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I have gotten basically all of my bras from VS since I was a teen. About a year ago after having a kid and losing weight I went there, got measured, they tell me I’m a 36DD, and I buy a bra. I didn’t pay attention when I bought it but the bra is literally glued together. The fabric on the cup is literally glued to the cup instead of stitched. Over the course of the year of owning it the fabric has come unglued and it’s literally hanging on by a thread because I don’t have another bra.

I also noticed with this bra it like swallows my entire boob, there’s gaping at the top of the cup the cup is like super full coverage so it sticks out the top of some shirts.

So I go in last week, get measured and tell the lady what I’m wearing and explain the gaping and she says I’m still a 36DD and shrugs off the gaping. Whatever I grab a 36C that has stitching around the cups and not glue to see if it fits better. The cup fits perfectly. Not full coverage. The girls are plump in their seats. But the band was slightly tight. So I was like no big deal let me grab the 38C which should just increase the band size right?! NOPE! The cups are literally double the size causing the full coverage issue and gaping at the top.

So I left because I just want a bra that fits and feels good. Where do I go now?

Isa Welly is a popular Pilates instructor on YouTube who heavily focuses on beginner workouts with proper form. In the Pilates spaces she’s known for being the first place to start so you don’t injure yourself. She gives a lot of various routines that push you while constantly reminding you to stop if something doesn’t feel right or how to correct if something starts hurting.

I’m looking for the calisthenics/body weight fitness version of that for my husband. The creators he’s following are not emphasizing form and I know he’s going to hurt himself. As well as encouraging to push through all the point and go until complete failure which just isn’t healthy IMO. They are also recommending really advanced moves and saying “just do it” which is just… no.

Any advice is welcome! He’s a complete beginner and a bit out of shape so I want to make sure he’s set on the right path for success.

Essentially the title. For basically a year now my toddler doesn’t sit in the stroller much anymore. We have jeep wagon so she can sit or stand in it. She, like most I’m sure, prefers to walk around herself and cause her own chaos.

However I’ve been working on starting a mom group and I thought a good activity could be walking on a nearby trail together. I used to take my daughter there all the time to walk with my husband but I just don’t know if it’s a possibility anymore. I see other moms talking about walking miles with their toddler in the stroller and I just don’t know how you’re doing it.

ETA: if walks are not working with your toddler what other mom group activities would you recommend doing with or without a toddler?

We are in terrible 2s and I’m starting to go a little crazy. It’s like one day she woke up chose violence and hasn’t stopped. I try to practice gentle/respectful/authoritative parenting. Over the last month I’m getting worn down really bad. I’m exhausted. I can’t take the 24/7 rebellions.

It is every little thing all day and I don’t even have any rules really. I’m so easy going. I let her have autonomy and make decisions etc…

I say “get a bib please” and it’s a huge screaming fit
I say “please pick up toys” and no no no huge screaming fit. (I follow through by making her pick them up)
I say “it’s time for bed” and she’s banging and screaming that she doesn’t want to (she’s been overtired for WEEKS because she refuses to sleep)

I know it’s not manipulative and this is a normal part of development. I’m trying to always hold firm boundaries because I will NOT be a permissive parent. But I’m struggling feeling like I’m being too harsh? But at the same time I’m not belittling her, screaming, being nasty, etc.. (this is how I grew up and is normal for my family) so is a firm strong voice okay?

Please any advice is welcome.

I have a toddler and I don’t have any friends with kids and I’ve been trying to go to library events consistently but still no luck making friends. I’ve joined the Facebook groups but people just don’t show up to play dates.

I recently discovered Pillar Pittsburgh in East Liberty which seems promising but I was wondering if there’s any other hidden groups like that.