u/Sudden-Exchange-9585

I have no friends , and I recently met a girl on Bumble BFF. We’ve talked here and there over dms for a few days and she asked to hang out this weekend. I agreed but the moment she mentioned those words i started sweating and felt a pit in my stomach. I’ve genuinely only had one other “one on one hangout” with a stranger before, and my nerves are crazy. I know I’m gonna be anxious thinking about it all week, and worried I’ll be too quiet, I’m normally not talkative at first. Ahg I hate this feeling

I’ve struggled badly with this in a past relationship, and my current relationship. I can’t stop myself from checking partners exes social medias, often multiple times a day, just looking for anything new. It gives me like a dopamine rush. In my previous relationship, my ex talked about his ex a lot and that started the insecurity and obsession. I put this girl on a pedestal in my head and compared myself to her, it was like I was under a spell- but a few months after we broke up, I stopped caring, she just became a normal girl, I didn’t feel insecure of her. I wish this could happen in my current relationship , but I don’t know how I can stop obsessing and checking social medias repeatedly, i dont want to be insecure of her, i just want the “spell” to be broken 😭

I have an older (not sure how old) border collie I got 4 years ago after she was dumped on the side of the road. She’s normally very well behaved and has never attacked other dogs or cats, but does like to “herd” smaller animals, sometimes nip at them. We have a cat in the house who she’s familiar with and gets along with, but we just got a new cat who was a stray- and he’s about two years old and very energetic. They were fine at first, minding each others business for the most part - until recently when my cat rolled a toy near my dog, and ran to it, and my dog freaked out and started fixating on him, getting super close and nipping, then the cat started attacking her. My dog fights back, and somehow has my cat in her mouth. It’s terrifying. I broke them up quickly and made sure they were each okay, but now whenever my cat sees my dog his fur raises and he tries to attack her first. I have them separate rooms of my house but I don’t see that working long term. I don’t know what to do, since this has happened twice now- and im worried they might get seriously hurt or my dog could kill my cat.