I'm looking for advice from an older guy. Too many people my age just don't get it.
How do you deal with coming out to your dad? I know he's going to be disappointed, I just don't want him to hate me.
For those in my place, how did you deal?
This is not a jab, I am genuinely curious: Why do men insist on having sex and go through the trouble of taking the blue pill when your sexual organ is not working anymore?
Isn’t that nature’s signal that you should be retiring from sex?
Would love to know and understand why.
Of your skin at 50s?
I'm 40 and planning for the future. The last few years I've focused on health and also just maintaining appearance. I think if your chasing looking 25 at 50 then you will be miserable your full life. A better approach is too look a good 50 year old.
All through my 30s I was working in an outdoor very stressful job. Our winters here (UK) seriously take a toll on your appearance. I noticed after a couple years that my face aged dramatically. I also noticed the guys who had been their 20+ years looked so weathered and beaten. Their bodies were also a mess ie herniated discs. Joint issues etc. They basically just lived on painkillers everyday.
I stopped that job. I'm more than happy to take a pay cut to maintain my health. I know some people don't see it this way but it's my body.
I started incorporating skin care. My partner is great for all of this and loves doing it lol.
Do you guys take an approach to also keep your skin as good as you possibly can? I have a few friends who say it's 'gay' and only women wear face creams. I completely disagree. I don't fancy looking like a ballsack at 50. My friends already look rough from smoking and booze. I don't touch any of these thankfully.
Just interested if any of you do?
A week ago, I went on a 4-mile hike with my family to celebrate Mother’s Day. It was tough; I struggled more than I expected. I felt like I was somehow ruining the celebration of my wife on her special day with our teenage kids, who kept checking on me as I huffed and puffed along the trail. It made me sad. Having run two marathons, the last in 2017, I never thought I’d feel this way, not at 52. I don’t want to be the out-of-shape, overweight man I am now. So, how can I get back into shape without risking injury? Watching my parents in their late 70s, sedentary in their recliners, glued to mind-numbing daytime TV, scares me. I refuse to let that be my future. How do I change my fate?
Hey, first time first time here.
So for context I’m 35, and among millennials there is kind of a shared understanding that our parents are bad texters. People like my dad (65) and a co worker I’m friends with (60??) have a weird, stilted way of texting that always makes me feel like they are slightly annoyed. Of course, they aren’t annoyed at all- that’s just how they text.
So my question is: Is there a similar understanding with your generation that younger people “text weird”?
Please help a girl out again! Do older men actually, (like FOR REAL) like us petite girlsss?? Or is it just a 🌽 fantasy some of you guys have?? 😭
For reference I’m 5’2 and on the skinner side of what I should be… (under 90 pounds 💀). So like would they be weirded out? Or is this just down to personal preference.
Hello, I (33F) met a 52M a long time ago. It was instant attraction. This never happened to me before. We were both married so nothing happened other than platonic flirting.
He recently lost his wife and I’m going through making hard decisions with my very dead marriage.
After his wife passed we got a lot more closer. I’ve been helping and supporting as much as possible. He has small children that I absolutely adore so I like hanging out with them a lot.
I have imagined my life with him for a long time now… when we see each other is just perfect, but then we text and I absolutely hate him. He makes me feel so extremely crappy and insecure. Is like 2 different people I am dealing with… I am heart broken idk how to deal with him and this situation. For obvious reasons I can’t see him as often as I would like, so texting is usually the daily situation.
I have never in my life even looked at a man more than 5years older, let alone 20!.. my question here is what the heck is happening in his head? What am I doing wrong..
I just had the procedure done.
The stuff I have to drink to clean my plumbing up for the prep was amazing. I just found the set of car keys I lost in 1972.
Seriously though, it sucks, it’s awkward, uncomfortable and that drug is disgusting but men, get it done.
It’s better to know.
I wanted to thank everyone for the supporting replies you made to my post about having to deal with my depression and loneliness. I feel a bit better today and i hope we all have a good weekend
I feel even more isolated than ever before. I don't have many friends any more. I'm male, single, never married, never dated. I hate myself because i feel old, fat, ugly and unwanted. What few friends i have are married with children and good careers. A couple are divorced now. I feel so stuck in my life. I wake up sad every day. I don't have anyone i can talk to. I think my antidepressant medication isn't working anymore. I don't know what to do.
I’m a big fan, only 26 years old though, the time of Bruce was way past the years of my upbringing. But through the internet, I became infatuated with him and his seemingly superhuman feats. I can only imagine how impactful he was in the 70s, 80s, and 90s. I heard the black community took Eastern martial arts very seriously because of Bruce. Joey Diaz joked “you walk out of the theater of a Bruce Lee movie ready to fuck up your dad if he looked at you funny”. I have Bruce Lees biography and in his early years of being an actor there were folk tales about Bruce that spread through word of mouth. So how big was he for you?
Lately I’ve been stuck in that middle ground where I can’t really tell what’s going on.
It’s not like I feel bad all the time , it’s more subtle than that. Just feeling a bit off most days.
My energy isn’t what it used to be. Workouts feel harder even though I’m not doing anything differently, and recovery is definitely slower now. Even when I sleep okay, I still wake up like I didn’t fully reset.
The mental side is probably what I notice most , less drive, less focus, and I’m not as sharp or motivated as I remember being a few years ago. Not depressed, just kind of muted.
I’ve tried tightening things up , sleep, routine, diet, consistency , but it hasn’t really made much difference.
That’s what got me looking into hormones and testosterone in general, but the more I read, the more mixed the opinions seem.
M not trying to jump to conclusions just wondering if others here went through a similar phase before things became clearer.
My brother-in-law is turning 60. When he turned 50, I made a bucket of things like alka seltzer and preparation H with a big sign that used candy bars names in the sentiment.
What can I do for 60?