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Some people advices me that its better to master one language rather than 3 different languages, but then again when i try to learn it deeply and gets exhausted when i try to read the documentations or asking why behind everything, then people says that just learn enough to able to code and don't try to master it as no one can every master any language perfectly. but then i am not sure what should i do and how exactly to study...

second thing i have say 15-16 hours in a day, do i need to spend all the day studying just one language if that's what other say to me? but i finds it so exhausting and i can't just keep studying one thing only all day...

thirdly i am a beginner in coding and i have just a basic foundation of python and web development and have done some basic projects back a year ago, and after that my college started and i just focused on my academics in the first year and now i m in the second year with computer science branch. even tho i have a computer science branch still we just studied general subjects during our first year and coding mainly starts from the second year. and i am not sure on the part that how many more months i still need to give to python and when can i start exploring more.

most importantly since i already have a basic foundation of coding i have started doing projects from a book called The Big Book of Small Python Project, but i can just make the code working and my code is still not optimised with the best coding practices like i lacks indentations or poor comments and other basic flaws or maybe not the best approach to solve the given problem.

where should i learn these things from?

should i just learn it by seeing the solution from the same book? or should i rather just focus on able to just solve the given question instead of best coding practices?

if you want reference, these are my codes and book's code arranged parelelly for your reference,

book's code : https://inventwithpython.com/bigbookpython/project1.html

my code: https://pastecode.io/s/zgwxaq3o

eg. 2 book : https://inventwithpython.com/bigbookpython/project2.html

my code : https://pastecode.io/s/r3caee8h

another project from book : https://inventwithpython.com/bigbookpython/project3.html

my code: https://pastecode.io/s/pkef2wj1

i am just not sure if i should refer to book to improve my code? or its a waste of time?

also i have a doubt whether i should ask for help regarding doubts in coding over platforms like discord since i have tried that earlier and it's not more than just a waste of time cuz i don't think its the best way to learn to rely on people to that level. you can see how it goes i have attached this link https://discord.com/channels/267624335836053506/1368551114907062352 on the python discord server of my help message on discord back ago which just ends up wasting of time. or should i just keep studying on my own? in that case how else should i improve my code then? and learn the best practices?

i am just not sure how to actually learn coding and i am willing to change anything that i am doing wrong.

Some people advices me that its better to master one language rather than 3 different languages, but then again when i try to learn it deeply and gets exhausted when i try to read the documentations or asking why behind everything, then people says that just learn enough to able to code and don't try to master it as no one can every master any language perfectly. but then i am not sure what should i do and how exactly to study...

second thing i have say 15-16 hours in a day, do i need to spend all the day studying just one language if that's what other say to me? but i finds it so exhausting and i can't just keep studying one thing only all day...

thirdly i am a beginner in coding and i have just a basic foundation of python and web development and have done some basic projects back a year ago, and after that my college started and i just focused on my academics in the first year and now i m in the second year with computer science branch. even tho i have a computer science branch still we just studied general subjects during our first year and coding mainly starts from the second year. and i am not sure on the part that how many more months i still need to give to python and when can i start exploring more.

most importantly since i already have a basic foundation of coding i have started doing projects from a book called The Big Book of Small Python Project, but i can just make the code working and my code is still not optimised with the best coding practices like i lacks indentations or poor comments and other basic flaws or maybe not the best approach to solve the given problem.

where should i learn these things from?

should i just learn it by seeing the solution from the same book? or should i rather just focus on able to just solve the given question instead of best coding practices?

if you want reference, these are my codes and book's code arranged parelelly for your reference,

book's code : https://inventwithpython.com/bigbookpython/project1.html

my code: https://pastecode.io/s/zgwxaq3o

eg. 2 book : https://inventwithpython.com/bigbookpython/project2.html

my code : https://pastecode.io/s/r3caee8h

another project from book : https://inventwithpython.com/bigbookpython/project3.html

my code: https://pastecode.io/s/pkef2wj1

i am just not sure if i should refer to book to improve my code? or its a waste of time?

