u/Stunning-Crew5527

Everything completely stripped. Hangin on by a damn thread and feeling like I'm in limbo. How you guys doing so far?

I have been collecting a lot of vinyl and haven't been able to listen to any of it too much because my family has one of those suitcase turntables. I admit, I do use it here and there, but only because I really am dying to get this collection on. I would ideally like something that's easy for portability because I already bring my record collection around to whoever has a turntable. I'd like to bring it where there might not already be a turntable. Plus I travel a lot. My biggest concern is maintaining record quality.

Personally, I do not think AI is all that it is cracked up to be. When people say it's like a self driving car at rocket speed, all I hear is that they don't know how to drive. If you don't know where you are going and how to get there yourself, then you could rocket speed to anywhere and believe that you are where you are supposed to be thinking and trusting that AI must be right.

I'm naturally skilled in math, have had some exposure to coding and the concept of computer science, background in economics and political theory, now working in law. Anyone who can relate to my experience to some degree, at any point, knows the better you feed directions to AI the better its product. It requires understanding equations and choice of words to get the result which you somewhat already have an idea what the result is. Like doing a puzzle, I know what I am looking for to some degree enough to know it has 3 keys so I won't waste my time trying the corner pieces there. Yet some people will be told by AI given the data fed to it, that the corner piece is correct.

To think accurately for you, requires inputting all the necessary information which thus relies on you to understand what is necessary information that is the foundation for the desired product.

We see AI user failures all over the place. Statistically guessing, I'd say 75% of the population does not understand how to accurately use AI. At the same time, it already being relied on by 100% of the population whether it be services you use whose business model incorporates AI, viewing and understanding media, all search engines at this point.

We've given rocket speed self driving cars to everyone and to replace drivers licenses. Having a drivers licenses is a responsibility and is a tool for accountability when someone does not drive responsibly.

With 100% of the population already using their rocket speed self driving cars, and encouraged to do so, without thinking of the consequences that directly impact their self. For this discussion I am limiting the consequences to AI's output, not environmental or socioeconomic though we know those are a grave consequence on its own.

To predict societies' future in this sense, I would consider whether or not the general public has the ability to reflect on their own individual actions before accepting the equations producing fact, as true.

So I believe that if there is a societal downfall as a result of AI, that the cause is due to an inflated reliance on AI as opposed to AI itself. Additionally if it came down to survival of the fittest use of rocket speed self driving cars, that those who have the ability and self awareness to reflect on their own actions which contributed to the result, will make it through less scathed. Those that are scared of AI taking over will let and accept it as so. Unfortunately I believe convincing someone that they can control, let alone jump in front of a rocket speed self driving car, is a losing battle.

What do you guys think about this?

What caused you to move out of LA?

My supervisors are less experienced and I keep getting in trouble for doing the right thing but they feel it's a waste of time until later down the line they see. Yes my time management isn't great but they make everything equally urgent. As support staff we all talk about how frustrating that is. But the more I keep getting in trouble for a moving goalpost, the more I'm actually shutting down and then yes my time management sucks more. I'm starting to call out, wait until last minute to start things, and then when something deflates me I shut down even more. It's happening in my life too now. Everything is feeling so overwhelming that I shut down at the thought of doing anything I'm supposed to. Even as simple as paying rent from an app already set up and I have the money. I just have to get on there and do it. I couldn't bring myself to it. My friend had to do it for me. It all sounds stupid I know. But I just feel like f this job and then I'm like letting everything in my life burn because of it.

It started from my ability to perform. Then when it became too much, it was my ability to show others how to perform. I kept to myself once I realized that it will never be acknowledged. Then when I was blamed for problems that have nothing to do with me, I learned my defenses were teaching them. Instead of feeling valued and secure, it's fear tactics to see what you will do.

My attorneys don't know every local rule and form required for what they are asking for, but I have previously always worked with attorneys who understand the legal reasoning behind what they are asking for. My current attorneys are demanding things that are not necessary or correct in this situation, because we did that in another case they think that is the next step in this case.

