Needing whatever the next level is, above a therapist..
Wondering if you guys can point me in the right direction, I don't even really know what to search for.
Wife and I are extremely toxic.
We both have our issues (I'll say that, she never will... Which IMO is an issue lol).
Neither of us want a divorce but neither is happy at all. We barely speak, and when we do it's 'score keeping' and a ton of tit-for-tat type back and forth. Never ever any productive or mature conversation.
Anyhow we tried two different couples therapist. One flaked out after about 8 visits. The other decided it is not productive and he'd rather not work with us.
Very scary that even the professionals are avoiding us :(
He said we don't need a therapist we need a referee. Says there is deep rooted resentment and trauma, piled on top of unresolved childhood traumas
So my question, is there like a next level? I feel like we need a mediator of sorts. We literally can't have a conversation that is productive, every one of them gets tossed all around with different blame games and other childish antics.