How do you ''use'' Cognitive Empathy in social interactions?

Second post so I am dispensing myself of the tests results (hope that's ok?)

I feel like I have a good cognitive empathy, I can play devil advocate quite well, I can accurately guess why a person would react a certain way and, in some case, predict their reaction.

It has been remarked upon a few times by other, so even if my perception is warped, I do have a good basis at least.

However, I am atrocious at putting that into practice! When I talk to a single person it's fine, I can be thoughtful, smart, sometimes even eloquent.

But as soon as we're three or more... Yikes, words that comes out of my mouth before I can stop it, bringing up special interest that I KNOW put people off, not knowing when to stop myself from talking ect ect.

It's like flunking a test when you ''should'' know all the answers. Maybe it's because of stress but the time I think about the right thing to say the moment has passed and I just spend the whole meal/event reacting to stuff.

(The worst is when people point out my answers are ''pre-programmed'', I know I could be better! I just can't seem to manage to reach it)

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u/Trick_Hovercraft_267 — 7 days ago

New here how do you come to term with how you feel about other peoples?

So, I am 24, recently i've been officially diagnosed with ADHD, during the psychological evaluation I was told my way of thinking/personality traits could be explained by Narcissism.

And, that tracks, I don't really feel affective bonds with people, from my point of view they have abilities and caracteristics that make them useful or detrimental to the various situations at hands. You could replace any of them with someone else having those same caracteristics and abilities I wouldn't feel any different.

I want to be depended upon, to be considered highly, to be great, but I don't really care who does it as long as its people I respect. (Secondary question btw, the respect I feel or don't feel for a person is very instinctual and random? Is it the same for you?)

Obviously that's bad, that's a bad way of thinking, that's a bad way of feeling and I want to be a good person.

I just don't think I can change my feelings about others (right?) so how do you come to term with that way of feeling about people?
Any advice? Or method?

u/Trick_Hovercraft_267 — 18 days ago

Make me discover artists to complete my "flesh wall" (TW : Gore art)

Hello people, I recently decided to decorate my appartment and I plan on doing so by putting a bunch of prints of art from different artists on the wall.

Here's the thing, to be quirky (but also because I genuinely enjoy it) I wanted them to all be about flesh or meat in some way. (Especially for the feel and the color)

So who else but servant of the flesh to help me find more artist to decorate my wall?

Here's the Prints and artists I have/plan to have so far :

Red - Lauren Marx

Buck - Dusty Ray (I plan to have more of him because there's a lot of variation about how he presents flesh in his work)

Rika (more known as Bwusagi) they only seem to do commission not prints but with the way they make the body feel like cloth one work of their's WILL end on my wall

Flesh Face - Hannah Comstock

Chancellor Stokes (Another artists, whose style I want but whom I haven't decided which print to get)

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u/Trick_Hovercraft_267 — 19 days ago

We were so close... (Chap 350)

I just want ONE conversation of ego without Ego here to hog the spotlight.
We were so close! So close to have a genuine discussion between the main characters about what the most important concept of this manga actually is.
It could have been such a great way to develop the characters a bit more, maybe start some conflicts as well, explore the relationship between this team without centering it too much on Isagi...

Page 7 Ego comes and immediately hush all debate by spoon feeding an answer... I am tired boss.
Those characters are fun, they are interesting, let them develop outside of the matches.

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u/Trick_Hovercraft_267 — 2 months ago

Show me your OC you aren't sure about the design but don't know why!

This is Uther! He's supposed to look like this, although a bit chubbier, and I don't like it. I don't know why, maybe I just prefer more fem designs? Maybe he's a bit too basic?

REMINDER: It's not about "fixing" our ocs, please, let's just try to identify what's wrong with out designs and let the creator do the changes they desire^^

u/Trick_Hovercraft_267 — 2 months ago

I feel a bit cheated (Spoiler for latest scans)

Let's be clear : I love this manga. I find it very cool, the characters are great, the fights are awesome and the story's fun.

BUT, I feel like it sold me on a promise it didn't keep and I can't help but feel cheated about that.

Do you guys remember when the Kagemori family were suspicious? That there was a real risk with Yuru going to them?

Do you remember when there was ''village radicals'' that Dera cut himself from but still ally himself with the village as a whole?

That's what the Manga sold me on. Tough navigation between who you can trust, who you can't. A constant back and forth of Yuru trust that might break his and Asa's relationship apart.

And then... Most of the Kagemori village traitors are rooted out (or at least it feels like it) the only suspicious character that openly wanted to use the twin is actually a good guy and it was all just a front.

Yuru goes back to the village and everyone wants him to die. There's like one villager on his side the rest are awful.

We're introduced to another village who'se stated goal is to murder the twins with 0 redeeming qualities among them.

It feels like the line between villain and good guys has been drawn without any ambiguity left.

The manga is still great but it's a bit jarring can't lie.

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u/Trick_Hovercraft_267 — 2 months ago

Sayeon is the only one of her Cell 4 who didn't know she was an aberrant.

It's interesting to think about isn't it? And I kinda wish it was explored a bit more.

You got Ryujin with her aberrant mother who left her with the Concordat. We don't know when she developed her aberrancy but there was probably very little doubt in her mind that she'd be one.

Isseul is in the same boat with his dad being from the corp. Heck, he was overjoyed when he discovered he was an aberrant and was free to explore his power before joining the corp.

And finally Min who was drained of his essence as a child and seemingly stuck with criminal aberrants ever since.

Sayeon is the ONLY ONE who has prospect and dreams beyond aberrancy. I find it a shame that the inability of her team to relate to those specific struggles isn't explored more.

(Although, not revealing anything about her is in character for Sayeon so, maybe, we'll have a scene where she opens up about that)

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u/Trick_Hovercraft_267 — 3 months ago