u/Truthful_fly_1140

if you decided not to marry a Sudanese, Why?

I will start so I will take the heat first lol

-بتاعين حنك ورليشين شيبس لا منتهية مافي سيدا

- Unfortunately many are just into bad habits n they think there is nothing wrong with it, like smoking or zina.

- For some reason many expect 50/50 and actively seeking someone who is working

- They can be not the best looking and not financially stable but they think they are the best thing ever, just because their mom think so n just because they are a man.

- Very judgmental like Arabs but without the benefit of being an Arab lol

Now with this, I know there are many good Sudanese men out there, but its either they are married already or hiding or they r just less in current times in general 🤷‍♀️

and thank you, let the attack begin 🤣

Somone gave me hope in Reddit search, so I hope this time the positive of this reaches me.

33 (F)

5’3 52kg

Age Preference: 30–40

Location: Open to relocating based on compatibility, preference of Muslim countries or a minimum of a near by Muslim community

Ethnicity: Sudanese, open to all ethnicities.

Marital Status: Single, no children.

Marriage Timeline: within a year with getting formal after 2-3 months

What I’m Looking For: Someone who values their deen and considers it the only philosophy of life, value Family,Have emotional intelligence and empathy. & can communicate and listen.

Religious Practice: Muslim, Sunni.

Education Preference: Bachelor, a minimum of a bachelor or a well educated individual even if it’s on their own path.

Occupation: Employee.

Children: Yes I would like to have children, I don’t like to specify how many.

Interests:

- Recently go into Travel for slow living

- Running and hike

- ⁠Writing A bit of sociology and psychology esp in the workplace

About Me: Brown hijabi born and raised in Saudi. Practicing raised in a moderate house hold due to Sudanese culture, I am humorous and a well communicator and can be very caring yet I can be angry, but not in a scary way lol as I tend to feel everything strongly which can be a blessing and a curse. i dream of having a job that is more meaningful in helping others which I try to do with my current job, I used to read in Islamic philosophy and listen to Salafi Shaykhs as their videos always help me to realign my path,unfortunately with work I can drift to the corporate modern world too much but am learning how to balance it.

Additional Preferences: I am seeking someone who thinks beyond the usual, and not into the socials pretentious world. and with a curious mind who likes to read and explore beyond what most society desires for. I do enjoy life but with the mindset that only it’s a short journey and we need to make a beautiful peaceful balance with that.

I am a hard worker even tho am not that a career oriented individual as I might seem.i am sensitive and emotional which I don’t see as a weakness rather than a way to try to understand others and be kind where needed. I like to be self aware as much as I can and followed with an action if needed, as I see it in a way that one self only know themselves the best, I hope to find that in my partner too. I want someone that is calm and patient as I kinda tend to be a bit of the opposite.

Please if you are not ok with this don’t pm to save ur time and mine :)

A social with history to be shared to verify your sane and real and single.

We need to align in photos,timelines,relocation before we delve into talking stage. ( if this don’t align we can respectfully and clearly reject, I don’t take things personal so I hope u do too)

Random Thoughts:

If you compromised for someone, there is a high probability that they will think less of you, ”why this person is ok with this? t must be something wrong with them” Now am sure many don’t think like this and understand many can be kind and human because simply they just like the feeling and want to be able to live with themselves.

But have you wondered why many times rude/selfish people are respected more?

Edit:

Thanks to any one who shared their views. When I wrote this, I was not feeling the best. Hence it lacks a bit of logic n the wording is bad lol. 

