u/StoicSpork

(apologizing for my potty mouth and the fact that this may be a little incoherent in advance, i just woke up and speed typed this lol)

To summarize an otherwise long story, when I was 19, my dad was diagnosed with cancer and passed within six months of his diagnosis. This had a profound impact on me (as it would almost anyone) as I was extraordinarily close to my dad. I was one of his primary caregivers and it was a situation I never thought I’d find myself in so young. Neither of these friends were really present in my life when this happened to me, for context. I met them both about half a year after my dad passed.

Fast forward two years to present day, one of my close friends mothers’ has been diagnosed with a similar form of cancer to my father and her prognosis does not look good. I’ve been spending a lot of time with this friend and trying to be there to comfort her when I can.

One of our mutual friends who we’re both relatively close to was hanging out with us today. I was telling my friend (M) about how I understood everything she felt and that I would try to continue doing my best to support her however I could. This is when our mutual friend interjected into the conversation saying, “I mean the whole thing is kinda different though, losing a Mom is 20x worse than losing a Dad.”

Both me and M sat there and looked at her for a second, neither of us knowing what to say. M ended up saying “I don’t think you would know either way, you’ve never dealt with anything like this.” It quickly became awkward and quiet before we all ended up heading our separate ways. I didn’t know what to say in the moment but after the fact, I quickly became very angry.

I sent this text shortly after the hangout because I was extremely worked up and just couldn’t help myself. I know I blew up on her and I’m starting to wonder if I did too much. Am I actually just being a drama queen? Are these two different situations? Idk.