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I guess I just want someone to bounce my thoughts with apart from my husband. I (31, F) and him (32, F) have been married for 6 years now. Surprisingly nobody really puts a pressure on us when it comes to having a baby, but recently, one of his siblings announced they are expecting and I guess that made us actually think hard about our own situation. They’re closer to us in age and we have the same timeline so I guess it’s too close for comfort.

Both of us are fencesitters and if anything, he would let me stir us to an ultimate decision. But I have plenty of worries about having a kid, such as the ff:

1. I’m scared I’m not mentally stable enough to have a child. I easily struggle with burnout and having BIG feelings that even a simple argument makes me cry. I just can’t imagine myself being a source of stability for my kid and I grew up with a mom who has that behavior.

2. My husband and I LOVE to travel. We go on at least 5 trips a year since we have flight benefits. Obviously traveling would be different with a kid. Personally, even if I have not met my husband, it would still be my main interest.

3. Nothing about caring for a child entices me but I do appreciate the idea of having adult kids. I think when I’m old and gray, a relationship with a child is something I can envision. But to get from point B, I’d have to do point A first. And I’m not sure if that reason alone is enough for me to want it.

4. The reality is, I would be the one who needs to step away from work since my husband makes significantly more than I do. As somebody who loves traveling, staying in one place really bores me out of my mind. Even the thought of “taking it easy” for 9 months during pregnancy intimidates me. It reminds me of how I felt during the pandemic.

5. Lastly, I think I am vain enough to admit the physical changes it could cause me is a big deal. I already suffer from body dysmorphia enough as is.

I wanted to hear some of your thoughts on why you are leaning to be childfree and if anyone can relate to any of these reasons

Basically what the title is. We arrived in CPH from AMS with no luggage and they were delivered to our hotel after 48 hours. One of the luggage is heavily scratched and dented. So now I became even more upset and really want to file a report claim.

Question to those who have successfully done so on their website, it’s letting me upload jpg files of receipts and photos but after hitting the “update” button which I’m assuming means to upload, I don’t get to any other page to hit submit nor a confirmation if that already went through. Can anyone let me know if that’s done? Tysm!

PS: KLM’s customer service — one of the worst ever

Hi! Desperate here. I’m a US flight attendant and we bought zed tickets on KLM yesterday AMS-CPH. They’re missing 2 pcs of our luggage and no update yet as of now. We are only here for 5 days and we need some essentials like clothes, toiletries, and a light jacket etc. My question is ARE we as staff eligible to be compensated for necessary shopping while the luggage isn’t here yet? Has anybody been through the same?

Visited the Matcha Bar in Makati recently and LOVED LOVED the ambience, how friendly the staff is, and how serious they are with their craft. I’m not very knowledgeable with matcha notes and quality but it’s very evident they take their matcha game seriously.

On that note, I got their earl grey matcha and while I liked it, I just hope the earl grey taste was stronger. It was very very subtle. I try to order this drink whenever I can and other places are able to balance the earl grey and matcha just right without overpowering each other. Still enjoyed my drink but I wanted to ask for your recommendations anong masarap i order from them next time? Thanks!

I’ve been on 100 mg for the last 2 months and been using a mild cleanser, Clindamycin 2x a day, a vitamin c serum 2x a day, and Differin at night. Sadly, I got too complacent and thought my active acne is gone. I replaced the vitamin C serum with Caudalie vinoperfect serum. I started purging again after just 2 days so I quit it right away. I should’ve known adding it would be too harsh on my skin. I am still a firm believer of the product but not while being on the two other actives. I’m currently healing after a week and hoping to get back on track. Feeling so bummed that I disrupted my progress because I wanted to address the hyperpigmentation so bad :(