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I’m 18F and never met my uncle. Because when my dad’s brother was 16 he ran away he left a note saying he’s moving away and cutting contact with the family.

My dad and his brother used to be really close it was just my grandparents who they had issues with.

My dad has always been emotional about his brother leaving without saying goodbye to him or where he’s going. A few years later he was trying to figure out where to find his brother. One of his brothers old friends said he’d changed his name and moved to Scotland. (We live in England).

When the Internet became a thing my dad checked if there’s any social media accounts or public Scottish records of his old name and new name online frequently throughout my childhood. He ended up one day finding a death announcement for someone with his brothers name so assumed it was him who had passed away.

He would get emotional about his brother a lot. Recently he got a message from someone with his brothers name on Facebook saying “hey. I just wanted to reach out. It’s been a long time. I don’t really know what to say but I miss you and I hope we can talk.” . My dad didn’t believe it was him and accused my brother and I of pranking him and he started crying saying it’s not a funny joke.

We said it was genuinely not us. He said it must be a scammer then because his brother is dead. I told him maybe it was just someone else with the same name who died. He still didn’t believe it. I then got contacted by my uncle on Facebook introducing himself asking if I’m my father’s daughter. I replied yes I am. He asked if I can get him in touch with my father. I told my father and he was still saying it’s either a scam or a sick joke.

That night he started crying throughout the night and I could hear him talking to my mum saying it’s just because he misses his brother. He doesn’t cry that often apart from when his brothers brung up so I know he really wants to meet him. I explained the situation to my uncle. He said because it was my dad’s 50th birthday coming up at the time he thought he’d get in contact. He asked if he can send a birthday card. I said “No. Come see him in person. It’s the least you can do is give it to him in person. He hasn’t seen you in like 35 years. I think he’ll want an explanation.”

He agreed and on my dad’s 50th birthday I decided to surprise him. My uncle travelled down from Scotland and stayed in a hotel nearby. I took my dad for a birthday meal at the restaurant next to the hotel. We got a table with 5 seats. One My dad,mum and brother. The extra seat my uncle and I thought it would be funny if he came and sat down.

So as planned I told my uncle we were seated he came and found our table and sat down. At first everyone stared at him and my dad didn’t realise it was him and went “are you alright” “are you alright (dad’s name)?” My dad just stared at him confused. And then my uncle said “happy birthday. It’s me (uncles name)” my dad went quiet and my uncle gave him a birthday card.

My dad gave the card back without opening it and walked out. My mother,brother and I went to talk to him and he started shouting at us saying how dare we do that to him. I said I’m sorry it was just me and my uncles idea he wanted to wish him a happy birthday and have a relationship with him again.

He said that I completely ruined his birthday and his brothers 3 and a half decades too late. And if I want to have a meal with the guy who abandoned his brother go ahead but he’s going home. I said we can all go home I’ll let his brother know though.

I went back inside and let him know we are going home but I’ll take the card for him and I’m grateful he came all this way to give it in person.

I gave my dad the card. He opened it privately in his room that night. He put it on his bedside table so I don’t really know what to think.

I’m 18F and never met my uncle (51M). Because when my dad(50M)’s brother was 16 he ran away he left a note saying he’s moving away and cutting contact with the family.

My dad’s always been emotional about his brother leaving without saying goodbye to him or where he’s going. A few years later he was trying to figure out where to find his brother. One of his brothers friends said he’d changed his name and moved to Scotland. (We’re from England).

When the Internet was a thing my dad checked if there’s any social media accounts or public records of his old name and new name online often throughout my childhood. One day finding a death announcement for someone with his brothers name so assumed it was him who died.

Until recently he got a message from someone with his brothers name on Facebook saying “hey. I just wanted to reach out. It’s been a long time. I don’t really know what to say but I miss you and I hope we can talk.” . My dad didn’t believe it was him and accused my brother and I of pranking him saying it’s not a funny joke.

We said it was not us. He said it must be a scammer then because his brother is dead. I then got contacted by my uncle on FB introducing himself asking if I’m my father’s daughter. I say yes. He asked if I can get him in touch with my father. I told my father and he was still saying it’s either a scam or a joke.

I explain the situation to my uncle. He said because it was my dad’s 50th birthday coming up at the time he thought he’d get in contact. He asked if he can send a birthday card. I said “No. Come see him in person. It’s the least you can do.”

He agreed and on my dad’s 50th birthday I decided to surprise him. My uncle travelled down from Scotland and stayed in a hotel nearby. I took my dad for a meal at the restaurant next to the hotel. We got a table with 5 seats.

Told my uncle we were seated he came and found our table and sat down. At first everyone stared at him and my dad didn’t realise it was him then my uncle said “happy birthday. It’s me (uncles name)” my uncle gave him a birthday card.

