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To give you a little context into the friendship, we became enemies to quick friends back in high school and we bonded over our mutual mischievous nature. We lost contact in the middle post 10th grade (moved to diff schools) and ended up reconnecting after 2/3 years and remained good friends.

She is now in the very early stage of all the nuptials, yesterday so happened to be the pre engagement bash (we are Indians and an engagement is a family ceremony with specific rituals etc) so they held this one specifically for friends a week before the actual engagement.

I have been on the fashion journey with her including a whole dress saga, which she asked for suggestions and ended up going with a local tailor who screwed up so bad that she called me crying on Saturday, when I had planned to go out but I cancelled to help her, mind you, without a single ounce of gratitude my way. The day of, she ends up going to the very store I had been telling her about from the beginning to find a new dress 🙊.

(I am very into fashion and lifestyle, it’s not new for people to ask for my help, but never this thankless)

Now comes the part where it all went to hell. She asked to borrow any earrings that would go with her dress, as she did not want to spend on more things which I could understand and offered up options. I own a lot of fashion jewellery (well again, a fashion girly) which are not exactly cheap either, they are all authentic Swarovski bought at different times and from multiple collections. Everything went well, and I ended up passing out earlier than expected. Next day I see her pacing around looking for a pouch, so I jump in to help her, she only tells me there was a gold ring at least 5g in weight and frantically continued to look for it. She called another friend who had left and started to describe the pouch and its contents, in the middle of it, I hear her say “there were also earrings, with stones, not REAL at all, not important” which made my spidey senses tingle and I asked her to which she said that yes they were earrings.

Well, I come from a family where I was taught that if you borrow something from someone, it’s is the most valuable as it does not belong to you. For her to call “not REAL” as in not real “precious metals” was extremely unnecessary but I let that go.

Miraculously we end up finding the pouch stored in a locked compartment of their car, all the things and my earrings intact but her ring still gone. I was glad, immediately breathe a sigh of relief as this pair is not available anymore and they happen to be one of my favourites! We try and move on to leave.

Up until this moment I was still willing to let it all go and move on. We start up the cars, I was with the main couple in the car and she started to talk about the ring with her fiancé to be again, and then mentions while laughing, “and she was here worried about her earrings, which are not even that big of a deal” which is when I lost it, I said “it might not be much to you but it is to me and it’s not available anywhere to buy anymore”, she says “I understand but if it were lost it wouldn’t be as big of a deal, I’d say sorry and we can move on”.

Yes, still no apologies in sight. And this is where I wonder if I can ever be friends with someone so insensitive, callous and straight up RUDE. Her actual engagement is next week, I will not be confronting her regarding how she made me feel until that has passed, because some of us have compassion. I don’t know how to move forward with her if she comes back with something much more further insensitive and doubling down on her unbelievable behaviour. I look for advice on what to do? What else to do?

To give you a little context into the friendship, we became enemies to quick friends back in high school and we bonded over our mutual mischievous nature. We lost contact in the middle post 10th grade (moved to diff schools) and ended up reconnecting after 2/3 years and remained good friends.

She is now in the very early stage of all the nuptials, yesterday so happened to be the pre engagement bash (we are Indians and an engagement is a family ceremony with specific rituals etc) so they held this one specifically for friends a week before the actual engagement.

I have been on the fashion journey with her including a whole dress saga, which she asked for suggestions and ended up going with a local tailor who screwed up so bad that she called me crying on Saturday, when I had planned to go out but I cancelled to help her, mind you, without a single ounce of gratitude my way. The day of, she ends up going to the very store I had been telling her about from the beginning to find a new dress 🙊.

(I am very into fashion and lifestyle, it’s not new for people to ask for my help, but never this thankless)

Now comes the part where it all went to hell. She asked to borrow any earrings that would go with her dress, as she did not want to spend on more things which I could understand and offered up options. I own a lot of fashion jewellery (well again, a fashion girly) which are not exactly cheap either, they are all authentic Swarovski bought at different times and from multiple collections. Everything went well, and I ended up passing out earlier than expected. Next day I see her pacing around looking for a pouch, so I jump in to help her, she only tells me there was a gold ring at least 5g in weight and frantically continued to look for it. She called another friend who had left and started to describe the pouch and its contents, in the middle of it, I hear her say “there were also earrings, with stones, not REAL at all, not important” which made my spidey senses tingle and I asked her to which she said that yes they were earrings.

Well, I come from a family where I was taught that if you borrow something from someone, it’s is the most valuable as it does not belong to you. For her to call “not REAL” as in not real “precious metals” was extremely unnecessary but I let that go.