also i have a doubt whether i should ask for help regarding doubts in coding over platforms like discord since i have tried that earlier and it's not more than just a waste of time cuz i don't think its the best way to learn to rely on people to that level. you can see how it goes i have attached this link https://discord.com/channels/267624335836053506/1368551114907062352 on the python discord server of my help message on discord back ago which just ends up wasting of time. or should i just keep studying on my own? in that case how else should i improve my code then? and learn the best practices?

i am just not sure how to actually learn coding and i am willing to change anything that i am doing wrong.

to be honest i just realised that why i hate studying is sometimes i finds the text in the textbook hard to grab like say i am saying this : "Bro today I literally felt the emotions for the first time and it's so stress relieving." it's easier for me to understand while "Today, I experienced a rare moment of genuine emotional processing, which provided a profound sense of psychological relief." is so hard to get in one go, i mean to say that i automatically stop reading or try to read it beforehand. How can i change this and why i gets overwhelmed so easily. this is just an example but except some books which are too spoon feeded i finds it very hard to grab some tougher books but i want to change myself.

take this another example, someone said me "Reiterating is the best way to learn" and i didn't know what reiterating mean so i googled it up and it said me "to say something again or repeatedly" and i couldn't still get what the sentence that he said mean. so i asked him, what reiterating means and he told me "repetition" and I instantly got the meaning of his original sentence so easily. and it happens with me in every field of my life if someone else explains it to me it's easier while i am not able to read on my own for most of the times, while i see my other friends using these technical terms in their day to day conversations which makes me feel left behind.

also like i feels embarrassed as i am 20 and still not able to get these texts while other friends of my age are able to get it which adds my desire for learning to read academic texts.

what should i do so that i am able to understand anything without feeling too much overwhelmed. what should be the right way of taking things out?

to be honest i just realised that why i hate studying is sometimes i finds the text in the textbook hard to grab like say i am saying this : "Bro today I literally felt the emotions for the first time and it's so stress relieving." it's easier for me to understand while "Today, I experienced a rare moment of genuine emotional processing, which provided a profound sense of psychological relief." is so hard to get in one go, i mean to say that i automatically stop reading or try to read it beforehand. How can i change this and why i gets overwhelmed so easily.

take this another example, someone said me "Reiterating is the best way to learn" and i didn't know what reiterating mean so i googled it up and it said me "to say something again or repeatedly" and i couldn't still get what the sentence that he said mean. so i asked him, what reiterating means and he told me "repetition" and I instantly got the meaning of his original sentence so easily. and it happens with me in every field of my life if someone else explains it to me it's easier while i am not able to read on my own for most of the times, while i see my other friends using these technical terms in their day to day conversations which makes me feel left behind.

also like i feels embarrassed as i am 20 and still not able to get these texts while other friends of my age are able to get it which adds my desire for learning to read academic texts.

now there are these two things one is using mobile for scrolling mindlessly like checking on whos online and whos offline and other thing is like actually doing something on phone like reading something a story or maybe just like talking to people even in phone say instead of reddit scroll and youtube shorts why should i stop doing scroll and why do i think i should stop and blocking scroll will somehow affect anything or its just a pink elephant effect where the more you will resist the more easily you will get attached to that thing, also this is the thing like if i tried even blocking all the apps of mindless scrolls i might find another substitute as a distraction like instead now i might find going for a walk or like eating outside to distract myself but i won't stop procrastination either way. then what's the real solution to this.

Q1. An organic compound having molecular formula C3H5N shows an absorption band at 2250 cm^-1. Predict the structure of compound.

Q2. Two isomers A and B having molecular formula C2H6O show an absorption band at 3500 cm^-1 and 1150 cm^-1. Predict the structure of isomer A and B.

Q3. An organic compound having molecular formula C2H7N shows the absorption band at 3500 cm^-1 and 3400 cm^-1. Predict the structure of Organic Compound.

Q4. the two isomers A and B having molecular formula C2H6O gives one and 3 NMR signals respectively.Predict the structure of isomers A and B.

Q.5 The two isomers compounds X and Y having molecular formula C2H7N gives two and 3 NMR signals respectively. Predict the structure of isomers.

