u/Sudden_Air5481

I have a new boss who started when I had my baby so I didn’t know much about her. Before I came back people were already telling me how awful she was. I gave her the benefit of the doubt because she was actually quite nice and for a while, I couldn’t figure out why people didn’t like her. Fast forward to like 6 months ago, I finally found out.

She’s the most unhinged person, she purposely has one on ones with employees that rub her the wrong way in person to avoid anything being documented. She says the most wild things to people and continuously gets away with it. She asks for suggestions and opinions and then comes back with why you’re wrong or why it’s a bad idea and proceeds to go with whatever she wanted in the first place. Don’t you dare find any mistakes with her decisions or you’re on her shit list. If you go above her to an executive for a severe health and safety concern that she ignored, she will retaliate and take things from you for “stepping on her toes”. She’ll suddenly watch your every move and put 100% effort into making your life hell. Yet, no one has the balls to say anything… including myself clearly.

I think the problem here is that the job market here is god awful, and no one wants to risk losing their job right now yet every single one of us are looking for a way out. I genuinely like my job and all of my colleagues but I can’t deal with her anymore. She’s the furthest thing from supportive, no one feels heard or appreciated, there is so much burn out around me and it appears there’s no end in sight.

I do have a phone interview on Thursday and I hope I’m out of here soon but in the mean time, is it worth sending an anonymous email to the executives from a fake email that states all facts and no emotion/personal specific incidents? The executives don’t live anywhere near us, it’s impossible they know anything because no one makes formal complaints. I want to urge them to conduct interviews with us to gather information to see that it’s the truth. I want to urge them to reevaluate who they chose to lead us. My old boss sometimes said foul things to people, but we felt supported and she listened to our concerns. I never thought it could get worse or ever thought I’d wish she were back, but here we are.

I definitely know that sending this email may not do anything at all, but at least I can say I tried to warn them when people start leaving in flocks. I have a colleague who is willing to send an anonymous one as well. I did check our policy and there is a dedicated email to submit a formal complaint to, though I don’t believe it would remain anonymous at all.. so I don’t think it would be worth it. I do know exactly which executives to email, I at least know my email would be read and discussed to some degree. Should I send it?

We are moving to St. Thomas end of August and I’m wondering if anyone can tell me their experience with either Mitchell Hepburn and St. Anne’s? We are catholic but I’m wondering if Mitchell Hepburn is a better school? My son would need to be bussed to St. Anne’s but would be a 10 minute walk to Hepburn. I am super conflicted! Any insight/experiences with either is appreciated.

How much do you pay usually for gas water and hydro?

How much does your family of 4 spend on groceries each month, 2 small children?

I’m repaying CERB right now and was wondering if anyone could give me an answer on this though I know it’s different for everyone and may not apply for me.
So far, CRA has only taken my tax refunds and AWB. They have given me all of my GST but I guess I selected that I wanted trillium one time at the end of the term and not monthly. I’m due to get my trillium June 10th but I’m wondering, if they haven’t been taking my GST, does that mean they’re unlikely to take my trillium?

My job requires me to live where I work. For so long I have been trying to move out and keep my position but getting no where. Last year, I turned down a job offer to stay here because I was told I could finally leave! I decided to wait a while and save first before going. My boss left and in came someone else who does not want me to move out. Despite this, I still emailed the VP whose choice it was to begin with (along with my boss and supervisor) and he said he never put a time limit on it and he’s still okay with the switch. My new “boss” told my supervisor that I could absolutely not move out a few months ago. She has no idea that I took it upon myself to ask the VP if I could still go the other day. I’m supposed to have a meeting next week with the 3 of them plus HR to discuss and put it into place. Still, my “boss” has no idea. I’m afraid that for some reason, she’ll find a way to ruin this for me? Last time this happened, the director, supervisor and VP approved it. The VP is now acting in the role of the director AND the VP bc they haven’t filled it yet. I know it’s his choice, but part of me cannot help but think this is going to go no where and I’ll be stuck again. I can’t stop thinking about it. AIO?

Currently I work as a property administrator for a very large company. I make 54,000 per year and I have to live on site. I get 60% off of my rent and pay 900$ for a 3 bedroom. This is due to being on call half the month and instead of getting paid, we’re compensated that way. In the summer, we have to close the pool at 8 and I work every other weekend so summers suck. Outside of this, I do love my job. Management? Not so much..

the work life balance SUCKS. I don’t get to go home like a normal person, I’m surrounded by these walls 24/7 and I’m losing my mind. I have 2 kids, a husband and a dog and my apartment is only 1000 sq ft. Tiny 1 bathroom and there is just minimal space. Constantly having to be mindful of noise with a chunky running 20 month old is rough too. I’d rather pay the 2600 in rent for a house to be able to have freedom and peace of mind. If I was able to move 25 mins away to my dad’s town, I’d have a support system for once, be able to cut cost of $600 child care and be able to live more of a life with my husband.

Whenever I’m not working, I’m still bombarded by residents knocking on my door, messaging me, asking for things while walking to my car or doing laundry… I’m just so over it.

I’ve applied to 65 jobs and heard back from 4, one was contract so I couldn’t do that and 3 were not paying enough. Everyday I wake up to rejection emails and I’m so over it… I know 65 is not a lot and there’s a lot more rejections I will get but it leaves this hole in my chest.

Last August I got a job offer for 60k a year, was in my dad’s town and would’ve been perfect but before accepting, I asked if I could move out and keep my job.They said yes! I stupidly did not act on it right away and said I’ll wait a bit so we can save a bit since we’ve never taken advantage of the cheap rent that way. Well, management changed and she’s now saying absolutely not I can’t move out. It’s not really up to her, the VP was the one who said yes before and he’s still here, but she will have a lot of influence. I’m debating on still emailing him and asking when I’m officially ready to move, but what’s the point?

I also feel horrible for feeling this way because I have it so good. I have super cheap rent and a very stable job with a very lenient supervisor. The grass isn’t greener on the other side (for the most part) but I just want to go into my home and love being there, I want to be at peace but I feel selfish for wanting this and feel like I’ll never be able to leave… I’m willing to take nothing less than 50k at this point.

Seeing so many jobless people who would kill to be in my place, makes me feel like I just need to be grateful for what I have, and I definitely am! I just can’t help but feel like this company has me in a chokehold that I can’t escape.