Miraculously we end up finding the pouch stored in a locked compartment of their car, all the things and my earrings intact but her ring still gone. I was glad, immediately breathe a sigh of relief as this pair is not available anymore and they happen to be one of my favourites! We try and move on to leave.

Up until this moment I was still willing to let it all go and move on. We start up the cars, I was with the main couple in the car and she started to talk about the ring with her fiancé to be again, and then mentions while laughing, “and she was here worried about her earrings, which are not even that big of a deal” which is when I lost it, I said “it might not be much to you but it is to me and it’s not available anywhere to buy anymore”, she says “I understand but if it were lost it wouldn’t be as big of a deal, I’d say sorry and we can move on”.

Yes, still no apologies in sight. And this is where I wonder if I can ever be friends with someone so insensitive, callous and straight up RUDE. Her actual engagement is next week, I will not be confronting her regarding how she made me feel until that has passed, because some of us have compassion. I don’t know how to move forward with her if she comes back with something much more further insensitive and doubling down on her unbelievable behaviour. I look for advice on what to do? What else to do?

To give you a little context into the friendship, we became enemies to quick friends back in high school and we bonded over our mutual mischievous nature. We lost contact in the middle post 10th grade (moved to diff schools) and ended up reconnecting after 2/3 years and remained good friends.

She is now in the very early stage of all the nuptials, yesterday so happened to be the pre engagement bash (we are Indians and an engagement is a family ceremony with specific rituals etc) so they held this one specifically for friends a week before the actual engagement.

I have been on the fashion journey with her including a whole dress saga, which she asked for suggestions and ended up going with a local tailor who screwed up so bad that she called me crying on Saturday, when I had planned to go out but I cancelled to help her, mind you, without a single ounce of gratitude my way. The day of, she ends up going to the very store I had been telling her about from the beginning to find a new dress 🙊.

(I am very into fashion and lifestyle, it’s not new for people to ask for my help, but never this thankless)

Now comes the part where it all went to hell. She asked to borrow any earrings that would go with her dress, as she did not want to spend on more things which I could understand and offered up options. I own a lot of fashion jewellery (well again, a fashion girly) which are not exactly cheap either, they are all authentic Swarovski bought at different times and from multiple collections. Everything went well, and I ended up passing out earlier than expected. Next day I see her pacing around looking for a pouch, so I jump in to help her, she only tells me there was a gold ring at least 5g in weight and frantically continued to look for it. She called another friend who had left and started to describe the pouch and its contents, in the middle of it, I hear her say “there were also earrings, with stones, not REAL at all, not important” which made my spidey senses tingle and I asked her to which she said that yes they were earrings.

Well, I come from a family where I was taught that if you borrow something from someone, it’s is the most valuable as it does not belong to you. For her to call “not REAL” as in not real “precious metals” was extremely unnecessary but I let that go.

Miraculously we end up finding the pouch stored in a locked compartment of their car, all the things and my earrings intact but her ring still gone. I was glad, immediately breathe a sigh of relief as this pair is not available anymore and they happen to be one of my favourites! We try and move on to leave.

Up until this moment I was still willing to let it all go and move on. We start up the cars, I was with the main couple in the car and she started to talk about the ring with her fiancé to be again, and then mentions while laughing, “and she was here worried about her earrings, which are not even that big of a deal” which is when I lost it, I said “it might not be much to you but it is to me and it’s not available anywhere to buy anymore”, she says “I understand but if it were lost it wouldn’t be as big of a deal, I’d say sorry and we can move on”.

Yes, still no apologies in sight. And this is where I wonder if I can ever be friends with someone so insensitive, callous and straight up RUDE. Her actual engagement is next week, I will not be confronting her regarding how she made me feel until that has passed, because some of us have compassion. I don’t know how to move forward with her if she comes back with something much more further insensitive and doubling down on her unbelievable behaviour. I look for advice on what to do? What else to do?

To give you a little context into the friendship, we became enemies to quick friends back in high school and we bonded over our mutual mischievous nature. We lost contact in the middle post 10th grade (moved to diff schools) and ended up reconnecting after 2/3 years and remained good friends.

She is now in the very early stage of all the nuptials, yesterday so happened to be the pre engagement bash (we are Indians and an engagement is a family ceremony with specific rituals etc) so they held this one specifically for friends a week before the actual engagement.

I have been on the fashion journey with her including a whole dress saga, which she asked for suggestions and ended up going with a local tailor who screwed up so bad that she called me crying on Saturday, when I had planned to go out but I cancelled to help her, mind you, without a single ounce of gratitude my way. The day of, she ends up going to the very store I had been telling her about from the beginning to find a new dress 🙊.