Q.6 A compound with molecular formula C₇H₈ has the following NMR data:
(i) Singlet δ = 2.34, 3H and
(ii) Singlet δ = 7.17, 5H
Give reasons and assign the structure of the compound

Q.7 The two isomeric compound having molecular formula C10H14 give the following 1-H-NMR spectra
Isomer A - \(\delta \) 1.30 (\(9H\), singlet), \(\delta \) 7.28 (\(5H\), singlet)
Isomer B - \(\delta \) 0.88 (\(6H\), doublet), \(\delta \) 1.86 (\(1H\), multiplet), \(\delta \) 2.45 (\(2H\), doublet), \(\delta \) 7.12 (\(5H\), singlet)

Q.8 The compound having molecular formula C9H12 give following 1-H NMR data :
\(\delta \) 2.34 (9H, Singlet), \(\delta \) 7.21 (1H, Singlet/Multiplet. Assign the stonctuere of compound.

Q.9 How many proton signals could you expect in NMR spectra for following compound.

1. Chlorobutane
2. 2-chloropropane
3. Cyclohexane
4. n-butanol
5. acetic acid

please guide on how to solve such questions of spectroscopy. i am not able to solve any of them and i have finals in one day.

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Hey there is this one online friend of me who makes me so anxious. It's like I gets so highly anxious ig they didn't talk for a day and we are pretty close tbh. But I also sometimes keeps up checking whether they replied or if they didn't reply and I really want to change myself but I am not sure how to do this.

Then some people says to acknowledge your feelings and control the urge but I m not exactly sure on how to practise it. Can someone please guide me.

It's like right now it has been like 2-3 days since we really talked and I am not sure what to do about it. Also I am curious in practising acknowledging feelings and how does that works. Also I stay anxious whether should I say them a non pressure message when they are trying to make some distance like "I hope ur doing well" (prolly cuz of studies) but I am scared If my sending of that message will make them more apart and they might see me pushy. Even tho we are pretty close but like since 3-4 days even after her exams has been ended but like she doesn't text me during our usual time and texts after 7-8 hours. And I am not sure what should be done here...

Also some people says to keep your online status off so it will avoid the anxiety trigger at all but some says get exposed to trigger and feel them so you don't get anxious even if they are online. But I am not sure what to do... And it affects my focus and studies.

tl;dr I (20M) get extreme anxiety when my best friend (20F) doesn't reply for a few days, especially now that her exams are over. I’m struggling with the urge to constantly check her status and want to learn how to acknowledge these feelings without being pushy and not sure over sending "check-in" messages that might drive her away.

I struggle to retain information after reading, especially in theoretical subjects like chemistry. I've tried Anki, reviewing concepts 6-7 times even with a 2-day gap, but I still forget things by exam time. I find Anki a bit overwhelming. What's the best approach for remembering things? Is it through visual aids like drawings, or simply understanding the material? What works best? and also is it like i just need to continuously keeps revising or like how to actually revise... Feynman and nothing works and its more of like i already tried revising the subjects but i still fails in retaining that information and its happening continuously. What would work?
and my subjects are more theoretical and i just have problems in them and not in the practical subjects like maths and electronics. i just have problem in remembering things and nothing seems to work for that and i need to focus on this subject too despite the practical subjects. and also it has less of understanding and more of information.

I (20,M) live with my sister(27 married a few months ago) and 100 kms away from my parents house and I m first year university student. All this started after my sister caught me talking with a girl on dc, she told her bf about it that I talk w a girl. Next morning they confronted me about it and told me to stop using dc and stop talking w that girl at all and if I didn't stop they will stop sending me to school. I fought back cuz of my right of freedom, but they told my parents too and then I had to secretly talk w her and I kept telling them that I don't talk w her. They started restricting my sleep time like I can not wake up after 10 pm no matter what and I just accepted. Also I couldn't attend my college that day because my sister fought with me and actually turned the bike back to home while she was driving me to college. Then i said sorry and things went fine.

After months she caught me again. I still talk to her but said sorry to them and said I won't do it again. Now she restricts me even more.

Now everyday she keep telling me to brush and bath daily no matter how cold is it and one day I was half dressed and was dressing without bathing cuz I was running out of time and she said me to bath or she won't let me go to school.

Then like if I stay awake for late because I have an important exam they make sure I don't wake up and she keeps saying me that I still talk to her which I do but they have no clue of it right now but I still feels bad about it since they are not allowing me to freely live.

