u/Think-Difference880

Currently do real estate but my MIL is my boss and our relationship has been tense lately related to things outside of real estate (lack of respect and boundaries/ passive aggressive). I feel like I’m under her thumb… the money can be good but I don’t know when it stops being worth my sanity. Outside of my MIL- the job itself can just be stressful since you don’t know when or where the next check will be… I do love the freedom the job provides where I can be with my kids but I don’t know if the mental stress is worth it to me… my husband says we will be fine if I leave as his job allows for him to work extra jobs for money but I also don’t want him to work more either… I’m just very conflicted. I am very grateful to work but also grateful to stay home. I know there’s pros and cons to both. But I hate the control I feel my MIL has over me and how maybe she feels she can treat me however if I allow her to access in multiple places in my life.

So I’ve worked with my MIL in real estate for the past 5+ years. But over the years and after getting engaged to her son and having grandbabies she has become more passive aggressive with her words and actions when it surrounds talking about my family or her authority she feels she has over my kids.

Please note my biological family hasn’t always been the best or most stable but we have worked through our problems. In the midst of my family’s problems - my husbands family absolutely took me in as their own but it’s almost like his MIL holds it over my head. Anytime my family is brought up she says hurtful things to me about them. She also just tries to push her desires over mine when it comes to my kids.

Mother’s Day same thing happened and my husband stood up for me and we ended up leaving his mom’s house. I tried to explain to her how hurt I was by that day of all days and tell her that in the same way I have had to keep my guard up around my dad I had to do with her as well. She then snapped and said I was so unappreciative and ungrateful and if she wants to she can look at me sideways and be passive aggressive if she wants to.

I’ve always just tried to be respectful of her and her family, but I’m at my wits end. Idk if I should leave real estate as this is my source of income . My husband also has a job so we would be fine but also idk where I would go job wise and I also don’t want to be the reason my husband and his family don’t talk. My husband is on my side but his mom is so disrespectful and hurtful and his family passes it off as “that’s how she is”. Unfortunately when she is rude I don’t defend myself and let it eat me inside.

What do I do

So I’ve worked with my MIL in real estate for the past 5+ years. But over the years and after getting engaged to her son and having grandbabies she has become more passive aggressive with her words and actions when it surrounds talking about my family or her authority she feels she has over my kids.

Please note my biological family hasn’t always been the best or most stable but we have worked through our problems. In the midst of my family’s problems - my husbands family absolutely took me in as their own but it’s almost like his MIL holds it over my head. Anytime my family is brought up she says hurtful things to me about them. She also just tries to push her desires over mine when it comes to my kids.

Mother’s Day same thing happened and my husband stood up for me and we ended up leaving his mom’s house. I tried to explain to her how hurt I was by that day of all days and tell her that in the same way I have had to keep my guard up around my dad I had to do with her as well. She then snapped and said I was so unappreciative and ungrateful and if she wants to she can look at me sideways and be passive aggressive if she wants to.

I’ve always just tried to be respectful of her and her family, but I’m at my wits end. Idk if I should leave real estate as this is my source of income . My husband also has a job so we would be fine but also idk where I would go job wise and I also don’t want to be the reason my husband and his family don’t talk. My husband is on my side but his mom is so disrespectful and hurtful and his family passes it off as “that’s how she is”. Unfortunately when she is rude I don’t defend myself and let it eat me inside.

What do I do

So I’ve worked with my MIL in real estate for the past 5+ years. But over the years and after getting engaged to her son and having grandbabies she has become more passive aggressive with her words and actions when it surrounds talking about my family or her authority she feels she has over my kids.

Please note my biological family hasn’t always been the best or most stable but we have worked through our problems. In the midst of my family’s problems - my husbands family absolutely took me in as their own but it’s almost like his MIL holds it over my head. Anytime my family is brought up she says hurtful things to me about them. She also just tries to push her desires over mine when it comes to my kids.

Mother’s Day same thing happened and my husband stood up for me and we ended up leaving his mom’s house. I tried to explain to her how hurt I was by that day of all days and tell her that in the same way I have had to keep my guard up around my dad I had to do with her as well. She then snapped and said I was so unappreciative and ungrateful and if she wants to she can look at me sideways and be passive aggressive if she wants to.

I’ve always just tried to be respectful of her and her family, but I’m at my wits end. Idk if I should leave real estate as this is my source of income . My husband also has a job so we would be fine but also idk where I would go job wise and I also don’t want to be the reason my husband and his family don’t talk. My husband is on my side but his mom is so disrespectful and hurtful and his family passes it off as “that’s how she is”. Unfortunately when she is rude I don’t defend myself and let it eat me inside.

What do I do