u/Stock-Code-1400

My boyfriend and I just met 4 months ago our relationship is close to perfect. He treats me perfect and gives me everything I ask for, he pays all my bills, is good to me emotionally and is of support to me financially, mentally and all ways you can be. He even got me a dog! I always had a strange gut feeling about him. A bad one. That gut feeling caused me to kinda almost end the relationship a couple of times. But I stayed. After I stayed maybe a month later he got diagnosed with cancer of his toungue and lymph nodes on his neck. This whole situation is stressful so many thoughts are coming to my head. One super big problem he is having is his living situation. He lives with his friend and his friend’s dad and his friend’s dad’s girlfriend. Something there is really off and I’ll never fully understand what it is. The dad of the friend calls him a billion times so does the girlfriend and his friend. They control him. They have him by the balls. I’m obviously going to be there for his cancer journey but there’s a wierd dynamic going on there that I don’t like. I caught wind of the fact that he messed around with the neice of the friend’s dad but I don’t know what’s going on. I don’t like it and I have a bad feeling. Idk what to do… I’m lost. I’ve almost left before but now that he has cancer I definitely can’t leave but I’m really scared of these people.

My boyfriend has toungue cancer with metastasis to his lymph nodes in his neck only neck from what it seems like. Of course he’s worried. But I tell him to try to see the bright side, that it’s not in his lungs or liver. Which is where it can get dangerous. I know he’s going to okay. But he’s worried. How do I cheer him up. The situation has me thinking a little crazy too..

I love my boyfriend. Months before I met him I prayed to God and asked him to help me out of an abusive relationship I was in prior to my boyfriend. The same week my boyfriend who was just my acquaintance at the time asked me out of a date and saved me from that abusive relationship I was in. My boyfriend is what every woman could ask for he’s perfect and I love him. 4 months into the relationship we went to urgent care due to him being in a lot of pain. He was diagnosed with toungue cancer. I have a history of mental health issues. So naturally news like that can have an impact on me.

He also provides for me. Pays for everything. Recently I caught wind of a girl he was fooling around quite literally two weeks before he met me. This situation quite literally sent me on a week spiral that I’m barely recovering from. Given the fact that when I saw what she sent him and he sent her he was veryyyyy into this woman telling her what she wanted to hear, acting jealous over her, pouring his heart out to her when he doesn’t with me and then I noticed we resembled each other and couldn’t help but think he got with me cuz he wanted to continue that relationship with her but use me to do it. I can’t also help that, that was his friends cousin and he snuck behind his friends back to mess around with that girl (friends cousin) this has me going crazy and treating him bad and I feel so bad because he has cancer. I wanna cry but I’m so angry!!!! Especially when he told me he was single for two years before he met me. Idk what to do. :( I can’t leave but I also don’t wanna keep treating him like shit he has cancer. :( I’m lost

Idk since I was 19, currently 30 I do this thing where I think and think and think and I get lost in my thoughts and when I try to come back to reality everything reminds me of the thoughts I was thinking about so I need to start thinking about it again and by thinking about it my thoughts and PYSCHO analyzing them and breaking them down it’ll disappear. I start to think that if I think that way my kids my family and myself with be well off like thinking is suppose to save me. It’s too much sometimes. Idk why I do this and am trying to understand why I do it. Most recently I found out my boyfriend dated a girl before me that looked like me and I spent a week psychoanalyzing possible reasons why it was just a coincidence and not me being a rebound. So I can feel good about myself and not end the relationship.

My current boyfriend dated a woman prior who to me who looked exactly like me prior to her he dated blondes then he dated her she’s a brunette (Latina)

I’m curious if I’m a rebound given he was like two weeks already post break up before he met me. She was a booty call and he didn’t quite treat her like he treats me. He pays for my bills got me a dog, talks about marriage and does everything for me. Spends ever day with me he’s perfect!!! But I can’t help but think the foundation of his interest in me is because I look like her :(

HELP! It’s been a week and it’s driving me insane! What should I do to keep cool? Would like to add their relationship was forbidden cuz she was his best befriends cousin)

[25F] in a relationship with [30M] for 6 months I found out my boyfriend used to date a girl that shares similarities to me. The reason to them breaking up seems to stem from the female having some mental illness. Along with the fact that she was related to his best friend. The girl recently reached out to me but I didn’t tell my boyfriend and told me the whole situation I didn’t tell my boyfriend this due to fear he’ll retaliate or go off on her especially her being his best friends cousin. What made me mad is my boyfriend was telling her he has feelings for her and wanted to be with but couldn’t cuz she was his best friends cousin there seemed to be a lot of sneaking around ultimately my boyfriend dipped out. This upsets me so much because he told me he was single for two years before he met me which led me to believe he had time to heal and also given he’s only dated blondes before and this girl has striking similarities to me ethnicity wise(Latina), hair color wise(brown) and eye color wise(brown. My boyfriend is the best boyfriend a woman could ask for he’s close to perfect!!!! Treats me like a queen. But it begs the question…. Is he only with me because I look like her possibly and he couldn’t be with her because she was his friend’s cousin and that’s why he’s treated me so good? 😒 They did alot of sneaking around from what it looks like. I can’t seem to move past the idea he might of transferred feelings onto me because we share similar features given he couldn’t be with her as it was forbidden. The only thing I can say is he treats me better from what it seems and he ultimately ended up leaving her from what it looks like. So I’m so confused, I thought I was special and it doesn’t make me feel special anymore. It’s been plaguing my mind lately but he’s going through something really tough that I’m helping him with in his life right now and I don’t wanna bombard him with the way I feel. My problems seems so small compared to what he has going on 😕