u/TomsWifeSmells

I keep seeing posts on here about controversial guests that were in attendance at Taylor and Travis's wedding. I thought I'd start a list so people can maybe grasp the magnitude of who she chose to invite to her wedding. Feel free to add to this in the comments!

-Nelly: Accused of rape/sexual assault in 2017;

-Chris Rock: Allegations of rape.

-Hugh Grant: Arrested for misdemeanor lewd conduct with sex worker Divine Brown in 1995;

-Zoë Kravitz: Made inappropriate/suggestive comments in a 2013 interview about then-14-year-old Jaden Smith.

-MGK: Made inappropriate comments about Eminem’s daughter Hailie when she was a minor; also has messy/toxic relationship discourse.

- Lena Dunham: Wrote about sexually abusing her sister/ multiple accusations of racist remarks.

-Brad Pitt: Angelina Jolie alleged domestic/child abuse tied to a 2016 plane incident and later filings;

-Tyreek Hill: Pleaded guilty in 2015 to domestic assault and battery by strangulation involving his pregnant girlfriend; later faced additional domestic-violence-related allegations/disputes.

-Rashee Rice: Pleaded guilty to felony charges from a high-speed hit-and-run crash; sentenced to probation and jail time. Also sued by an ex alleging domestic abuse.

-Druski: Named in a civil lawsuit alleging he participated in a sexual assault during an alleged 2018 incident.

-Xavier Worthy: Arrested on a felony domestic violence allegation involving choking/impeding breathing; DA declined to prosecute, but ex-fiancée obtained a temporary protective order.

-Mike Vrabel: Had a very public extramarital affair with Dianna Russini. Initially lied about the affair but later admitted to it when more photos were published. In April 2026 he went on leave "to seek counseling" but returned to coaching two days later.

UPDATED:

• Steven J. Demetriou: executive of Amentum which had a class action lawsuit filed against it this year in regards to conditions at ICE Detention Facility Camp East Montana. Former executive at Jacobs Solutions - In October 2023, migrant workers filed a lawsuit against Jacobs Solutions, Jacobs Engineering, CH2M, and related entities under the U.S. Trafficking Victims Protection Reauthorization Act citing labor abuse.

• Sacha Baron Cohen: Accused by Rebel Wilson of on-set sexual harassment and inappropriate conduct; he has denied the allegations

• Kareem Hunt: was seen on surveillance footage shoving, bull-rushing and kicking a woman in a Cleveland hotel February 2018. He was subsequently dropped by the Chiefs for lying about the incident and was placed on the NFL commissioners exempt list.

There's years of context here that I can't type out but basically my SIL hates me and has been mistreating my husband and I for the last 4.5 years.

There are so many things that happened (especially the last two years) but I repeatedly made the choice to keep my mouth shut and not express my feelings to our inlaws. She is also their daughter in law so we both married into the family. Yet she has always behaved like she's the queen bee and everyone is expected to accommodate her. This is all complicated by the fact that she's had a relationship with my in-laws for 10+ years whereas I'm a newer addition to the family. She also works directly with our MIL and they moved down the street from them a year ago AND had the first grandchild. I reached a point where I became very resentful because I felt that no matter what she did to my husband and I it would be brushed under the rug by my husband's family. This entire situation with her made me not want to have a relationship with my in-laws even though they really want a close relationship with us. It's just hard to want to be around people that turn a blind eye to their daughter in laws bullying and abuse.

Well a few months ago my MIL told my husband and I that SIL had suggested we do a week long cruise together as a family. My husband and I agreed so MIL booked the whole thing (they pay for everyone when we do a group vacation). Then a few weeks later suddenly the Bahamas Disney cruise doesn't work for SIL anymore. Something about their kid being too young to enjoy it. I totally agree with that assessment. I initially thought it was odd to pay that much money for something he won't really remember or be able to interact with since he'd be under 2 years old. Well suddenly MIL starts suggesting a week long cruise around New England and Canada. My husband and I weren't really a fan of this idea but we were basically told that no one was that interested in the itinerary but it was about getting the family together. SIL/BIL also mentioned to MIL that they don't want to fly with their baby (totally understandable) so we were very limited on where we could go. MIL books that cruise but days later texts us all in a group chat that she couldn't get everyone in agreement so the cruise idea is being scrapped.

