u/UPTH31R0NS

We're in a 90s country cover band. You get the gist, whole lotta action. Cougartown, population 5. Now, we stayed at a Super 8 recently and brought a lady back. Despite her clear making eyes at me (she looked at me twice! two times more than the usual female does) I was given the camera and told to keep the belt on if i wanted to avoid my routine nightly beating.

How do I, a cover band bassist in the greater Chattanooga area, "reality shift" to a timeline where all guitarists get banished to the cuck chair?

At the bar right now and I miss her just as much as I miss my bass. Love the mids control on channel 1. Automix lets me grind my highs on 2 then keep clear, full lows and mids on 1.

You better know I'm rocking some Sabbath on that shit when I get home.

For context, I'm 21 years old. I'm a musician, and because of that, I go to shows frequently at my favorite local venues, one of which is a long-running dive.

I have had relationships in the past. But one thing I (and others in my circle) have noticed? I have very long gaps between committed relationships. Now, this isn't a problem to me at all. My life's value is what I do with it. (i.e. playing bass, reading, engaging with communities that support causes I care about as a feminist.)

Recently, I met someone at this dive venue. I think he's cute, we're complimenting each other's outfits (Hawaiian shirt gang). We get to talking and we seem to have chemistry. Fun banter, a good sense of humor, but one of the qualities I seem to get from him is a lack of genuine curiosity. He was certainly well-educated, he had a well-paying job in the cannabis industry, which as a stoner I find intriguing to say the least lol. He seemed to have a good head on his shoulders. Responsible, stable, funny, and up to that point, he seemed to know how to talk to women on a surface level.

First, I was forward with him about being a relationship kind of girl. I follow it up by dropping in the fact that I'm a feminist, which he takes as an opportunity for debate... Which translates into him picking apart my argument in ways that felt hollow, socially unaware, strawmanned, and in bad faith. I find a polite excuse to leave the conversation as I feel it's both unproductive and draining. He texts me later to apologize for derailing, saying that he hopes to see me again.

I think I did the right thing by immediately making my values clear, then exiting the interaction when he directed it in a direction I couldn't follow. It's not my responsibility to try and convince someone of my beliefs, nor is it his responsibility to try and woo me if I'm fundamentally unattracted to his outlook on life or his approach to dissenting discussions.

What are your thoughts? Do you think this is a healthy way of approaching dating? How have you ladies approached it? What have you learned in the process?

title lol please help me dude I'm trying to get out of my apt and jam with others like a musician should

18+ only, i prefer other ladies but if you're a guy then yeah whatever.

drummers will be prioritized

Title... Even though I play through a mid-heavy amp head (Peavey Centurion '78) I'm sick of pedals baking my mids when I want to be able to manually tweak it to my liking via EQ. I love a vintage growl but it seems to me that because it's a trend to scoop mids for guitar, a lot of bass preamps also do the same.

• budget ≤ $200 (new or used)

• Analog or real tube preferred, open to digital

• Sabbath, Doom/sludge, late '60s acid rock, jam rock

• Using with a warm overdrive, plasma distortion, wah, and modulators