporting the application for a role in project management and i have already submitted most of the documents including skills assessment and english test results. the waiting has been the hardest part and now that the interview is coming up i am trying to figure out what they usually focus on.

i spoke to employer sponsored visas for some guidance on what to expect and they helped me understand the kind of questions that might come up around my job offer and why i want to move. i am a bit nervous about how detailed they will go into my work history and future plans in australia.

has anyone been through a similar visa interview for australia work sponsorship? what kind of questions did they ask and how long did the whole process take from interview to decision? any tips on what to prepare or what caught people by surprise would be really helpful.

i was out on a longer trail run last weekend pushing for a new distance when i stepped on a hidden root and my ankle rolled hard to the side. it swelled up straight away and i could barely put weight on it by the time i limped back to the car. i have had minor twists before but this one felt different and the pain has been hanging around for days now.

i have been resting and icing but wanted something to give it proper support so i don’t make it worse when i start moving again. i picked up an ankle brace from support brace and it has already made walking around the house much more stable. how long did it take most of you to get back to easy running after a proper roll like this? any tips for strengthening it without rushing things?

just moved into a small solo place after separation, about 650 sq ft. the living room was the main thing i had to figure out because i basically started over with nothing.

spent a while looking at different sofa options and kept hitting the same problem. standard three seaters were either too big or weirdly shaped for the layout i had. ended up going with a modular setup from jardan after finding their modular sofa page and reading through the configurations. picked something that actually fits the corner without eating the whole room.

honestly the main reason i went modular is flexibility. if i move again, or the room changes, i can reconfigure it instead of buying new. that felt like the smart call for where i'm at right now.

rest of the space is pretty bare still. small dining table, no real storage figured out yet. anyone dealt with storage in a place this size without it looking like a storage unit?

I keep trying to explain this to friends and family but nobody really gets it. My marriage lasted over a decade and somewhere along the way I stopped being just me. Everything I did, every hobby, every routine, every goal got wrapped up in us. Now that it's over I genuinely don't know who I am anymore as an individual.

I tried picking up things I used to enjoy before we got together and it just feels hollow. Like I'm cosplaying a version of myself that doesn't exist anymore. Even small decisions like what to cook for dinner or what show to watch feel weirdly paralyzing because I spent so long defaulting to what worked for two people.

I'm not depressed in a clinical sense, at least I don't think so. I function fine at work and I take care of what needs taking care of. But there's this quiet background noise of not knowing what I actually want or who I actually am outside of that relationship.

Did others go through this and come out the other side with a clearer sense of self? How long did it take before things started feeling more like yours again? I guess I'm just looking to hear that this part eventually gets better and that I'm not the only one who felt completely hollowed out by the process.

Alt titles: Anyone else feel like they lost themselves in the marriage and now have no idea who they are | How do you rediscover yourself after a long marriage ends | The identity crisis nobody warned me about when it comes to divorce

My nephew has some mobility limitations and his parents are starting to look at options more seriously. I've been helping them research because they're overwhelmed and don't know where to start.

I came across Top Gun Mobility while browsing and it had some useful information, but I wasn't sure how relevant it would be for a younger kid specifically. Most of what I'm finding seems aimed at adults or elderly users.

I know the right answer here really depends on the child his size, how he uses the chair day to day, indoor vs outdoor, all of that. We're not going to find a onesize solution just by reading websites. His parents know him best and will make the final call once they narrow it down.

Has anyone here helped a child find a good mobility scooter or chair? What questions should we actually be asking before committing to anything?

I've been riding for a few years now and whenever I search for parts I end up on a mix of big name stores and random smaller sites I've never heard of. The prices on some of those smaller ones are actually pretty good, which makes it hard to just ignore them.

Do you guys look at reviews on the site itself, check forums, dig into their return policy, or just avoid anything you don't already know? I feel like I've never had a solid system for this.

What's your biggest red flag when you land on a store you've never ordered from before?

Hey everyone, hoping to get some insight here. I have a 2018 Honda Civic with the 1.5L turbocharged engine and lately I've been noticing a faint rattling or ticking sound right when I first start it up in the morning. It only happens for maybe 30 to 60 seconds and then completely disappears once the engine warms up a little. No warning lights, no loss of power, and it runs totally fine otherwise.

I'm current on oil changes and running 0W20 full synthetic as specified. Last change was about 2,500 miles ago. The noise almost sounds like it's coming from the top end of the engine, maybe the valvetrain area, but I'm not totally sure.

I've read that the 1.5T can have some oil dilution issues where gasoline gets into the oil, especially in colder climates. I'm in the midwest so winters do get cold. I checked the oil and it doesn't look milky or smell strongly of gas, but the level is slightly above the full mark, which seems odd.

Could this be a VTC actuator issue, piston slap, or something related to the oil dilution problem? Is this worth an immediate shop visit or something I can monitor for now? Appreciate any help.

I keep running into this weird feeling that I don't really know who I am anymore. When you spend years building a life with someone, your routines, your social circle, even your hobbies kind of become tangled up with that person. Now that it's over, I'm sitting here on a Saturday afternoon genuinely not knowing what I actually enjoy doing for myself.

I used to have interests before the marriage. Things I cared about. But somewhere along the way I let a lot of that go, and I'm not sure I can just pick it back up like nothing happened. It's not even about missing my ex specifically. It's more like I'm grieving a version of myself that no longer exists.

My therapist says this is normal and part of the process, but I'm curious how others have worked through it in a practical way. Did you go back to old hobbies? Did you find new ones? Did it just slowly come back on its own over time?

I'm not looking for a timeline because I know everyone's different. I just want to know it does eventually come back, that feeling of being a full person with your own identity again.

Anyone been through this and come out the other side? What helped you reconnect with yourself?

I am so sick of every product aimed at us being a 4-in-1 body wash/shampoo/engine cleaner that smells like "tactical arctic rush". if you have thick, straight asian hair you know exactly what im talking about. those cheap western sulfate bombs completely strip your scalp and make your hair stick straight out on the sides like a porcupine. it makes getting a decent two block or flow literally impossible because your hair just ends up feeling like dry straw

tbh Ive completely given up on trying to find a "manly" brand that doesn't fry my follicles. Lately I just bypass the men's section entirely and buy an organic shampoo for women online instead. The ingredients are actually decent and it leaves enough moisture so my hair naturally lays down flat without me needing to drown it in heavy pomade every morning

it just really annoys me how the corporate grooming industry assumes guys want their skin and hair blasted with harsh chemicals just to smell like a spicy pinecone. the whole hyper-masculine marketing gimmick is so stupid when it literally ruins your hair texture and causes premature thinning. Wasted way too many years fighting my own hair type because of that garbage