u/TINYTITAN56

I made a post a couple of weeks ago talking about how heartbroken I was due to my girlfriend & I breaking up, and I just wanted to share a little update!

link to old post here

My girlfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago, and it felt like my whole world had ended, I felt like I lost a limb it was AWFUL

Time heals as they say, it's gotten easier and I am actually kinda enjoying the single life, although I do think about my ex every now and again especially when things happen and I want to tell her about them, or sometimes I just miss her for no reason.

I've been going to the gym to get into the best shape of my life, I also have a PT who is training me to get into strongwoman competitions in the future

I went to a festival without her and went with my friends and had the BEST time and also went to see a band the day after the festival finished and had another great time, although I did feel sad because I knew my ex would have loved it and we'd have had the best time as the crowd was insane and there were a lot of queers in the crowd

I've started hobbies that I wanted to do for years (drumming and wrestling), been making an effort with my friends & making new ones and also started a new all female metal band as well as qualifying in my qualification which I am graduating in next month!

I did message my ex to let her know I qualified, as we agreed for that to happen the day we broke up but haven't spoken since, and I'm okay with that, although I thought I wouldn't be.

Her name popped up on my phone when she responded, and it took me a second to realise who it was, which was wild!

I've also done things I NEVER thought I'd do, which I am so proud of!

I attended a lesbian social event on my own for the first time last Friday, and I was SO nervous, but it was easy to make friends.

I did crafts and actually enjoyed it! I made a cute blue rosette, which I am actually so proud of!

I got a girls number, but I didn't message her as I am trying to work on myself and improve in therapy, plus she wasn't really my type.

Therapy is also going really well, and I feel like I am benefitting so much from it , even in such a short amount of time

I was nearly kissed by another girl who i met at the event, she was 100% my type, but I rejected her as the wound still isn't healed, and it wasn't the right time for me, although, I wanted to! I am learning from past mistakes and banning myself from rebounding as it's not healthy for me or fair to others. I also want to take the time to really work on myself so I can be a good partner to the next person I date in time.

Me and that girl did arrange to go watch some jazz However, we both agreed that it was too early for the both of us to be getting into anything, and we aren't looking for a situationship either

She is a really cool person, and I've been enjoying our conversations quite a lot, plus her accent is kinda cute too

I've been taking myself out on solo dates to cafes for brunch, which is a huge achievement for me as I have really bad anxiety when I eat in public and I've also joined a lesbian social that is in my area, which I am attending on Sunday for a boardgames event

I am taking every opportunity to become a better me for ME, and i am loving it

Although it's still raw and i miss my ex sometimes, it's getting easier, and i am looking forward to my future and to the future I will have with another partner who will have the better version of me, although I am NOT in a rush to find anyone! Being single isn't all that bad

I do get a bit sad sometimes over not having anyone to cuddle at night or kiss, which is probably the worst part at the moment!

But, girls, keep your heads up if you're in the same boat as it gets better!

The love of my life and I broke up, I genuinely feel hopeless, and I am currently going through every stage of grief all at once, which feels like being hit by a truck, which honestly doesn't sound too bad at this point.

It was my fault, I wasn't a good partner to her.

She gave me SO many chances and I fucked them all up, even while being in therapy which I started because I wanted to help myself and be a better partner to her.

I keep holding onto the stupid possibility of us getting back together in the future when I'm more emotionally intelligent, but I know that will never happen, and I need to get over it.

I keep having stupid scenarios in my head where we have a house and some animals, and I cook for her because I know she loved my cooking.

It was her decision, and I agreed because I know deep down she deserves better, and I need to work on myself, and she needs the same.

I kinda wish she hated me, I think it would have made things easier.

It was hard for us both

I miss the day check in's, our silly hybrid language, the goodnight messages, her smile, and the way she looked at me when she thought I was oblivious to it.

I miss the way her body fit perfectly into mine when we cuddled and how her hand fit in mine.

I hate that we won't see our favourite bands together or go to our favourite festivals or on adventures in the car and exploring forests together

I hate the fact that she will never see me graduate.

I hate that I am such an angry person and a liar.

She deserved so much better.

Consequences of my actions, I guess.

I'm sick of crying then being okay, then crying again.

Last night and today have been hell, even with all the distractions.

I've gone back to the gym, and I'm about to start taking drum lessons, which I am looking forward to, but nothing is helping right now, and it feels like my world has imploded.