My dad gave the card back without opening it and walked out. My mother,brother and I went to talk to him and he started shouting at us .

He said that I completely ruined his birthday, and if I want to have a meal with the guy who abandoned him go ahead but he’s going home. I said we can all go home I’ll let his brother know though. I went back inside and let him know we are going home but I’ll take the card for him and I’m grateful he came all this way to give it in person.

I gave my dad the card. He opened it privately in his room that night. He put it on his bedside table so I don’t really know what to think. He’s giving me mixed signals as to whether he wants a relationship with him or not. I feel really guilty for upsetting my dad.

I’m 18F and never met my uncle (51M). Because when my dad(50M)’s brother was 16 he ran away he left a note saying he’s moving away and cutting contact with the family.

My dad’s always been emotional about his brother leaving without saying goodbye to him or where he’s going. A few years later he was trying to figure out where to find his brother. One of his brothers friends said he’d changed his name and moved to Scotland. (We’re from England).

When the Internet was a thing my dad checked if there’s any social media accounts or public records of his old name and new name online often throughout my childhood. One day finding a death announcement for someone with his brothers name so assumed it was him who died.

Until recently he got a message from someone with his brothers name on Facebook saying “hey. I just wanted to reach out. It’s been a long time. I don’t really know what to say but I miss you and I hope we can talk.” . My dad didn’t believe it was him and accused my brother and I of pranking him saying it’s not a funny joke.

We said it was not us. He said it must be a scammer then because his brother is dead. I then got contacted by my uncle on FB introducing himself asking if I’m my father’s daughter. I say yes. He asked if I can get him in touch with my father. I told my father and he was still saying it’s either a scam or a joke.

I explain the situation to my uncle. He said because it was my dad’s 50th birthday coming up at the time he thought he’d get in contact. He asked if he can send a birthday card. I said “No. Come see him in person. It’s the least you can do.”

He agreed and on my dad’s 50th birthday I decided to surprise him. My uncle travelled down from Scotland and stayed in a hotel nearby. I took my dad for a meal at the restaurant next to the hotel. We got a table with 5 seats.

Told my uncle we were seated he came and found our table and sat down. At first everyone stared at him and my dad didn’t realise it was him then my uncle said “happy birthday. It’s me (uncles name)” my uncle gave him a birthday card.

My dad gave the card back without opening it and walked out. My mother,brother and I went to talk to him and he started shouting at us .

He said that I completely ruined his birthday, and if I want to have a meal with the guy who abandoned him go ahead but he’s going home. I said we can all go home I’ll let his brother know though. I went back inside and let him know we are going home but I’ll take the card for him and I’m grateful he came all this way to give it in person.

I gave my dad the card. He opened it privately in his room that night. He put it on his bedside table so I don’t really know what to think. He’s giving me mixed signals as to whether he wants a relationship with him or not. I feel really guilty for upsetting my dad.

I’m 18F and never met my uncle. Because when my dad’s brother was 16 he ran away he left a note saying he’s moving away and cutting contact with the family.

My dad and his brother used to be really close it was just my grandparents who they had issues with.

My dad has always been emotional about his brother leaving without saying goodbye to him or where he’s going. A few years later he was trying to figure out where to find his brother. One of his brothers old friends said he’d changed his name and moved to Scotland. (We live in England).

When the Internet became a thing my dad checked if there’s any social media accounts or public Scottish records of his old name and new name online frequently throughout my childhood. He ended up one day finding a death announcement for someone with his brothers name so assumed it was him who had passed away.

He would get emotional about his brother a lot. Recently he got a message from someone with his brothers name on Facebook saying “hey. I just wanted to reach out. It’s been a long time. I don’t really know what to say but I miss you and I hope we can talk.” . My dad didn’t believe it was him and accused my brother and I of pranking him and he started crying saying it’s not a funny joke.

We said it was genuinely not us. He said it must be a scammer then because his brother is dead. I told him maybe it was just someone else with the same name who died. He still didn’t believe it. I then got contacted by my uncle on Facebook introducing himself asking if I’m my father’s daughter. I replied yes I am. He asked if I can get him in touch with my father. I told my father and he was still saying it’s either a scam or a sick joke.

That night he started crying throughout the night and I could hear him talking to my mum saying it’s just because he misses his brother. He doesn’t cry that often apart from when his brothers brung up so I know he really wants to meet him. I explained the situation to my uncle. He said because it was my dad’s 50th birthday coming up at the time he thought he’d get in contact. He asked if he can send a birthday card. I said “No. Come see him in person. It’s the least you can do is give it to him in person. He hasn’t seen you in like 35 years. I think he’ll want an explanation.”

