u/Thegayagendaisme

I’m seeing some critique of the movie “Obsession” by Malaysians online and there’s a lot of negativity?? Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion, but a lot of it was how the movie wasn’t scary and many people siding with Bear which was disappointing to see. I absolutely loved the movie but it’s sad to see local watchers empathize with a rapist who was intentionally made to be a bad person. In my opinion it stems from a lack of critical thinking skills and an inability to properly decipher art. A lot of local horror movies are just cheap jumpscare trash and I hope one day a local producer can make a horror just as good or thought provoking without using religion as a fear tool.

I remember in my old job there was a Malaysian Indian who I assume his ancestors were more recent migrants from India and still held onto their caste identity. During breaks he’d tell us about how he didn’t like to interact with people from certain parts of South India (he lived in India for 6 years) because of *insert generalization* about people from a certain caste. I know this isn’t a new concept and there’s even some caste selective organizations from what I’ve heard, but it is quite a rare sight from the average Malaysian Indian you meet who knows nothing about their ancestors caste origins nor cares to know. I’m very anti caste and marginalizing people based off uncontrollable factors, plus I grew up in the US with many “Brahmins” who were insufferable and looked down on southeast Asians. Was wondering if y’all have had a similar experience 💀💀

I have an aunt and uncle and let’s say they’re wildly unhappy but refuse to get a divorce for whatever reason. Uncle cheated on aunt (allegedly) multiple times and even before the marriage, aunt hates him but stays. She always projects how unhappy she is and told everyone in the family the cheating scandals (she told me when I was 15 and playing Fortnite😭). This has been going on for years and while I do feel for her, literally no action for separation was taken. Just constant complaining. Her kids have begged for divorce for years and now they’re all adults and are fed up with their parents.

Anyways my cousin got married last week (actual wedding is in the end of the year, they were just officially registering the marriage in a fancy restaurant). My cousins marrying a Chinese man who has a much smaller family, in comparison to our large desi circle. We tried our best the whole night to make his side of the family feel comfortable and included as they are family now. Anyways now’s the moment where the officiater was signing the documents to officially register the marriage and it’s supposed to be a quiet moment with the bride and groom exchanging “I dos”. We were all silent and had our cameras out to capture the special moment. “Ms. xxx do you take xxx to be your lawfully wedded husband” and before she spoke my bum ass aunt just yells “Remember you guys this is forever. Back when I was getting married I had so many people warn me that this was a permanent decision but I still went ahead and look how I am-”. A special moment just ruined like that….😭 Even worse she was sitting next to the grooms parents. We shushed her and everyone was just looking at each other in shock. Then when it was the grooms turn….”Mr. Xxx do you take xxxx as your lawfully wedded wife” then my bum ass uncle (her husband) just jokingly yells “I WILL. I WILL. No wait, I DO” like bro???? He was tryna make a joke but this was NOT the time. I was so embarrassed in their behalf and all of our recordings have these idiots acting a fucking fool.

Their sons went up to everyone after and apologized in behalf of their parents and we are all just so baffled over what happened. Luckily the bride and groom didn’t really process what happened because of the adrenaline and they kept focus on the actual officiation but man this is so fucking embarrassing😭😭

Where my parents were born and got married, my dad had to convert to Islam to marry my mom underneath the law for Muslims. I’m half desi and half austronesian. My desi side is very Hindu, and while my dad did convert to Islam for my mom he doesn’t practice a lick of it. Have never seen him pray, he’s consistently telling me stories of Hindu gods and goddesses and gives me horoscope updates, he goes to temples secretely sometimes, doesn’t eat beef but everyone else in the family does, and drinks alcohol once in a while. My mom is a very devout Muslim and tells me in the other ear to not believe in any other God than Allah and she’s very unhappy with my dad not being more Muslim. But she saves face and doesn’t bring it up to him. I’m personally agnostic and don’t care about other people’s beliefs, but I’m genuinely curious how they made this relationship work from their late 20s up to now in their 60s😭 I personally think both religions are interesting in their own rite but I just don’t like to subscribe to organized religion.

They get along for the most part but religion is the thing we don’t talk about when we’re together, but privately with my parents they hold very different beliefs. Its also weird cause my dads side of the family is lowkey Islamophobic and my moms side talks shit about Kaffirs. Wondering if anyone else is in a similar predicament. PS to anyone religious reading this, PLEASE marry someone with similar or same beliefs.