Since I was sleeping she wakes me up scaring me like she has also made a rule paper for me and have pasted that in my room which I need to follow in which she has written things like I will do this thing right after waking up. Then I will like bath daily and it's not so good of me to not listen to them even tho they are doing it by like giving me some rules but if I someday forgets to do any of the above thing they mentioned, they instantly shouts at me and she calls our mom and tell her that I didn't bath today and make me listen to her lectures every single day.

She also makes me wash my own clothes. While she washes hers and her husband's by herself.

Today I was asleep and she woke me up and I said please I will wake up after a bit of time since it was holiday but then she woke me up after 2 minutes once again saying the same. And then i didn't even fight with her. To be honest I rarely fight with despite whatever she does but she doesn't even notice my this kindness. And then when I woke up she instantly told me that you can not wake up at night after 11 PM and they don't care if I have exam or not. I still didn't fought with her but then she after 2 hours called my mom telling her that his mood is so off and it's because she has stopped him from talking with that girl out of nowhere and then also I need to listen to my mom's lecture once again but I couldn't bear this much of pressure so I left the house and went out in the park and studied here. Then again after a few hours when I get back home and I studied for some amount of time but then I felt sleepy so I was about to sleep but she noticed it and said me that I will not let you wake up at night and I said nothing to her but then again she told me that she won't let me sleep more than one hour now. what? Ok I was stressed again and to my surprise she woke up me after one hour or something and it sounds so harsh out of nowhere and I believe this is one of the reason I stay so stressed.

Also now if I do something on my PC and she instantly asks me wyd and tells me are you still talking w that girl which is so harsh. She monitors my phone without my knowing and tells everything to my mom every single day and I don't thing she will ever able to give me privacy.

I m not sure what should I do with this situation I don't wanna live with her and she has restricted me so much.

I am not sure why she do that if she knows that it hurts me and she should stop that...

Right now I can't talk with any girl, can't wake up late at night, need to do my own work, need to tell them what I am doing, will keep saying me I am talking to that girl without any proof, can't take any break and if they found me laughing she will give me some work to do, need to follow their "rules", and even after doing that if they caught me they his mood is off due to any reason she will fight with me and I don't fight back and I am not sure what and how to fix all this please someone guide.

And she's supported by our mom and dad cuz they both says her to make me do work. Especially my dad, cuz I can manage my mom but I have pretty bad relations with my dad. But regardless both my mom and dad favours her everyday.

I am at the park which is 200m away from the house and she's telling my parents to call me to get back home and it has been just one hour since I am at the park and I can't even stay in the park according to them. My mom has called me 5 times and video called me once and just saying to go back home repititively and without any reason.

The thing is she try to control me and if I don't obey them for just once she makes more strict rules to me and she tries her best to control me like literally she can't accept that I didn't listen to her and controls me even more.

If I refuses the commands, she either instantly calls my parents or tells me that she will not send me to school anymore and she's so rigid to her beliefs that it's so hard to change her.

And all of this is after they know they he has an important exam right now.

Please help me over this situation of excessive control.

It feels like my brain is constantly trying to avoid studying. like somehow i manage to study for 30 mins or 40 mins when i woke up, then i just cant. it seeks any distraction to escape from work. Even if i am just installing an app say, it just see that as a distraction and starts procrastinating. It feels like its constantly trying to exit from studying. i have options like some says that start small and just start for 5 minutes and stuff and maybe try to feel things and thats the way but you know what i work for 2-3 mins sometimes and maybe sometimes not even that and even any mild distraction again takes out all of my time and i m still in the same rabbit loop. even trying to feel emotions doesnt helps me to get out of procrastination. it just gives me relief momentarily which is not enough to beat procrastination and stay commited for hours to the work.

and then some says to eliminate every distraction, but then if i eliminate everything and stays isolated i finds myself going outside of house and eating out and having fun outside which is not same as what i want and that is i want to study.

so i m left with no options and i am not sure what is happening with me and what should i do because it feels like i already know the advices of starting small and feeling the feelings and getting yourself locked in a room but i really don't know what to do right now

i really want to know what to do in this case.