It’s nice outside and I want to put on a skirt and walk around downtown like I used to. But I feel too ugly. My face is puffy and my body looks like a sack of potatoes. I used to enjoy getting dressed and taking walks. Now I don’t want anybody to see me.
I’m only 10 pounds overweight but I’ve had drastic body shifts. I have this visceral fat in my gut that sticks out. And love handles. And back fat. I hate it. And I’m not even 40 yet. I take Wegovy and it doesn’t help. Did reta help you?
I’m only 10 pounds overweight but I’ve had drastic body shifts. I have this visceral fat in my gut that sticks out. And love handles. And back fat. I hate it. And I’m not even 40 yet. I take Wegovy and it doesn’t help. Did reta help you?
Was anybody else floored by how fast you changed?
One month I looked the same as usual, a few wrinkles and my body looked like it always did. Then a couple of months later I developed the belly and my ass literally DROPPED overnight and I got these love handles. It was like all the fat migrated, I don’t know how it could move that fast. I started waking up in the middle of the night almost every night. It was the exact same month that my period got a few days shorter. Men stopped looking at me. It was like a light switch.
Did it happen this quickly for you? No one warns women about this. One minute you’re this, the next you’re that…
Was anybody else floored by how fast you changed?
One month I looked the same as usual, a few wrinkles and my body looked like it always did. Then a couple of months later I got the belly and my ass literally DROPPED overnight and I got these love handles. It was like all the fat migrated, I don’t know how it could move that fast. I started waking up in the middle of the night almost every night. It was the exact same month that my period got a few days shorter. Men stopped looking at me. It was like a light switch.
Did it happen this quickly for you? No one warned me about this. I didn’t think our bodies changed this much until late 40s. I had plans to travel but I feel so tired and ugly.
I’m so sad. I went into peri at 38 and it hit like a truck. I thought I was finally free. I was planning to travel and have fun. Figured I’d have until 42-43 to look good and feel young and be a woman in the world. I used to go downtown and talk to people. I posted pictures on social media. I took those things for granted. Now I hide. My mom and aunts went into peri in their mid-40s, at least that’s what they said.
Now no one sees me on the street. People feel sorry for me if I wear my old clothes. My weight hasn’t changed much, but my body has. I feel like I lost about 7 years of the good life. I didn’t have a good life before. I had an asshole boyfriend and shitty parents. I feel like my freedom is gone and the rest of my life is just going to be grey.
No one told me that “hitting the wall” is a light switch. I pictured a gentle, decade-long decline. I thought that women who weren’t “still hot” at our age had “let themselves go.”
Who else feels cheated?
I’m on Medicaid
So my AMH was 3.4 last summer, apparently that’s a little above average for my age. My gyno didn’t think I have PCOS. I know I’m in peri because my periods are shorter and my body changed. Anyone in the same boat?
I’m hoping my next dose of Wegovy (25mg) will help me get rid of it. But I’m hoping it won’t strip away more of my butt. Anyone else?
I went into peri last summer when my periods shortened. I feel like I became a different person overnight. At 38, I got smiles on the street, cheeky comments like “be careful young lady,” and the bouncers would welcome me into clubs saying “I know you baby.” At 38.5, nothing.
My body looks deflated. My ass is sagging. Badly. I got 6 sessions of Emsculpt and it did almost nothing. My waist isn’t much bigger but it feels thick. I used to have that soft feminine pouch on my lower belly. Now it sticks out and feels hard. I had a smooth back. Now I have back fat. I’m developing jowls. My hair isn’t much different but that’s the only thing I got to keep (knock on wood.)
I see some women in their 40s (especially earlier 40s) who look fit, they have a nice round butt like I did and no disgusting hard thing sitting on the bottom of their stomach. How do they do it? I feel like my life as I knew it is over and I’m not even 40, I wanted to go on a road trip across the country meeting people but I had to come back for family reasons. I missed my chance. Forever.
Does anyone here have anything positive to say about a massive body recomposition and getting any kind of a spark back? I put this in the regular perimenopause subreddit too but you guys know how unfair this is. We’re old before our time 😢
I went into peri last summer when my periods shortened. I feel like I became a different person overnight. At 38, I got smiles on the street, cheeky comments like “be careful young lady,” and the bouncers would welcome me into clubs saying “I know you baby.” At 38.5, nothing.
My body looks deflated. My ass is sagging. Badly. I got 6 sessions of Emsculpt and it did almost nothing. My waist isn’t much bigger but it feels thick. I used to have that soft feminine pouch on my lower belly. Now it sticks out and feels hard. I had a smooth back. Now I have back fat. I’m developing jowls. My hair isn’t much different but that’s the only thing I got to keep (knock on wood.)
I see some women in their 40s (especially earlier 40s) who look young and fit, they have a nice round butt like I did and no disgusting hard thing sitting on the bottom of their stomach. How do they do it? I feel like my life as I knew it is over and I’m not even 40, I wanted to go on a road trip across the country meeting people but I had to come back for family reasons. I missed my chance. Forever.
Does anyone here have anything positive to say about a massive body recomposition and getting any kind of a spark back?