I (22) am starting to notice a bit of a growth in my chest and body hair but it’s still kinda at a minimal. Definitely not in bear/otter territory but I lowkey have the body that will look so sexy with more thicker hair (tall, muscular but also kinda stocky). I know it’s mostly genetics, me being half austronesian doesn’t help at all lmfao but I was wondering if anyone noticed more body hair as they gotten older. I always found dad bods with hair a lot sexier than a 6 pack.

Why are you guys using the current situation to say that Khiannah should’ve won or that KCC has matured, acting like that does anything to the situation 😭😭 A trans woman was violently assaulted on camera and the focus is being shifted from the victim to contestants of a reality show. This isn’t catty tea or drama it’s a serious display of violence that should have nobody’s name thrown in other than Maxie’s and the victims. I understand some of the fans might be younger but please stop this it’s incredibly weird and frankly cringe.

Hello there I (22) am planning on applying for an MBA program in the near future and would like some advice. My story is a bit unique, I graduated from a top 100 American state school with a 3.75 GPA in Business Administration at age 20. Worked a year in a mid-sized manufacturing company in Texas on a one-year work visa. Went back home and joined the family business which is as well in manufacturing. Helping a lot with the management as well as data analysis (building a more defined SQL system, assigning roles to the production workers, in charge of the sales and strategy to local and international clients, etc). Still got a lot more of growth to do before Im ready for an MBA as I’m wanting to pursue one in a T15 to help elevate the current business (we are based internationally (not India) and MBA graduates from top programs help greatly in networking and credibility) as well as a backup for a career shift in case in the future I want to change careers.

I’m aiming for a T15 as mentioned before with Cornell, Yale, and Dartmouth being some top picks as I know the M7s can be quite a crapshoot but I still will apply to those. Trying to aim for a 730+ when I eventually take the GMAT and will study like insane. I guess if it helps with my application, international student, queer (from a deeply homophobic country), work experience in the United States and my home country, leading multiple projects and collaborating B2B with big names in the country (will expand more on my application of course). Going to hopefully apply once I get 3/4 solid years of experience but want to start building my portfolio now and currently documenting on LinkedIn. Any advice would be appreciated :)

A little long story

I was friends with this person let’s call them X. X and I were really close in our first year of college (well my third year but I was a transfer student that started school at an early age while they were a freshman so we were the same age but different class groups) and then we didn’t become as close anymore (naturally drifting from different friend groups and hobbies) but still maintained good connection and hung out once in a while until I graduated. They are neurodivergent and so am I and have expressed how hard it is for them to maintain friendships or connections to people outside of their very inner circle. I graduated 2 years ago and they became a junior. We barely spoke but remained followed on Instagram and I thought we mutually respected each other as we never had a falling apart. I visited college again last year after I graduated to see one of my best friends and reached out to X if they wanted to hangout. We were planning to and they seemed excited but they got busy at the end and canceled. I was in paranoia so I asked them if everything was okay between us and they said things were fine. Last year I started a new Instagram account and deleted the old one and attempted to refollow them on that new account but they never accepted to follow-back. I didn’t think much of it as their girlfriend follows me on the new account and they both discuss everything together so I assume there wasn’t any one-sided beef. X was still following my art account.

About last week I noticed that X unfollowed my art account but was still following the accounts of other people from college and my ex’s which did hurt to see. It was a rough day as even though we weren’t close anymore I still respected them a lot and their art and thought a mutual following meant we were cool. Even though we never had a falling out, we have a mutual friend named J. J and I had a falling out and J is closer to X as well as being in the same class group with them. I suspect that J might’ve talked shit about me to X after I graduated, but I don’t wanna speculate too hard on it. My friend Sam went to X’s girlfriends birthday last year and said that X and their girlfriend was talking good about me and how much they’ve missed me since I graduated which made me think everything was cool despite J’s possible influence. But seeing they unfollowed my art account and not remove me as a follower was very hurtful ngl. I liked their posts and some of their stories on that account too here and there even though I’m not very active on that account. X’s girlfriend still follows me on both accounts but we also don’t talk as much anymore.

Today I saw a post of X graduating and furthering into a masters. I’m very happy for them and wish them the best internally but I guess it hurts that we aren’t as close anymore as I would’ve loved to have dm’d them a congrats and update each other about our lives but since they unfollowed me and I unfollowed back, I’d rather maintain my distance. Idk it’s so weird still being focused on stupid social media dynamics when I have a full time job and a good career but still being in my early 20s (22) I guess my mind just isn’t there yet maturely despite being 2 years out of college. I’d like any advice or words of support to just move on as it’s been bothering me all day
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