He agreed and on my dad’s 50th birthday I decided to surprise him. My uncle travelled down from Scotland and stayed in a hotel nearby. I took my dad for a birthday meal at the restaurant next to the hotel. We got a table with 5 seats. One My dad,mum and brother. The extra seat my uncle and I thought it would be funny if he came and sat down.

So as planned I told my uncle we were seated he came and found our table and sat down. At first everyone stared at him and my dad didn’t realise it was him and went “are you alright” “are you alright (dad’s name)?” My dad just stared at him confused. And then my uncle said “happy birthday. It’s me (uncles name)” my dad went quiet and my uncle gave him a birthday card.

My dad gave the card back without opening it and walked out. My mother,brother and I went to talk to him and he started shouting at us saying how dare we do that to him. I said I’m sorry it was just me and my uncles idea he wanted to wish him a happy birthday and have a relationship with him again.

He said that I completely ruined his birthday and his brothers 3 and a half decades too late. And if I want to have a meal with the guy who abandoned his brother go ahead but he’s going home. I said we can all go home I’ll let his brother know though.

I went back inside and let him know we are going home but I’ll take the card for him and I’m grateful he came all this way to give it in person.

I gave my dad the card. He opened it privately in his room that night. He put it on his bedside table so I don’t really know what to think.

He’s giving me mixed signals as to whether he wants a relationship with him or not. I feel really guilty for upsetting my dad. I thought he’d be happy because he has always for as long as I could remember missed his brother.

I’m 18F and never met my uncle. Because when my dad’s brother was 16 he ran away he left a note saying he’s moving away and cutting contact with the family.

My dad and his brother used to be really close it was just my grandparents who they had issues with.

My dad has always been emotional about his brother leaving without saying goodbye to him or where he’s going. A few years later he was trying to figure out where to find his brother. One of his brothers old friends said he’d changed his name and moved to Scotland. (We live in England).

When the Internet became a thing my dad checked if there’s any social media accounts or public Scottish records of his old name and new name online frequently throughout my childhood. He ended up one day finding a death announcement for someone with his brothers name so assumed it was him who had passed away.

He would get emotional about his brother a lot. Recently he got a message from someone with his brothers name on Facebook saying “hey. I just wanted to reach out. It’s been a long time. I don’t really know what to say but I miss you and I hope we can talk.” . My dad didn’t believe it was him and accused my brother and I of pranking him and he started crying saying it’s not a funny joke.

We said it was genuinely not us. He said it must be a scammer then because his brother is dead. I told him maybe it was just someone else with the same name who died. He still didn’t believe it. I then got contacted by my uncle on Facebook introducing himself asking if I’m my father’s daughter. I replied yes I am. He asked if I can get him in touch with my father. I told my father and he was still saying it’s either a scam or a sick joke.

That night he started crying throughout the night and I could hear him talking to my mum saying it’s just because he misses his brother. He doesn’t cry that often apart from when his brothers brung up so I know he really wants to meet him. I explained the situation to my uncle. He said because it was my dad’s 50th birthday coming up at the time he thought he’d get in contact. He asked if he can send a birthday card. I said “No. Come see him in person. It’s the least you can do is give it to him in person. He hasn’t seen you in like 35 years. I think he’ll want an explanation.”

He agreed and on my dad’s 50th birthday I decided to surprise him. My uncle travelled down from Scotland and stayed in a hotel nearby. I took my dad for a birthday meal at the restaurant next to the hotel. We got a table with 5 seats. One My dad,mum and brother. The extra seat my uncle and I thought it would be funny if he came and sat down.

So as planned I told my uncle we were seated he came and found our table and sat down. At first everyone stared at him and my dad didn’t realise it was him and went “are you alright” “are you alright (dad’s name)?” My dad just stared at him confused. And then my uncle said “happy birthday. It’s me (uncles name)” my dad went quiet and my uncle gave him a birthday card.

My dad gave the card back without opening it and walked out. My mother,brother and I went to talk to him and he started shouting at us saying how dare we do that to him. I said I’m sorry it was just me and my uncles idea he wanted to wish him a happy birthday and have a relationship with him again.

He said that I completely ruined his birthday and his brothers 3 and a half decades too late. And if I want to have a meal with the guy who abandoned his brother go ahead but he’s going home. I said we can all go home I’ll let his brother know though.

I went back inside and let him know we are going home but I’ll take the card for him and I’m grateful he came all this way to give it in person.

I gave my dad the card. He opened it privately in his room that night. He put it on his bedside table so I don’t really know what to think.

He’s giving me mixed signals as to whether he wants a relationship with him or not. I feel really guilty for upsetting my dad. I thought he’d be happy because he has always for as long as I could remember missed his brother.