السلام عليكم،

سؤالي للبنات فوق ال٣٠. إذا جاك اب مطلق بطفلين وتوفرت فيه الصفات التاليه:

- واضح وصادق عن وضعه ووضع الأطفال وسبب الانفصال

- ناضج عاطفيا وممتاز في التواصل ( يكتب برجراف بدل سطر)

- مستقر ماديا

- توافق في القيم الاساسيه وفلسفة الحياة

- مستوعب الأغلاط اللي صارت من طرفه في زواجه السابق وواعي بنفسه وواضح ايش يبغى في زوجته المستقبليه وبيته

وانتي كشخص مستوعبه حجم المسولليات اللي ممكن تصير ومستعده تتقبليها لطبيعتك ونظرتك للحياه

هل مستعده تفكري في خيار زي كذا إذا انتي بنت ما عندك علاقات سابقة سواء زواج او خطبة؟ واذا لا ليه ايش الأسباب؟

وسوال للكل هل في تجارب حولينكم مشابهة ناجحة وايش اهم الاسباب

ملاحظة: بحثت بالصبات الاجنبيه عن هذا الشي والوضع ما يبشر لكن هم ثقافتهم مادية وفردانية اغلب الوقت فأحس يأثر واشوف في مجتمعنا حمدلله في صديقات اعرفهم يذكروا كثير زوجة الأب بالخير والكل مرتاح.لكن الواحد وده يتأكد انه ملم بالموضوع من كل النواحي

السلام عليكم

سوال مباشر إذا في مشروع مهم وكان فكرتك والناس اللي مفروض تشتغل معاهم

- سيئين بالتواصل : عادي يسلموا شي ياخذ يوم في ٣ ايام ، يشوفوا انه إذا بلغوك بتأخير او تاكيد لشي انت مستنيه منهم يعتبر تتامر عليهم

- إذا شغل يخصك يكون في تاخير غير منطقي ومافي اهتمام جاد بالموضوع

- gaslighting all day every day.

من ناحية نفسية كيف تتعامل معاهم بحيث ما يأثروا فيك؟

الحين في اجتماع بسيط لا رد متى حضور ولا تاكيد ولازم الاحق ولا هم ناس جونيور يعتبروا مسؤلين من أقسام

ومافي دعم من مدير مباشر لانه في قرابة

Posting again with different account as I had to delete mine to avoid a bad potential lets just say :”)

Please if you are not ok with this don’t pm to save ur time and mine

- We need to align in photos,timelines,relocation before we delve into talking stage.

- ⁠( if this don’t align we can respectfully and clearly reject, I don’t take things personal so I hope u do too)

- ⁠A social with history to be shared to verify your sane and real and single.

- Please PM with ISO only.

33 (F)

5’3 52kg

Age Preference: 30–39

Location: Open to relocating based on compatibility, preference of Muslim countries or a minimum of a near by Muslim community

Ethnicity: Sudanese, open to all ethnicities.

Marital Status: Single, no children.

Marriage Timeline: within a year with getting formal after 2-3 months

What I’m Looking For: Someone who values their deen and considers it the only philosophy of life, value Family,Have emotional intelligence and empathy. & can communicate and listen.

Religious Practice: Muslim, Sunni.

Education Preference: Bachelor, a minimum of a bachelor or a well educated individual even if it’s on their own path.

Occupation: Employee.

Children: Yes I would like to have children, I don’t like to specify how many.

Interests:

- Recently go into Travel for slow living

- Running and hike

- ⁠Writing A bit of sociology and psychology esp in the workplace

About Me: Brown hijabi born and raised in Saudi. Practicing raised in a moderate house hold due to Sudanese culture, I am humorous and a well communicator and can be very caring yet I can be angry, but not in a scary way lol as I tend to feel everything strongly which can be a blessing and a curse. i dream of having a job that is more meaningful in helping others which I try to do with my current job, I used to read in Islamic philosophy and listen to Salafi Shaykhs as their videos always help me to realign my path,unfortunately with work I can drift to the corporate modern world too much but am learning how to balance it.

Additional Preferences: I am seeking someone who thinks beyond the usual, and with a curious mind who likes to read and explore beyond what most society desires for. I do enjoy life but with the mindset that only it’s a short journey and we need to make a beautiful peaceful balance with that.

I am a hard worker even tho am not that a career oriented individual as I might seem.i am sensitive and emotional which I don’t see as a weakness rather than a way to try to understand others and be kind where needed. I like to be self aware as much as I can and followed with an action if needed, as I see it in a way that one self only know themselves the best, I hope to find that in my partner too. I want someone that is calm and patient as I kinda tend to be a bit of the opposite.