I start with a new therapist on Thursday, which I am looking forward to.

I wrote her a note and gave it to her before we said our final goodbye yesterday, which I thought would give me closure... it didn't

I'm hoping she read it because I just want her to have all the best in life.

I genuinely think I will always love her, even if time heals and we never rekindle what we had.

Girlies, please tell me it gets better because right now, I feel like it never will.

Fable 2 is my favourite out of all the games, and I want to get a tattoo of the game.

I can't see a lot of good quality ideas online or even good quality pictures to send to my artist, so any suggestions would be appreciated.

I'm looking at getting a collage type of tattoo with bits and bobs from the game, not just one thing, If that makes sense?

Thanks!

Hi,

I am trying to figure out what type of therapy would be suited to my needs, so I am looking for some advice if possible from those who may have been in similar positions to me or who are therapists themselves in this subreddit.

I am neurodiverse diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, depression and Tourettes Syndrome.

I also have autism traits, but I have not been diagnosed.

I am looking for therapy that will help me with my emotional disregualtion due to my childhood upbringing.

I struggle with conflict, assertiveness, and anger issues as well as age recession when it comes to conflict with my family and those who are in more senior roles in work and I can't for the life of me say no to anything.

I've looked into psychodynamic therapy, but I am not 100% sure if it would tick all the boxes or just some of them.

My goals in therapy are to get to the root cause of why I am the way I am, how to regulate and understand how I feel when I am disregualted and how I can communicate that to others around me

Any suggestions would be much appreciated!

Thank you!

I just want to share something that I am so proud of with people who will get it or who may just need to read something positive

I went to a festival last week and completely unmasked my tics, which I've never done in public before because I am usually ashamed of my physical tics.

I also met other people with TS syndrome, which was super validating.

I got asked if I was OK a few times, and when I told people that I have TS, they were so chill and kind, which was nice because I usually mask as I am scared of getting judged.

I got a lot of questions in regards to vocal tics and tics in general, people asking if I say funny things etc, but because I don't as i just have a cough that i can blend in, I educated them on the different types of tics and how everyone is different.

Education and understanding is all that is needed.

There will always be people who will take the piss, but those who want to learn will listen.

Hi!

As the title says, I've been living with constant reflux for the past 3 years

I've been on Omeprazole,Lanzoprazole,Nizatidine, and Famotidine to try and treat it without any luck and currently live off over the counter anti-acids

I had a few good months when I started the Nizatidine, and then it just stopped working, and I recently started Famotidine, but it made me sick and dizzy as I was on 40mg x2 a day so I went to the docs and they told me to stop taking it and to take a sample so they can test for H.Pylori bacteria which I've had to do in the past and that came up negative

I went for an endoscopy a few years ago, and the doctors were unable to find any issues apart from a benign polyp caused by the medication that I was on at the time (omeprazole)

I've changed my diet and quit caffeine, but literally NOTHING works.

I'm currently trailing a Mediterranean diet to see if that helps, but keeping acidic foods out of it

Has anyone else in or have been in a similar situation? What helped? What did the doctors say? Is there anything I can suggest to the doctors to test me for?

Thanks!

Hi,

As the title says! I'm looking for cooker suggestions

I've been looking into getting a hexi cooker, but I'm unsure if they're good enough for cooking rice & pasta on as I'm not sure if those fuel tablets will last that long.

So, any info on hexi cookers or other cooker suggestions are welcome

Thanks a lot

Hi,

A while ago, I posted on here about wanting to start up a support group in North Wales and The North West for adults with TS syndrome.

Anyway, Tourettes Action got back to me with all the info that I'd need to start a group up alongside them.

However, I need a deputy leader to help me run the group as part of their terms and conditions.

If anyone in this group is based in North Wales (Wrexham or close by) and is interested, please let me know.

I'm looking for someone who is:

- Good at timekeeping and communication

- 25 or above

- Prepared to have a DBS check

- Reliable

- Able to dedicate 5 hrs a month to the role

- First-aid trained or willing to be

- Wanting to help people with TS

-Willing to attend safeguarding courses and meetings with other TA group leaders

- Good sense of humour (this is for me personally and not on the TA criteria because I love a good joke and banter)

I am desperately looking as I believe more adults need a safe space to be themselves and to meet others who are also in the same boat.

Thank you!