My husband and I immediately knew that SIL must have complained because when we complained we were told to just suck it up for the family. Lo and behold SIL eventually texts in the chat that their son will be too young to enjoy the cruise and there won't be any activities for him. There is some back and forth and I decided to be petty and texted "... I thought the point of this was to get the family together?" and MIL replies "yeah I thought so too".

My husband ends up talking to his parents separately and his mom tells him she'll wait a few weeks and then bring up the cruise again to SIL. About a week later MIL let's us know that she got them to agree to a 3 day Disney cruise in the Bahamas for next year. Great.

Well we just visited my in-laws very briefly and they mention that SIL/BIL are going to Key West with her family for a week soon. My husband asks if they're driving there (it's >5 hour drive) my in-laws said they are driving and I could tell my FIL wanted to say more but he didn't. My husband then brought up the fact that SIL drives 3+ hours with their baby every other week to see her family but a 3+ hour flight is too long? Some other things get mentioned regarding the family vacation fiasco and I can just tell that my FIL is clearly irritated by her behavior but doesn't want to say anything.

We later had dinner with my in laws and my FIL says to my husband "you know from a parental perspective it's interesting to see you, both of you, plan ahead and think things through while they just fly by the seat of their pants". I really wanted to laugh. He's never said anything like that about them before so it's clear he's reached his limit with their nonsense.

I'm just glad they're finally acknowledging the obvious. I'm also glad that she's ruining her image within the family all on her own. It is very satisfying lmao

I posted about this family cruise fiasco last week and since then there have been MANY updates.

I ended that post saying that my MIL had completely changed the family trip itinerary from a 7 day Disney cruise to the Bahamas, to a 7 day cruise on a much smaller boat through New England/Canada. My husband and I were very upfront with her that we weren't interested in Canada. She continued to send us itineraries for Canada.

The day after I made my post she texted us that she went ahead and booked a 7-Day cruise to Canada for June of next year. I was pretty pissed off so I didn't even respond for a while. In her message she said "I know this isn't what you guys wanted but the year after we can do something more exciting!". When no one responded she followed up with "Alaska 2028!!!?". That's when I had enough and I responded telling her that it seems like our opinion doesn't really matter anyways.

She then typed up a paragraph about how "FYI- We're paying for everyone..." and basically that is not about the location but it's about getting the family together. Trying to make me look like an ungrateful ass I guess. I doubled down and pointed out that the last family vacation we went on we also didn't enjoy. She said they didn't like that one either but blamed it on the fact that my JUSTNOSILs family was also a part of that trip. I ended up replying with "you said there are drink packages?" lmao.

Fast forward 2 days. She starts a group chat with my husband, me, my husband's brother, and his awful wife.

She texts:

"Looks like it’s too difficult to find place and activity that is good with everyone so we are just going to pull the plug on this one."

My husband and I immediately both said to each other "oh BIL and his wife must have complained". Because when we complained multiple times we were supposed to just suck it up because it's for the family.

My BIL replies to MILs text saying that their son is just too young to do anything on the big boats. By the time we would be going on this vacation he would be just under 2 years old. He then said "what about the place in North Carolina that my wife found?".

Backstory: BIL&SIL got married in North Carolina, named their dog after a county in North Carolina, have vacationed in North Carolina multiple times, and even told my husband and I that we should buy a house in North Carolina because THEY love it so much.

My husband immediately texted back "Please no, I'm in NC every week for work." (We also lived in North Carolina for about 4 months. It's fine... I wouldn't want to vacation there.)

Now here's the hilarious part.

MIL texts back "What are we going to do in NC as Dad doesn’t want to sit around and watch tv"

My husband and I were cackling.

