When did you realize everything was about them ?
It took me a while to realize that the whole world revolved around my Nparent and their skewed sense of self.
I recently decided to apply grey rocking, and dramatically reduce contact. Needless to say they flipped the fuck out, out of nowhere they asked / said « You don’t find me interesting at all.» and « You don’t give a fuck about me or this family »
It dramatically reframed all the years of thinking they loved me, but didn’t know how to express it. I think they just love how we make them feel when we do good.