How do you ''use'' Cognitive Empathy in social interactions?
Second post so I am dispensing myself of the tests results (hope that's ok?)
I feel like I have a good cognitive empathy, I can play devil advocate quite well, I can accurately guess why a person would react a certain way and, in some case, predict their reaction.
It has been remarked upon a few times by other, so even if my perception is warped, I do have a good basis at least.
However, I am atrocious at putting that into practice! When I talk to a single person it's fine, I can be thoughtful, smart, sometimes even eloquent.
But as soon as we're three or more... Yikes, words that comes out of my mouth before I can stop it, bringing up special interest that I KNOW put people off, not knowing when to stop myself from talking ect ect.
It's like flunking a test when you ''should'' know all the answers. Maybe it's because of stress but the time I think about the right thing to say the moment has passed and I just spend the whole meal/event reacting to stuff.
(The worst is when people point out my answers are ''pre-programmed'', I know I could be better! I just can't seem to manage to reach it)