u/TheNotorious-1

I’ve been thinking about this lately.

Why do some people blindly trust their friends’ opinions or decisions, especially in relationships, without questioning the friend’s intentions?

Sometimes friends genuinely care and try to help. But other times, it feels like they get too involved in things that aren’t really their business.

I’m not saying friends shouldn’t point out red flags, sometimes they’re absolutely right. But I feel like people don’t ask themselves why their friend is so invested in their life or relationship.

Something happened in my life that made me think about this.

I had a friend (let’s call her A). She had another friend (B) who was in a relationship. A started saying things like, “I don’t think he’s genuine” or “he doesn’t seem nice.” At first it sounded like concern, which is fair.

But then she got really invested in B’s relationship. She even texted the guy from a fake account to “test” him. Obviously he replied because he had no idea who it was, he just asked normal questions like who she was and stuff. Somehow, this became part of proving he wasn’t genuine.

And I was just thinking… why are you this involved in someone else’s relationship?

Sometimes I feel people mistake controlling behavior for being “protective.” Not every friend who says “I’m just looking out for you” actually has good intentions. Some people influence your decisions so much that you stop thinking for yourself.

Maybe I’m overthinking it, but I genuinely feel people should understand a friend’s intentions before blindly following every opinion.

What do you guys think? Have you seen this happen?

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This didn’t happen today, but it’s something that still randomly comes back to my mind and makes me cringe hard.

Back in college, I liked this girl and decided to finally do something about it. The problem is, I didn’t have the confidence to approach her directly, so instead I told her friend about it first. Her friend laughed and said something like, “Oh you like her? Okay, I’ll tell her.”

I took that as a good sign and thought things would go smoothly.

Later that same day, I saw both of them walking together. I didn’t want to miss my chance, so I went up to talk to her. That’s where everything went wrong.

Out of nowhere, the same friend I had spoken to earlier suddenly started yelling at me loudly in front of a crowd of around 30+ people. I had no idea why she reacted like that. It completely caught me off guard and the whole situation became awkward instantly.

The girl I liked was trying to pull her friend away, but by that point, all the attention was already on me. I was standing there confused, not understanding what I did wrong.

Instead of reacting or arguing, I just stayed calm, tried to handle it as smoothly as possible, and walked away from the situation.

Later that day, I found out the reason behind everything they were already in a relationship with each other. I had no idea about it before approaching her, and clearly, I should have understood the situation better before making a move.

So yeah, I basically walked into that situation blindly and ended up embarrassing myself in front of a bunch of people.

Even now, this randomly pops into my head and makes me cringe.

TL;DR: I liked a girl, told her friend first, approached her later, and got yelled at in front of 30+ people because I didn’t know they were already in a relationship.

I’m a final year student and recently got a job through an internship at a startup working with an American client. I honestly didn’t expect to get selected. I joined the internship just because my college required it, and during interviews I was very casual and didn’t stress much. Somehow I cleared two rounds and got hired.

I completed 2 months of training, and now my actual work is starting. This is where my problem is becoming serious.

I’ve developed a habit of constantly switching to my phone or personal laptop for distractions like Reddit, chatting, scrolling, etc. Even during training, I was doing this a lot, and even now I’m typing this from the office. I also bring my personal laptop every day even though I don’t really need it, just in case, but I end up using it for distractions.

After work, it’s the same pattern — reels, games, random scrolling for hours. I feel like my focus is completely broken.

The thing is, I know I got lucky with this opportunity, and I don’t want to mess it up. I’m actually willing to work long hours and put in effort, but I’m struggling to control this behavior.

I want this discussion to be practical — not just “use less phone,” but what actually worked for you if you had a similar problem. How did you build focus again? Did you use strict rules, routines, or something else?

Right now I’m thinking about things like not bringing my personal laptop, maybe setting time blocks, or even trying meditation, but I’m not sure what will actually stick.

Would really appreciate advice from people who’ve dealt with this and managed to fix it.

So 2 years ago when I was 18, I started feeling really lonely. Naan life la proper ah yaarayum date pannadhu illa, never been in a real relationship. Communication skills kooda romba weak ah irundhudhu, idk why but I just couldn’t connect easily with people.

So I thought online la friends pudikalam nu. Neriya foreigners kedaichanga, but only 2 Tamil people dhaan kedaichanga. Later I found out they were from the same city, so naan avanga rendu perayum eachother ku introduce panninen and they got along.

Andha rendu perla oru ponnu romba extrovert, she literally pushed me to get on calls 😅. Naan usually call la pesave maatten, so that was something totally new for me.

But the thing is I didn’t fall for her.
Naan feelings develop panninadhu innoru ponnu introvert mela dhaan.

Ava romba calm, simple ah pesuva, not loud, not over. Slowly we started talking daily, sharing a lot of things. That phase was honestly one of the best times in my life. Before that I had some casual flirty interactions, but this felt different, more real. I think that was the first time I actually felt something serious for someone.

But she had this habit, she would just disappear. Like suddenly account deactivate panniduva, group la irundhu leave panniduva, no explanation. That really annoyed me. Oru naal adha pathi argument vandhudhu, and we stopped talking for almost 1 year.

After that naan dhaan thirumba text panninen. She said she never thought I’d text her again. We started talking again like before, but I never confessed my feelings. That’s something that still hurts when I think about it.

Also there was one guy who liked her. She didn’t accept him. But later she posted a story about a gift someone gave her. I asked about it, and she said one random guy approached her, told you’re beautiful and gave that. The way she described it idk why but it hurt me.

I don’t even know what happened between them after that.

Still I couldn’t let her go, so I just kept talking.

Then suddenly one day she deleted her Instagram. I asked why, she said I’ll tell you later, and after that she literally deleted everything, like full disappearance.

I wanted to call her and ask if she’s okay, but the last time we even spoke on call was like 1.5 years ago, so I felt it would be too awkward.

Last thing she told me was she’s preparing for something. I believe she’s focusing on studies and trying to move abroad.

Even now I still think about her sometimes. I’m working now, dealing with projects, college, family pressure and all, but this thing is still in my head.

I still have her friend’s contact, but I don’t feel like texting them, it feels weird.

Even now im in casual shits with sum people but i still think about her.

This whole thing kinda messed me up mentally.

So yeah I just want honest opinions
Should I wait for her to come back
Or should I just move on and let this go
If you were in my place what would you do

I’ve been using a Realme 10 Pro+ for about 3 years now. When I first got it, the performance was really good — smooth speed, great camera quality, and overall a solid experience.

I’ve kept the phone updated to the latest available software (I think it stopped at Realme UI 6.0), and everything was fine for a while. But recently, I’ve noticed some issues:

• The phone feels noticeably slower
• Camera quality has dropped compared to before
• Battery life has reduced a lot (around ~3 hours for gaming, ~5 hours for general use like reels)

I’m a bit disappointed because I expected it to hold up better over time. I’ve tried basic things like keeping it updated, but I haven’t gone for custom ROMs since I don’t want to risk bricking my device.

Has anyone else experienced similar issues with their Realme devices after a few years?
Are there any safe ways to improve performance or battery life at this stage?

I’m also considering switching brands in the future, but wanted to hear your thoughts first.