Anyways this goes on for a while as my MIL keeps recommending different Cruise itineraries. My husband (jokingly) suggested a river cruise. SIL finally chimes in and again says that their son will be too young to enjoy a cruise and adds "Don’t let us stop you from a vacation!".

I'm feeling petty at this point so I replied "I mean we have a bunch of vacations planned I thought the point of this was getting the family together".

My MIL then doubles down and sends a novel about how great the week long New England/Canada trip will be. Like she's really trying to sell it. Mentions the fact that no one will have to cook, clean, or do laundry (none of those are even things my SIL does on land) and how her and FIL would be built in babysitters.

SIL replies again that their 1.8-year-old will be too young to enjoy the history of Quebec City, and that there aren't any activities for him.

I don't have a child but I don't know what fucking activities a 2-year-old needs. Like can't you just point at stuff?? Like wow look a lobster!! Ohhh wowww waves. Let's run around in a circle!!

What I don't understand is that my MIL originally said that it was my SILs idea for us to do a Disney cruise as a family. Then the Disney cruise got canceled because they wanted to wait until their son was older. Okay makes sense but I thought it was because Disney Cruises are stupid expensive and he would be too young to enjoy the fun stuff like the characters roaming around and the shows. Now suddenly it's he's too young to go on any boat because none of them will have "activities" for him. Now she wants us to all fly out to North Carolina??

I wanted to reply and ask "So in North Carolina what activities are there for your son to enjoy?". I already know the answer. It was never about her son, she just didn't get her way.

Later that evening my MIL texted again asking if maybe we could try a 3-day Disney cruise to the Caribbean to see how our nephew would handle cruise ships. No one replied to her message.

So I guess the family cruise is officially canceled...? *Fingers crossed*

I'm probably going to sound like an entitled ass here but I don't care. I've spent years trying to be easy going and accommodating with my in-laws and they just viewed it as an opportunity to walk all over my husband and I. They still expect us to plan our lives around my JustNoSIL who's been awful to me for years. They don't place those same expectations on my BIL and his wife. We're always the ones they guilt trip and seem to blame for the deteriorating family relationship.

A few months ago my MIL had reached out to us and said that my JustNoSIL had suggested we do a family trip together on a Disney cruise. My husband and I were a little on the fence about being on a boat for 7 days with his SIL but we figured a Disney cruise ship is big enough that we can do our own thing. About 2 years ago we did a family cruise with them where we were able to avoid SIL and her side of the family. We'd only see them for breakfast but sit at a seperate table and then a few nights we had dinner together. Anyways, MIL ends up throwing some dates out for different itineraries in the Caribbean so we told her what dates we would prefer for next year.

Then last week MIL reaches out to us and says that they're going to have to go with different dates because my BIL might be going back to graduate school and they have to plan around his semester dates. Okay whatever, but why even ask us what dates we prefer if you're just going to plan it around their schedules like you always do.

Cut to today and MIL texts us that they are now not going to do a Disney cruise because they want to wait until our nephew is older. However they still want to do a family cruise with our nephew but now they're looking at New England and Canada itineraries. My husband and I immediately were not interested in this idea. So I text back and nicely stated that Canada is really not something we'd be too excited about and I pointed out my husband goes to Canada for work at least once a month. Instead of listening to any of that she sends us more itineraries for New England and Canada...

She threw out some different Cruise lines she's looking at so my husband and I looked at what they had available. My husband suggested Alaska but MIL said that's too far for them to fly with their toddler. I saw they had a 7-Day Cruise around Croatia so my husband and I jokingly sent her a link. We thought it was funny because everyone else in the family besides my SIL travels internationally. She will not go further than North America and the Caribbean, which means we're extremely limited on vacation destinations because of her. Even when MIL was booking the Disney cruise she made a comment that they only picked that destination because of SIL, as we all would rather go elsewhere.

