u/Technical-Result5020

Every time I speak to a sister with the intention of marriage, I eventually end up ghosting her.

The strange thing is that I genuinely want to get married, but every time something happens. Sometimes I get bored. Sometimes I get Waswas and start overthinking small things. Other times I start wondering if maybe I am hit with Black magic or if something is wrong with me because this pattern keeps repeating. Maybe Allah swt doesn't me want to get married until something changes. I want to do Rukhyah.

At first I can be interested and serious, but then I suddenly lose motivation or start finding reasons to pull away. I do not know if this is fear of commitment, unrealistic expectations, overthinking, or something else.

Has anyone gone through something similar? What advice would you give?

It was so akward that I ran away. She probably thought I was a freak. I couldn't make her see it.

This is a relative of mine. I know its halal but there is something still bothering me about this, she is still studying while the man has children of his own. The thing is she herself wants this. He has some money, and she comes from a poor family. So she wants to marry him.

What do you think about this?

When every woman you meet online insults or demeans men who are short, meanwhile in reality majority of men are short. Heightism is the biggest factor causing less people to date.

Or when women only care about when a man is rich, meanwhile majority of men aren't rich. Obviously less people are going to date or marry, resulting in less children.

The average man is not tall, rich or funny. the average man is just average, and he has to deal with real life problems.

In many countries employers and the state are required to pay maternity leave for women who get pregnant. Billions get spend on this anually, which forces employers to raise the prices of their products or services. And makes it harder to raise a family. In the past one income was enough to raise a family, nowadays the employer is expected to pay without getting anything in return. Also when the woman leaves, the employer still needs to find a replacement worker which costs a lot of money too.

I don't mean old Harkis who moved to France. But those who pretend to be Algerian but are in reality Harkis.