One of the worst responses from fellow teachers: "he is always great for me".
This is a common reply when asking other teachers about students I am struggling with. It is unhelpful, judgemental, unsupportive and does not help or offer collaboration. When I hear this, I think: they are implying the problem is me, they are shutting down the conversation...
Please stop saying that and respond with something helpful, empathetic and collaborative like:
-His behaviour varies, let's figure out why.
-These are the routines I find works best...
-I find that he responds well to...
I started this post to raise awareness of this, especially because I don't think other teachers actually mean it that way.