u/StatisticianHot2138

Hi guys,

I (23F) dated a guy for 3 years (22M) and broke up with him on 2025, March-ish. Before anything ahead, he was autistic. And i dont demean anything to people who suffer from it.

When we started dating, he shifted to a new city for higher studies. There he met a lot of people, and i never really had problem. I trusted him. Except that one girl that i saw in his following. We always fought because of her. And everytime i said i want you to remove her. Only her. He used to reply that he shares a class w her on daily basis and it would make things awkward. Girls have theirs instincts. I knew something was up but i couldnt just keep my finger. So I asked him for his ID, he gave it to me.

It was feb,2022. We got together in sept 22, 2021.

I scrolled thru his chats. One by one. And stopped on the day where i went to sleep early but woke up midnight just to tell him i love him. I woke up at 2:05AM. I checked it on my phone.

Now i checked her text. They were sexting.

I scrolled thru everything and found that, every-time i wrote him a poetry he would change the name to hers and change the gender of poetry and sent it to her. Every love post everything. (Oh i love halsey i dedicated a song to him and he sent it to her)

Apart from that, they made out a few times.

It was like she stained everything which was mine. But i was quiet and i only observed their texts. It git fewer n fewer. She lost interest. She found a reliable man.

I confronted on may 2022, because i couldnt keep it in anymore. I was done acting normal and lovely.

He f—king started crying out of nowhere. It was no were near to guilty of what he did. More like i found it and he was sorry bout that. It made me cringe when he started to read everything that i wrote on those paragraph out loud on voice notes. He said crying “i would read these out loud and feel how much have i hurt you” and cried. It was foolish immature. I only felt cringe thru my bones.

Cried. He says “i would. I would fix it please dont leave me” abd allat bullshit that cheaters say. Idk why i accepted it. I loved him maybe thats why.

After that he started making handmade gifts to fix us. Got more verbal, but it meant nothing to me. I always ended up crying late at night. I lost all my confidence, all my strength and i BELEIVED THAT i look ugly. His presence meant nothing to me and i ended up ghosting on him almost all the time.

It might look like im a villian but i lost respect for him. I lost trust and most of it, i lost my spark.
I always compared myself w her. Went thru her profile almost everyday in those 3 years

And everytime we spoke about my feelings. He would make me sound invalid. I asked why he did what he did. He said “i dont know. I didnt know i was cheating until u told me. My autistic-self took over” those answers were never true. He never told me but i always believe that he found her attractive.

Until last year, i couldnt act like it anymore. I told him i wanna breakup because i dont feel the connection anymore. We ended on a good note. And i told him that i do admire his efforts to fix us but i dont think that i can fix the way i look at him.

I never cheated on him. But later by the end of 2025, i worked on my career and getting better. I made friends and, finally met a guy with similar interest. By that time my social medias were deactivated and i was never there. But he was.

When i got back on social media, i posted a selfie w my new man. New spark everything. He made me feel seen, and heard. I told him everything. It is more like besties between us and then ofc a couple thing.

But my ex couldnt take it and showed up on my birthday on 17th feb. Fuxked my birthday.

Later today— he posted that “(my name) is a ho£”

Reposted so many toxic gf related reel with my name on it. I deactivated again.