(I am very into fashion and lifestyle, it’s not new for people to ask for my help, but never this thankless)

Now comes the part where it all went to hell. She asked to borrow any earrings that would go with her dress, as she did not want to spend on more things which I could understand and offered up options. I own a lot of fashion jewellery (well again, a fashion girly) which are not exactly cheap either, they are all authentic Swarovski bought at different times and from multiple collections. Everything went well, and I ended up passing out earlier than expected. Next day I see her pacing around looking for a pouch, so I jump in to help her, she only tells me there was a gold ring at least 5g in weight and frantically continued to look for it. She called another friend who had left and started to describe the pouch and its contents, in the middle of it, I hear her say “there were also earrings, with stones, not REAL at all, not important” which made my spidey senses tingle and I asked her to which she said that yes they were earrings.

Well, I come from a family where I was taught that if you borrow something from someone, it’s is the most valuable as it does not belong to you. For her to call “not REAL” as in not real “precious metals” was extremely unnecessary but I let that go.

Miraculously we end up finding the pouch stored in a locked compartment of their car, all the things and my earrings intact but her ring still gone. I was glad, immediately breathe a sigh of relief as this pair is not available anymore and they happen to be one of my favourites! We try and move on to leave.

Up until this moment I was still willing to let it all go and move on. We start up the cars, I was with the main couple in the car and she started to talk about the ring with her fiancé to be again, and then mentions while laughing, “and she was here worried about her earrings, which are not even that big of a deal” which is when I lost it, I said “it might not be much to you but it is to me and it’s not available anywhere to buy anymore”, she says “I understand but if it were lost it wouldn’t be as big of a deal, I’d say sorry and we can move on”.

Yes, still no apologies in sight. And this is where I wonder if I can ever be friends with someone so insensitive, callous and straight up RUDE. Her actual engagement is next week, I will not be confronting her regarding how she made me feel until that has passed, because some of us have compassion. I don’t know how to move forward with her if she comes back with something much more further insensitive and doubling down on her unbelievable behaviour. I look for advice on what to do? What else to do?

To give you a little context into the friendship, we became enemies to quick friends back in high school and we bonded over our mutual mischievous nature. We lost contact in the middle post 10th grade (moved to diff schools) and ended up reconnecting after 2/3 years and remained good friends.

She is now in the very early stage of all the nuptials, yesterday so happened to be the pre engagement bash (we are Indians and an engagement is a family ceremony with specific rituals etc) so they held this one specifically for friends a week before the actual engagement.

I have been on the fashion journey with her including a whole dress saga, which she asked for suggestions and ended up going with a local tailor who screwed up so bad that she called me crying on Saturday, when I had planned to go out but I cancelled to help her, mind you, without a single ounce of gratitude my way. The day of, she ends up going to the very store I had been telling her about from the beginning to find a new dress 🙊.

(I am very into fashion and lifestyle, it’s not new for people to ask for my help, but never this thankless)

Now comes the part where it all went to hell. She asked to borrow any earrings that would go with her dress, as she did not want to spend on more things which I could understand and offered up options. I own a lot of fashion jewellery (well again, a fashion girly) which are not exactly cheap either, they are all authentic Swarovski bought at different times and from multiple collections. Everything went well, and I ended up passing out earlier than expected. Next day I see her pacing around looking for a pouch, so I jump in to help her, she only tells me there was a gold ring at least 5g in weight and frantically continued to look for it. She called another friend who had left and started to describe the pouch and its contents, in the middle of it, I hear her say “there were also earrings, with stones, not REAL at all, not important” which made my spidey senses tingle and I asked her to which she said that yes they were earrings.

Well, I come from a family where I was taught that if you borrow something from someone, it’s is the most valuable as it does not belong to you. For her to call “not REAL” as in not real “precious metals” was extremely unnecessary but I let that go.

Miraculously we end up finding the pouch stored in a locked compartment of their car, all the things and my earrings intact but her ring still gone. I was glad, immediately breathe a sigh of relief as this pair is not available anymore and they happen to be one of my favourites! We try and move on to leave.

Up until this moment I was still willing to let it all go and move on. We start up the cars, I was with the main couple in the car and she started to talk about the ring with her fiancé to be again, and then mentions while laughing, “and she was here worried about her earrings, which are not even that big of a deal” which is when I lost it, I said “it might not be much to you but it is to me and it’s not available anywhere to buy anymore”, she says “I understand but if it were lost it wouldn’t be as big of a deal, I’d say sorry and we can move on”.

Yes, still no apologies in sight. And this is where I wonder if I can ever be friends with someone so insensitive, callous and straight up RUDE. Her actual engagement is next week, I will not be confronting her regarding how she made me feel until that has passed, because some of us have compassion. I don’t know how to move forward with her if she comes back with something much more further insensitive and doubling down on her unbelievable behaviour. I look for advice on what to do? What else to do?