MIL said the Croatia cruise looked nice. Then she said she's going to look at Alaska if she can get them a direct flight to Seattle. I'm thinking if their toddler can fly cross country to Seattle they can fly to Europe but whatever. (I'm also being a biased jerk here because I've been flying internationally since I was 6 months old.) At this point I'm just trying to point out how absurd it is that we all have to accommodate SILs weird aversion to international travel. Why she married into a family that travels all over the globe, is beyond me. We've even invited my husband's brother to go to Germany with us multiple times knowing he was interested (he was even learning German at one point) but it never happened because of her.

Anyways MIL sends some more links to cruise lines and I realized that she's now looking at booking a week long cruise on a tiny ass ship. Like TINY. So tiny in fact that we would be forced to eat every onboard meal with them because there is one dining room on the entire ship. Then I look at what the current weather is like in Nova Scotia and it's 55° in June.

So we went from a vacation on a giant boat where I could avoid the family while I lay out for a tan, to a minuscule ship where I'll be wearing a sweater in June, MIL will be forcing us to spend every minute together and SIL will be a miserable evil presence lurking in every corner.

No thank you.

I am officially uninviting myself from this nightmare of a vacation.

There is a lot of background here and I'm not sure I can really summarize it well in a reddit post but I'll try. I'm sorry this is going to be ridiculously long.

Basically my maternal grandmother has a history of being a narcissist. Her and my grandfather got divorced like 40+ years ago and neither handled it properly. From what my mother told me my grandmother basically abandoned her children when she lost custody of them in court. She dated and married multiple abusive and sketchy men and basically chose her romantic relationships over her children.

My mom attempted to have a relationship with her throughout the years but I can only really remember like three occasions in my life where I spent time with my grandmother. The last time I saw her was at my highschool graduation. There was a lot going on around that time, our house had flooded the year prior and my mom (after a year and a half of fighting) finally got insurance to cover the repairs. We had moved out during the construction phase and we're renting a house in town. My mom still invited the whole family to be at my graduation even with everything going on. Something had happened (I honestly don't remember) and I went to lunch with my grandma and half sister who was visiting from another country. I was ranting a bit about my mom because of whatever had happened (I really regret it now that I'm older) and my grandmother used it as an opportunity to basically say my mother was mentally ill and should be medicated. I was really taken back because I just felt like that wasn't something she should be saying to me and especially not in front of my half-sister.

After that she was supposed to spend a day with my sister and I and we were really looking forward to it but that morning when I ran into her she said she was leaving with my Uncle. She already had her bags ready and just walked out. I have no idea why she left early.

Well then a few days later suddenly the police show up at our rental. They tell my mom that they've received complaints about our dogs barking non stop. They check on our dogs and can tell that the call might be fake. My mom ends up talking to the neighbors and none of them state they've ever had an issue with our dogs. It was also a vacation area so half the homes were empty at the time. A few days later the police come again and state that this time someone said we've been leaving our dogs outside all day in the summer. So they check on our dogs again and realize that they're not being abused. A few days pass again and my mom receives a phone call from the police letting her know they've received another complaint about the dogs but since they've already came to the home multiple times and didn't see any evidence of abuse/barking they're going to dismiss this and any future calls.

My mom and I are both convinced it was my grandmother. Prior to this my grandmother had told stories about how she's been in ongoing legal battles with her neighbors and their dog. How they'd repeatedly call the police because the dog was barking or whatever. Like this dragged out for years. There was nobody else besides our immediate family that visited during my graduation that knew this was our temporary address. We were only living in that house for 3-4 months while our home was being fixed.

My grandmother has never admitted to any of this and when I've mentioned it to other family members they act shocked that I think she would do something like that. There is no other explanation really.

It gets worse...

For the last few years she has been sending really lengthy and nasty letters to my mom. She usually goes on about how horrible my grandfather treated her, how he was abusive. Yet at my highschool graduation she was flirting with him and calling him "honey", and then she'd pretend it was an accident. They've been divorced for almost half a century and she had a husband at home. Then she started sending packages to my mom filled with old stuff my mom had gifted her when she was younger. Jewelry, pictures, handwritten cards. She'd shoved it all in a box and ship it to my mom stating "oh I don't need this anymore". Like absolutely diabolical behavior in my opinion.

