r/AskMenOver50

Do you still get wet Dreams at this age?

okay so question to long term married men who have been faithful this whole time

Do you ever face temptation? how do you handle it?

I feel that a lot of men I know say "I'm faithful to my wife I love her the most" but then they are also not so attractive and out of shape (or some say this whilst following a bunch of only fan girls)

Are they only faithful because they have no options?

I feel like loyalty means nothing when you don't have options

But then all the rich wealthy attractive men I know, are all cheaters, the more money they have, the more access to woman. the more woman they lure in.

and this happens a lot more often than people think, They will go out and cheat and sleep with anyone they can and come home to their wives like nothing happened

Are their men who are married who have all the options but remain fully faithful to their wife?
like if their wife is older and a younger beautiful woman came up to you hitting on you on a business trip, and you know there are no consequences and wouldn't find out

would you take that chance?

I've grown up seeing nearly all of my friends moms getting cheated on eventually, it seems like no one can be monogamous long term anymore

are there any guys who have been married for a long time that DO have options and DO have opportunities and have access to all these woman, but choose to stay faithful?

Is there ever any desire to be with another woman?
please explain your own answers, perspectives, stories

I love to hear everyone's opinions!
(no religious answers please)

Just from my observations, yea I see people in good relationships that are both loyal but when it comes to long term, I've never seen a guy desire his 1 woman only whilst having all the opportunity's. and a lot eventually get bored and go for someone new because alot of men like new and variety

Let me know your storys!

Pros ? Cons?
35 women vs 59 year old man?

Have been in love on both parts since the day we looked into each others eyes. He’s my best friend and my best choice. We got imarried after 9 months together but I had known him for 1 years previous. We are at our one year of marriage in September.

Just wondering what people opinions are and what challenges you think we would expect?

I’m 40, single, no children, and trying to figure out what the next chapter of life looks like.
I’m not looking for people to tell me “there’s still time” or “you’ll find someone.” I’m more interested in hearing from people who have actually lived this.
How do you deal with:
The loneliness when friends are busy with spouses and kids?
The feeling that you may never have children?
Dating in your 40s—has it been worth the emotional effort?
Watching your parents age while not having a family of your own?
Finding purpose outside of a relationship?
I’m financially stable and have a good career, so this isn’t about money. It’s more about the emotional side of life and wondering what gives people joy and meaning when life hasn’t followed the traditional path.
I’d especially love to hear from people who are now in their late 40s, 50s or older. Looking back, what helped? What do you wish you’d known at 40?
Please be honest—even if your answer isn’t particularly positive. I’d rather hear real experiences than motivational quotes.

A slim 59 year old woman has a choice of either a face lift (which would make her look 10 to 12 years younger) or a breast augmentation (size increased from A cup - very small, to a C cup - a good average size). She can't do both. What would be more attractive for a man. Be completely 100% honest as this is an anonymous forum with absolutely no offence taken with either answer.

The symptom most men over 40 dismiss as “just aging” — and shouldn’t

Waking up twice a night to urinate. Most men just accept it. “I’m getting older, it’s normal.”
It’s common. But common doesn’t mean normal.
Frequent nighttime urination is one of the earliest signs your prostate is changing. Catching it early makes a real difference in outcomes.
What was the first symptom you noticed but ignored?

From your own experience? Just looking for experiences.

My partner (m 35) and I (f 30) have been together for two years and I have always been very sure that I will never want kids. He has always told me that he was sure, however since he started going to therapy he is not absolutely sure that he doesn't want them and he says it's a maybe.

I'm quite surprised because our families can't help (mine lives in a different country and his parents are over 80) and cannot help, we're not super financially stable and don't own our place. So I never expected this change and I think it might be coming from all his friends having kids.

We have such a wonderful relationship and agree on everything in life, however I am really scared and investing more time with someone who might want kids in a few years and leave because of that.

Men close to 50 and up, especially uncircumcised men. Have you seen changes in the skin on the (glans) of your penis?

More sensitive to abrasions during sex, slight color changes, dryness?

Just an overall look and feeling like it’s not as young, tough and flawless as it used to be?

Thanks

I will be 50 next year and I am interested if some of you changed carrier around this age, which was successful and fulfilling. I am also interested in how you managed the change.

I have an ok job in IT with average income (UK).

I am healthy and look after myself.

However I feel retirement age is constantly changing, probably going to be 70, or over 70 by the time I will have a chance. I also want to do something which makes me proud, meaningful, better income and I could do it long term.

Please share your success story, I am not seeking for generic bs advice or lecture.