I work in personal injury litigation. The attorney says produce the prior records we have. I say "but those are thousands of pages of blood pressure treatment that do not indicate anywhere of prior injuries to current subject body parts or symptoms." I'm told to produce it. I say "wouldn't we object to a subpoena for these records?" Again told to produce it as a precautionary. Lately I don't care about helping them not make mistakes such as this, but my trial experience tells me producing these irrelevant thousands of pages now is going to make this case a bi*ch to work on for everyone going forward. File review, expert file review which charges per page, trial exhibits that will now include this in every expert file, bates stamps, and so on.

I get in trouble for not filing the usual standard case management hearing form and when I say "this jurisdiction has a different name for this and has their own form for this." I'm told I should do both but legally there is nothing requiring or any purpose for that additional form. That is just additional work and time for me, additional filing costs, and will be rejected because it's not correct in this instance.

I work with green attorneys at (almost like a start up but for litigation). The founder was my direct boss immediately prior to this firm. I was told to let them do their thing and to only worry about what's mine as the paralegal. He's one of those attorneys that put the responsibility on the supervising attorney rather than the paralegal because this is their case. I've been a great paralegal and every attorney I work for often shines. In the beginning of working with this entirely green team, I had to keep track of everything so I can help prevent their mistakes that would cause me more work on top of work that is my standard role. The volume was impossible. I worked until midnight every night. I would cry and plead with my boss to somehow fix this. I was told the same thing every time "only do what's yours." It took me way too long to understand what he meant but now I do so that's what I've been doing. The green attorneys though, they never have understood what is the difference between paralegal work and attorney work. They task me with the more advance filings and when I say I need the attorney's part, I'm referred to examples or told "what? Just write a simple quick thing." Or told to "give it your best shot but don't spend too much time on it." When I do the correct process for paralegal work, I'm in trouble for wasting my time until that same thing saves their ass and I'm praised. So one of the trials I'm constantly on are proving to them that the way I am doing it is for a reason and not a waste of time, and actually how it saves time this way. That's if they let me speak. The other kinds of trials I am constantly on are when they don't understand what is taking so long with the advanced filings. I tell them is exactly what is taking so long and always it's that I should have started sooner or asked. I did. I always do. And when I'm told to do the unknowingly wrong thing, I should have asked someone else. I am seriously going from being on probation to hero for the same instance in one day, at least twice a week. I've switched to "just tell me what you want because I'm out of ideas on how to prevent these probations for things that are later praised."

Well now there's a big issue that is nearing a bar complaint from a client. I was given the task of an advanced filing, asked for help many times for the errors I was given to work with and stone walled with that I'm again wasting my time and it should be filed already. Well, I gave it my best shot. Every step of the way I said "Is this right?" I made sure to get their written approval for going to the various required departments to correct the errors with approved proposed solutions, and got written approval for each step along the way. This filing requires client signature. I had a feeling that the client was going to have some questions and concerns about this. I asked in advance what I should do then, to which they said send the call to them to handle. Then it happened and I did. The client is livid. I see why. It's the errors I was given. Client liked those errors but they're illegal and my mission was to file this for Court Order. I told them why many times and I fixed it as it related to my assignment. Now Client wants to do a bar complaint and my attorney wrote me disciplinary documentation about how the entire firm (established before this start up litigation department) is facing trouble and legal consequences as a result of my not bringing this to their attention sooner and specifically not caused by the errors I was given. I wrote a response which included all the documentation which contradicts her false claims of my actions, and documentation showing the real reason the client is upset. I left out the suggestion of a really easy simple solution to address the client's complaint because they made it clear even in my disciplinary, that it is still not filed so the days of me not completing my assignment are on going - which was all that was simply asked of me.

My friend in Massachusetts is looking to get a prenup drafted. From what I saw yet didn’t say anything to my friend, most of what is being requested is already the MA law from what I see. I’m not a lawyer so did not say anything for risk of screwing over my friend. It looks like they shouldn’t pay more than $400 for it (in my eyes). Please tell me what you guys think. Very minimal assets to start with, documents gathered already.

Disclaimer I can't tell if the problem is my autism, my adhd, or my paralegal job. I went from being the gold star fixer to "there's always issues with (you)." I never ever throw anyone under the bus. Every problem I can fix quietly, I do so. I'm getting dropped tasks in my lap that require attorney authority to decide which of the proposed offered solutions forward would you like me to take given the issue. Their frustrations with me are growing really problematic. I know the issue is not a matter of me not knowing something I should. I know the issue is that it's too complex of a question for little patience. In fact, they tell me that I'm astonishingly brilliant and that the problem is that they don't want nor need it.