After my graduation she'd message me on Facebook sometimes and I'd reply but I kept it very surface level. Her husband had died a few years ago and she moved to live closer to my aunt and her family. My grandfather had also moved there a few years prior to be close to them so they now live like 10 minutes from each other. At one point I lived a few states away from them so I went to visit my grandpa a few times. I've always had a good relationship with him, I know he's not a perfect man but he's always willing to apologize and I know he has the best intentions. One time I was visitng and I ended up reaching out to her to see if she'd want to grab breakfast. She happened to be out of town so we didn't meet. Then I was about to visit again and my aunt (married to my uncle and lives elsewhere) texted me asking if I had heard about my grandmother. Apparently she met some man and ran off to another state with him. This was right after my grandfather had told me that she was trying to get back together with him but he told her they could be friends but that was it. I just had to laugh about it.

I ended up moving back to the East Coast and a few months later I end up talking to my grandpa and he tells me he just had to help her get a mattress because she moved back and somehow lost all her furniture. I don't know the full story but sounds like the guy she ran off with wasn't that great and she just left him and all her furniture behind.

Anyways, I ended up getting married last year and when I was writing up my guest list I completely forgot to add her to it. It wasn't until I checked it for the 3rd time that I realized. I felt like that was a sign that I shouldn't invite her because I completely forgot she existed since we don't have a relationship. I talked to my mom about it and she was really neutral and just said that it's my decision to make. She said if I do choose to invite her she can be cordial. I thought about it for a while but ultimately decided not to invite her based off of everything that had happened at my graduation and then the subsequent events.

Weeks go by and eventually my mom admits to me over the phone that she received another really nasty letter from my grandmother. Basically she completely blamed my mom for not being invited to MY wedding. She also sent another package filled with stuff. My mom didn't really want to tell me because she didn't want to put a damper on my wedding. I was absolutely furious. Instead of reaching out to me about not being invited she lashes out at my mother as if she put together my guest list. I end up checking Facebook thinking maybe she messaged me on there and I just hadn't seen it because I never check FB messenger. As I look I realize that at some point she unfriended me. I ended up blocking her because I just had a feeling she'd continue to stalk my page even though she unfriended me. I sit on all of this for a few days and then I decide to draft a text to her just being completely blunt and transparent about everything. I told her why I chose not to invite her, that I find her repeated emotional abuse towards my mother disgusting, and I tell her that at this point I don't want a relationship with her. Took me hours to draft up but I finally sent it to her. She immediately reads it and within a minute texts back "THANK YOU!". I honestly don't think she even fully read my text and her response was just the cherry on top. I blocked her number.

This was about a year ago. My mother has also repeatedly told her over the years she doesn't want a relationship with her and she has also blocked her phone number. My mom recently told me she talked to my grandpa and he said that my grandma keeps asking why my mom won't talk to her lmao.

Now:

I was invited to my cousin's wedding and I know my grandmother will be there. I've already rsvpd yes with my husband and I am looking forward to it. It will be the last wedding in our family since my cousin and I are the youngest. BUT I have major anxiety about my grandmother being there and I don't know what to expect from her. I've already told my husband all the lore so he's prepared and knows what the deal is. We'll be crashing at my grandpa's place and carpooling with him so I plan on just sticking around him but obviously I can't control what happens.

My hope is that she respects the boundaries I've set but I think that's asking for a miracle at this point lol.

Anybody have any advice?

Yeah yeah I know I just posted on here but every week it's something with them.

So my husband and I are under contract for a house. We initially didn't tell his family that we were looking at buying a house in a completely different state. On one of our trips to that state my husband ended up telling his mother that we were actively looking at houses. Since then she has repeatedly texted asking for updates on the process.

