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Not sure if this is the right place to ask, but is anyone aware of any clinics in the NorthEastern US that can field an all male team for urological procedures?

Thanks for looking out for my safety; I know you just wanted to avoid me hitting me head, and I acknowledged that to you verbally. That was the moment you should have calmed down.

If you weren’t aware, a lot of people have shy bladder; they physically *cannot* urinate in a crowded space or with someone watching them. Given that I woke up with a full bladder from the fluids they pumped into me during the procedures, you should have known better than to start yelling when I stood to use the urinal and then come and fucking stand behind me and continue yelling.

The fact that you yanked the curtain back while my dick was in my hand in front of about 40 people almost got you jawed. I’m not telling you this to be threatening, because hopefully I’ll never see you again. I’m telling you because delirium and urgency coming out of surgery are super common, and your patients deserve better than what you displayed with me.

The nurse that wheeled me to the restroom after I ripped the IV out and started yelling had the right idea. You could have just started with that.

If you can’t fathom a world where you treat adult patients who are AOx4 like adults instead of children, maybe find a different job, something not bedside.

This is a good faith question, so please take your time and try your best to answer.

I have watched over the past several decades as radical feminism became the default, and I would like to know what you, as women, expect of us, as men.

I am extremely grateful and proud of the relationships I have in my personal life and I feel like a wonderful friend and ally to the women I know; however I see so much anger online, and I wonder, “What is it that you want?”

So, when you use slogans like, “Smash the patriarchy“, what is it that you’re actually calling for?

What laws do you want to see passed, or changed? What societal standards?

What is it that we, as men, can do to demonstrate that we see you as equals?

This is obviously directed at the feminist crowd.c but everyone’s input is welcome.

It has been two full years. I gave you everything I have to give, but asking for you to not literally sext other people is too much to ask.

I don’t know anymore. Maybe I’m not enough. Maybe you’re too much. Either way, I feel like I’ve lost you today.

Hi, I know medical advice isn’t allowed here and I’m not asking for any.

I’m just trying to get some closure on a procedure and the sickness that I spent the last few years with.

I had a cystoscopy several years ago, during which I felt a stabbing pain as the camera moved past my prostate. I was extremely nervous and clenched as the camera was being pushed in, and the doctor made no effort to get me to relax before forcing it in.

There was a plume of blood on the screen as it happened and I almost jumped off of the table in pain, yelped, had tears in my eyes.

There were two nurses and the doctor present and nobody said a word. Nothing was written about it in the procedure notes.

I have since been diagnosed with chronic bacterial prostatitis, which started almost immediately after the procedure.

I held off on submitting a formal complaint because I was extremely emotional after this, and I didn’t want to sling any mud at anyone for no good reason.

Based on what I’m describing here, between my pain, the blood on screen, the lack of notes, and the lack of an antibiotic or even answering the phone when I called the emergency line for complications, am I right to file a complaint, from your perspective?

I’m curious to know, amongst those of us that are starting to need the really invasive work done, how many of you have put off or simply refused procedures that you find embarrassing?

Does the procedure bug you, or is it the discussion?

Does the gender of your doctor/nurse matter in your decision to seek treatment or not?

What could be changed to make you change your mind if you decided not to go?

[Edit - I cannot edit the title but I am eating crow because at least one woman agrees with this statement; I should have said people and my own biases blinded me to that]

In English, referring to any group without some kind of qualification is referring to the whole group. If I say, for example, that apples are red, I’m completely in the wrong as many are green.

For some reason that I cannot comprehend, it has become commonplace to say, “Men are [x]”, but rather than standing by the statement, simply saying that anyone taking offense is clearly a perpetrator of [x].

Gender war nonsense aside, this is logically inconsistent in the extreme, and it should really bother anyone with a fundamental grasp of the language.