Every single day I am running into these problems. Every day I shake off the weight of their blame, extract whatever authority I can out of them to get the job done. I'm reaching a breaking point of fighting the allegations that I AM the common denominator for all these issues. 50% of the time I'm ignored or dismissed or cut off, 20% of the time I'm overtly yelled at until they give me a chance to speak (then it's "oh this is a big issue"), 20% I get told to (insert extremely burdensome wrong thing), 5% "go with proposed solution A", 5% "ok"; and I'm 100% right in the end. My counter parts receive endless praise for creating more problems and wasting more time. But do I yuk their yum though? No. I say to myself "luckily that won't be my problem to deal with later." Because already I am barely shaking off their target from my back that says I'm the problem.

Disclaimer I can't tell if the problem is my autism, my adhd, or my job. I went from being the gold star fixer to "there's always issues with (you)." I never ever throw anyone under the bus. Every problem I can fix quietly, I do so. I'm getting dropped tasks in my lap that require attorney authority to decide which of the proposed offered solutions forward would you like me to take given the issue. Their frustrations with me are growing really problematic. I know the issue is not a matter of me not knowing something I should. I know the issue is that it's too complex of a question for little patience. In fact, they tell me that I'm astonishingly brilliant and that the problem is that they don't want nor need it.

Example: Task is to file A with the [X] provided from Department B and the supporting evidence from Department C.
Problem I spot -> no such evidence exists in Department C and Department B fabricated [1].
My attorney says file A with [1]
Code of procedure says file A with [2]
Even if I wanted to "do as (I'm) told" and file A with [1], -> it won't work because the sole purpose of filing A is to show proof that Department B got [x] from evidence provided by Department C, -> for the purpose of the court agreeing to [1] as opposed to [2] per code of procedure.

Every single day I am running into these problems. Every day I shake off the weight of their blame, extract whatever authority I can out of them to get the job done. I'm reaching a breaking point of fighting the allegations that I AM the common denominator for all these issues. 50% of the time I'm ignored or dismissed or cut off, 20% of the time I'm overtly yelled at until they give me a chance to speak (then it's "oh this is a big issue"), 20% I get told to (insert extremely burdensome wrong thing), 5% "go with proposed solution A", 5% "ok"; and I'm 100% right in the end. My counter parts receive endless praise for creating more problems and wasting more time. But do I yuk their yum though? No. I say to myself "luckily that won't be my problem to deal with later." Because already I am barely shaking off their target from my back that says I'm the problem.

What's a good desk/gaming/office chair? I keep looking and looking but nothing is giving me the "yes that's the one" feeling. I don't want the cheapest nor the most expensive. I'm looking for optimal comfort v. price balance. I like to lounge but get up easily lol

Does anyone in Defense Personal Injury have a template for their billable hours? I have never worked billable but I am looking for something like a worksheet that outlines assignments and tasks completed.

I went from being teacher's favorite to getting in trouble for things I didn't do. Let's say I'm told to do 1-10. There is only enough time to do 5 things. I say I have 1-10 and they're all on the stove cooking, which do you want first? They say 1-5, ok. 6-10 still hot on the stove for tomorrow. Next day it's "why haven't you given me 6-10 yesterday?" I say reiterate what happened yesterday between us, provide status of 6-10, ask for suggestions for improvement. They say fine. Then 11-15 come in, cycle repeats. Additionally, days later I keep getting in trouble for not doing 1-5 yet I did and followed protocol which allows them to see that I did.

This is becoming an occurrence which happens multiple times a day, every day. I understand that I am not the issue and I am doing everything I can on my end to fix this issue, but I can't seem to shake off this target I feel is on me. I believe as a whole, it's being run as a blame down the chain of command and rather than fixing the actual issue, let whoever bears the weight brake and replace accordingly. I am very good at my job which I believe has spared me thus far, but emotionally I'm starting to break. I know supervisors and managers don't like defensiveness or excuses, so I keep the tone positive and welcome feedbacks as to where exactly did I go wrong tobdo better next time. Conversations always end positively but it's constant. I've stood up for myself a lot though which I believe is the reason for the target. I'm just tired of defending and proving myself. I have other shit in life I have to worry about, I just want to do my job.