The home we are trying to buy needs a significant amount of work. My husband did send the Zillow listing of the home to his mother at one point. You can clearly tell from the photos (even though they're deceptive) that the house is in bad shape. We went and looked at the house with a realtor. His mother asked for updates and I clearly stated that the house will need some work.

My husband ends up talking to his parents on the phone without me around. He tells me that his mother once again was trying to offload some of their ugly furniture on to us that we've repeatedly said no to. She also AGAIN mentioned that they owe us a sectional and massive TV because they bought his brother a $12,000 custom bright red leather reclining sectional and an 80 in TV for their house.

We have since had the inspection and some bigger issues were uncovered. We're getting conflicting reports but the roof is in bad condition. There was old water damage that we knew about but there is active mold growing in one area of the house. Only one of three AC units seems to be functional. So the majority of the home does not have AC. His mother knew when the inspection was so she ended up reaching out asking how that went. We both once again mentioned all of these issues and said it will need a significant amount of work.

She then texts me separately and mentions this specific leather furniture store which sells the hideous and ginormous sectionals that they have in every single one of their homes. Then she asks me if we took measurements for furniture...

I politely tell her that furniture is literally the last thing we're thinking about.

This week the inspection period was supposed to end but there were some issues so now we've extended it another week. My husband just scheduled another roofing company to take a look because we're getting conflicting reports about how bad the roof is. Also scheduled for a mold remediation company to give us quotes. Not to mention the sellers are now trying to claim there are other interested buyers even though the house has sat on the market with zero offers for over 8 months. Meanwhile my husband and I are definitely going to ask for additional money off the current agreed to price because at this point it's not even inhabitable until we shell out tens of thousands of dollars.

All of this is going on. His mother knowing that the inspection period was supposed to be over texts us asking for an update. Then she mentions that her and Grandma (who is completely senile and death) have apparently been shopping around for quotes on moving my husband's furniture that's still in their house. Nobody asked them to do this. I even texted my husband asking and he said "first I'm hearing about it".

My husband gives a vague reply and basically says that we've looked into getting a pod potentially so that we don't have to do the 30+ hour road trip. She replies that she got a really good deal with some other company that I've never heard of. Says that if we guesstimate a date it can be modified up to 3 days before the container is dropped off. Then she throws out September as a date.

I'm reading all of this fuming. I've already told this lady four times now that I don't give a flying fuck about furniture. We have told them multiple times that the house is a disaster. We will need to fix the roof, do mold remediation, and then install a new AC unit just so we can be physically inside of the house. At that point 80% of the flooring is going to be missing and multiple rooms will have the walls down to the studs. Like this is a multi-year project and the only thing she keeps trying to annoy me about is fucking furniture.

They've also mentioned a few times now that they want to help us move in. My husband and I again have politely told them no. His father has heart problems and as I just mentioned the house is going to be an active construction zone. When his mother was texting about getting rates from moving companies she mentioned that getting a container will be easier than "...us renting a truck and driving". So she still seems to be under the impression that they're going to show up and move us into this house.

I ended up texting my husband and I told him that I'm no longer responding to her texts because she's driving me up a fucking wall. It's also just bringing up all this resentment and rage that I still have about our wedding. They also tried to infiltrate and move our dates around during that and caused me months of unnecessary stress. I ended up giving into one of her demands after saying no multiple times and then she and the rest of my husband's family completely disrespected us.

My husband still seems to think that she's just oblivious and it's just her trying to be helpful. He mentioned that they're really struggling being empty nesters and I had to point out that his brother, SIL, and their first grandbaby literally moved within walking distance of them last year...

I was so close to crashing out and texting her a novel but I realized this woman does not listen to anything we tell her. I can say no a million times and a week later she's bringing up the same fucking thing.

It's been Non-Stop bullshit from his family every single week since we've mentioned we're buying this house and we already currently live almost 2,000 miles away. I've been low contact and was even no contact for a couple months but I opened the door just slightly and I feel like they're parasites trying to suck all of my peace and happiness out of me.

God please help me.