u/ThrowRaLostAway

Trying to understand this from a male perspective.
A couple is in a long-term committed relationship. The man is 42, lives alone closeby, but they don’t spend nights together. There has been no physical intimacy for almost two years.
Whenever the topic is brought up, he avoids discussing it. After months of encouragement, he eventually sees a doctor and his medical tests come back normal.
Couples therapy is suggested, but he isn’t interested. The only explanation he gives is that his partner “doesn’t talk to him properly,” without elaborating further.
Not looking for anyone to diagnose a stranger. Just curious:
Can stress alone suppress sexual desire for that long?
If medical tests are normal, what are hu the most common reasons you’ve seen?
Have any men here gone through something similar? What was actually going on?
If you were in his shoes, what might have been the underlying issue?
He does initiate regular meeting in restaurants / cafe and calls during the day although just 5 min long calls
Looking for genuine experiences rather than speculation.

I’m 40, single, no children, and trying to figure out what the next chapter of life looks like.
I’m not looking for people to tell me “there’s still time” or “you’ll find someone.” I’m more interested in hearing from people who have actually lived this.
How do you deal with:
The loneliness when friends are busy with spouses and kids?
The feeling that you may never have children?
Dating in your 40s—has it been worth the emotional effort?
Watching your parents age while not having a family of your own?
Finding purpose outside of a relationship?
I’m financially stable and have a good career, so this isn’t about money. It’s more about the emotional side of life and wondering what gives people joy and meaning when life hasn’t followed the traditional path.
I’d especially love to hear from people who are now in their late 40s, 50s or older. Looking back, what helped? What do you wish you’d known at 40?
Please be honest—even if your answer isn’t particularly positive. I’d rather hear real experiences than motivational quotes.

I’m 40, single, no children, and trying to figure out what the next chapter of life looks like.
I’m not looking for people to tell me “there’s still time” or “you’ll find someone.” I’m more interested in hearing from people who have actually lived this.
How do you deal with:
The loneliness when friends are busy with spouses and kids?
The feeling that you may never have children?
Dating in your 40s—has it been worth the emotional effort?
Watching your parents age while not having a family of your own?
Finding purpose outside of a relationship?
I’m financially stable and have a good career, so this isn’t about money. It’s more about the emotional side of life and wondering what gives people joy and meaning when life hasn’t followed the traditional path.
I’d especially love to hear from people who are now in their late 40s, 50s or older. Looking back, what helped? What do you wish you’d known at 40?
Please be honest—even if your answer isn’t particularly positive. I’d rather hear real experiences than motivational quotes.

I’m 40, single, no children, and trying to figure out what the next chapter of life looks like.
I’m not looking for people to tell me “there’s still time” or “you’ll find someone.” I’m more interested in hearing from people who have actually lived this.
How do you deal with:
The loneliness when friends are busy with spouses and kids?
The feeling that you may never have children?
Dating in your 40s—has it been worth the emotional effort?
Watching your parents age while not having a family of your own?
Finding purpose outside of a relationship?
I’m financially stable and have a good career, so this isn’t about money. It’s more about the emotional side of life and wondering what gives people joy and meaning when life hasn’t followed the traditional path.
I’d especially love to hear from people who are now in their late 40s, 50s or older. Looking back, what helped? What do you wish you’d known at 40?
Please be honest—even if your answer isn’t particularly positive. I’d rather hear real experiences than motivational quotes.