“Weaponized Incompetence” is far less common than you think
More often than not, people are just incompetent. As literacy levels, plummet and nuance becomes a thing of the past it’s safer to assume someone is actually just inept than purposely acting in bad faith.
One example I often see is the conversation surrounding wives and their husbands. A lot of women will complain that their husband or boyfriend doesn’t know how to do basic things and needs a mommy. They often attribute this behavior to manipulation, but the reality is that many men are simply poorly raised. They have “boy moms” who pamper them and fail to teach them essential life skills. A lot of these men don’t even realize that they are lacking these skills. With over half of US adults reading below a sixth-grade reading level it’s not surprising.